GDR Recovery Coaching

06/11/2025

A really good, short video explaining ADHD symptoms.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7QUxM0IPdU
🟡 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

Ever feel like your brain has a mind of its own? Like focus is a fleeting thought and keeping organized is a superpower you just don't have? You're not alone...

28/10/2025

A short video explaining some of the science behind gratitude, why it works, and how to make one's gratitude practice more effective.
🟡 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I explore the science of gratitude and how to develop an effective, research-supported gratitude practice.I explain ...

05/10/2025

Here’s a book that I can recommend if you are interested in issues affecting men and boys in our modern age. It’s packed with information, a book that I will read more than once.

Here’s a pretty good synopsis:

"Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It" is a non-fiction book by Richard V. Reeves that explores the challenges faced by boys and men in modern society. The book is divided into three main parts, examining the struggles of boys and men in education, employment, and mental health, and proposing practical solutions to address these issues.

🟢 Key Takeaways:

Educational Attainment: Boys are falling behind girls in education, with women now earning almost 60% of bachelor's degrees in the United States. This trend is alarming because educational attainment is closely linked to future economic stability and personal development.
Economic Challenges: Men are facing significant economic challenges, including declining job opportunities and wages, particularly for those without college degrees. The shift from manufacturing to service-oriented jobs has left many men struggling to adapt.
Mental Health: Men are more likely to struggle with mental health issues, including depression and anxiety, and are less likely to seek help. This can lead to increased rates of substance abuse and su***de.
Changing Family Dynamics: The traditional role of men in the family is evolving, and many men are struggling to adapt to new expectations and responsibilities.

🔴 Solutions:

Reforming Education: Reeves suggests that boys might benefit from being "redshirted"
starting school a year later than girls - to account for differences in developmental pace.
Promoting Positive Masculinity: Reeves argues for promoting a positive and inclusive definition of masculinity that encourages men to be nurturing, empathetic, and involved parents.
Supporting Male Mental Health: Reeves advocates for increased support for male mental health, including more resources for counseling and therapy.

🔵 Reception:

"Of Boys and Men" has received positive reviews for its nuanced and evidence-based approach to understanding the challenges faced by boys and men. The book has been praised for its thought-provoking analysis and bold policy suggestions, and has sparked important conversations about masculinity, education, and economic opportunity.
🟡 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

07/08/2025

🟠 “What do I get?”

1️⃣- A Safe and Collaborative Space
You'll work in a confidential, supportive setting where you can explore your challenges and possibilities with someone who listens without judgment.

2️⃣- A Personalized Recovery Plan
You’ll co-create a recovery plan that aligns with your needs, values, and goals – both personally and professionally.

3️⃣- Tools for Sustainable Recovery, develop strategies to manage:
Triggers and cravings
Relapse prevention
Emotional regulation
Boundary setting
Stress and burnout

4️⃣- Skill Building for Life and Work:
Emotional intelligence
Communication and conflict resolution
Goal setting (long- and short-term)
Decision-making and problem-solving skills

5️⃣- Values and Purpose Alignment
You’ll identify and live according to your core values and purpose, explore personal values that support recovery.

6️⃣ - Increased Self-Awareness
With tools like journaling, mindfulness, you will gain deeper insight into your identity, thought patterns, and behaviours.

7️⃣- Relational and Community Support
Coaches help link you to peer support, community groups, and other external resources to build your "recovery capital" – the inner and outer resources that support your wellbeing.

8️⃣- A Forward-Focused, Empowerment-Based Approach
Recovery coaching is not therapy. It’s about movement, insight, and self-directed change – focusing on where you want to go rather than why you ended up here.

🔵 "What does it cost?"
The cost of hiring a recovery coach can vary depending on the requirements of the client.

My basic coaching contract consists of one free introductory conversation, followed by six focussed sessions, either once a week, or once every two weeks. The average cost of a contract like this with a coach with my qualifications and lived experience is R3000-

However, this is only a guideline, not every client has the same requirement, and specifics should be discussed and agreed upon in the initial introductory conversation.

⚠️While the emphasis is on recovery, I can do general life coaching as well, focused on life management and self-improvement.

