31/03/2025
Sacred work this. It ends with you.
To the Mom Who Is the First in Her Family to Heal
No one taught you how to do this.
How to regulate your emotions.
How to discipline with love instead of fear.
How to communicate without yelling, punishing, or shutting down.
You werenât raised with tenderness.
You were raised with compliance.
You were taught not to cry, not to question, not to feel too much or need too much.
So now, youâre the one standing in the middle of the storm and choosing to end it.
To break the chain thatâs been passed down for generations.
Thatâs not light work.
Thatâs sacred work.
Youâre the first to go to therapy.
The first to say, âThis ends with me.â
The first to speak your truth, even when your voice shakes.
The first to choose softness over silence.
The first to teach your child, âYou are allowed to feel, and I will still love you.â
And yesâitâs isolating.
There are moments where you feel misunderstood.
When your own family says youâre âtoo sensitive,â âtoo soft,â âtoo much.â
But thatâs because they donât know what itâs like to raise a child with intention instead of fear.
Let them talk.
You are doing what they didnât have the courageâor the toolsâto do.
You are showing your child that love doesnât have to hurt.
That connection doesnât have to come at the cost of safety.
That they donât have to lose themselves to be loved.
You are the turning point in your bloodline.
The root of the new tree.
And one day, your child will say,
âI grew up with peace, because my mom chose healing over history.â