📌I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues, to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

05/08/2025

I began a journey years ago, trying to figure out what I was supposed to be doing in life, and in my relationships.

Seemed to me that the harder I tried to be the person I thought I was supposed to be, the more frustrated I would get, trapped in an endless cycle of confusion, miscommunication, conflict, and collapse....

I was wondering how I was going to pitch this book, and I thought I'd let AI take a crack at it. I think the review is spot on.

Book Review:
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover*

🎈- Overview

"No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover offers a thought-provoking exploration of the "Nice Guy Syndrome," a pattern of behavior where men prioritize pleasing others over their own needs, leading to frustration and resentment. Dr. Glover, a marriage and family therapist, provides a roadmap for men to break free from this cycle and develop healthier relationships.

🔑 - Key Takeaways

- The Problem with Being a "Nice Guy":
Dr. Glover argues that Nice Guys are often dishonest, hiding their true feelings and desires to avoid conflict or rejection. This behavior stems from childhood experiences and societal conditioning.

- Becoming an "Integrated Male":
The book encourages men to embrace their masculinity, set boundaries, and prioritize their own needs. Dr. Glover provides practical exercises and anecdotes to help men develop authenticity and self-acceptance.

- Improving Relationships:
By focusing on honest communication and emotional expression, men can build more fulfilling relationships. Dr. Glover emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and understanding in partnerships.

⚖️ - Strengths and Weaknesses

- Practical Advice:
The book offers actionable steps and exercises to help men overcome Nice Guy tendencies.

- Controversy and Criticism:
Some critics argue that Dr. Glover's views on gender dynamics and masculinity are outdated or oversimplified. Others appreciate the book's insights but caution against potential misinterpretations.

- Universal Applicability:
While targeted towards men, the book's themes on authenticity, boundaries, and self-acceptance are universally relevant.

📊 Rating and Recommendation

Overall, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is a valuable resource for men seeking personal growth and self-improvement. With an average rating of 4.04/5 stars, the book has resonated with many readers. However, it's essential to approach the book with a critical perspective, acknowledging both its insights and limitations.

🤔 Who Should Read This Book?

- Men struggling with people-pleasing behaviors or seeking to develop healthier relationships
- Partners and loved ones of "Nice Guys" looking to understand their struggles
- Anyone interested in personal growth, authenticity, and self-acceptance
📌 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, problems with alcohol, life management, and self development.
You're welcome to:
WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

25/07/2025

Coaching and therapy may sound like the same thing, and there is often overlap between the two, however they are different. Some people see a coach and find that they need to do some deeper work with a therapist. Some people see a therapist and find they need a more holistic action orientated approach. Some people may realize the need for both a coach, and a therapist.

Here is 5 reasons why a person might choose to see a recovery coach over a therapist:

1. Focus on practical strategies:
Recovery coaches often provide more practical, hands-on guidance for achieving specific goals, like overcoming addiction or managing immediate mental health challenges. A coach might focus on daily habits, accountability, and actionable steps.

2. Peer support:
Many recovery coaches are individuals who have experienced similar challenges and have successfully navigated their own recovery. This shared experience can create a strong sense of empathy and understanding.

3. Holistic approach:
Recovery coaches might take a more holistic view, addressing various aspects of life, such as relationships, work-life balance, and self-care, rather than solely focusing on clinical diagnoses or therapeutic techniques.

4. Accessibility and cost:
Recovery coaching might be more accessible or affordable than traditional therapy, depending on the coach's qualifications and location.

5. Non-clinical approach:
Recovery coaches typically don't provide clinical diagnoses or medication management, which might appeal to someone looking for support outside of a traditional therapeutic setting.

Ultimately, the choice between a recovery coach and a therapist depends on the individual's specific needs and preferences. Some people might find that a combination of both works best for them.

📌 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues, to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com

24/07/2025

"Why am I doing this with my life?!?"

The importance of developing purpose and meaning independent of outside influence.

When we have a conversation about purpose, goals, values, and what your vision for your life is, it is critically important that these are authentically yours, and not the societal/cultural programming that is all around us daily. We get messages from people all around us, at work, our friends, our families, and even strangers, on what we should be doing with our lives. However, if this is not actually what you want to be doing, it can lead to significant internal discontent and suffering.

🟢One of the biggest sources of cultural/societal programming is the media (including social media), it can shape a person's purpose and values in several ways:

1. Media portrayals can impact how individuals perceive themselves, their bodies, and their place in the world.
2. Media can promote certain values, such as materialism, beauty standards, or success metrics, which can influence an individual's personal values.
3. Celebrities, influencers, and thought leaders can inspire and shape individuals' aspirations, goals, and values.
4. Media narratives can shape individuals' understanding of themselves and their place in the world, influencing their sense of purpose.
5. Social media platforms can foster comparison and competition, potentially leading to feelings of inadequacy or driving individuals to pursue certain goals or values.

🟠To mitigate potential negative effects, it's essential to:

1. Consume media critically, recognize biases, agendas, and potential manipulation.
2. Seek diverse perspectives and exposing yourself to various viewpoints and narratives.
3. Set boundaries around screen time, prioritize real-life connections and experiences.
4. Reflect on your values and purpose, regularly evaluate your values and purpose, ensuring they align with your authentic self.

Ask yourself: “Is this what I want? Or am I only doing this because somebody told me it was a good idea?” Often if you ask someone why they want to do something, or why they believe something, and they can’t give you a proper answer, it’s because they don’t really know, they’ve just picked up the idea somewhere and they’re following it without giving it any further thought.

🟣Authenticity and introspection seem to be an antidote for this; it can help individuals develop their own purpose and values by:

1. Tuning into their inner voice. Introspection helps individuals connect with their thoughts, feelings, and desires, allowing them to distinguish between internal desires and external influences.
2. Questioning societal norms. Authenticity encourages individuals to critically evaluate societal expectations and media portrayals, rather than blindly accepting them.
3. Discovering personal values: Through introspection, individuals can identify their core values, passions, and strengths, which can inform their purpose and decision-making.
4. Embracing individuality. Authenticity allows individuals to celebrate their unique experiences, perspectives, and strengths, rather than trying to conform to external standards.
5. Developing self-awareness. Introspection fosters self-awareness, enabling individuals to recognize when they're being influenced by external factors and make intentional choices.

🔵How can one cultivate and practice authenticity and introspection?

1. Practice self-reflection. Regularly take time to explore your thoughts, feelings, and values.
2. Engage in mindfulness and cultivate mindfulness practices, such as meditation or journaling, to increase self-awareness.
3. Seeking out diverse perspectives, expose yourself to various viewpoints and experiences to broaden your understanding.
4. Challenge assumptions. Regularly question your own assumptions and biases.
5. Cultivate an attitude of humility, it is ok to admit not knowing all the answers, and it’s ok to seek out the answers that make sense to you.

By embracing authenticity and introspection, individuals can develop a stronger sense of purpose and values that align with their true selves.

📌I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues, to improve their quality of life.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678
Mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com
Or send me a DM

15/07/2025

What is Empty Man Syndrome?

"Empty Man Syndrome" is a term, not a clinical diagnosis, used to describe a state of profound emotional emptiness and lack of purpose, often experienced by men, particularly those in their 40s and older, who are single or divorced, lack strong social connections, are unemployed or stuck in unsatisfying jobs, and have few hobbies. This feeling of emptiness can lead to restlessness, a constant search for new experiences, depression, and even alcohol/substance addiction.

Key Characteristics:

- Disconnection from emotions, relationships, and oneself.

- Emotional numbness, difficulty experiencing or expressing emotions.

- Lack of purpose, feeling unfulfilled or without direction.

- Shallow relationships and social isolation, struggling to form deep, meaningful connections with others.

- Emotional Void, a deep sense of emptiness and lack of meaning in life.

- Lack of Purpose, feeling lost and without a clear direction or sense of purpose.

- Unfulfilling Work, being trapped in a job they dislike or being unemployed.

- Restlessness, a constant urge to seek new experiences or changes in their lives to try and fill the void.
🔵 I am a certified recovery coach, I help people who are struggling with addiction, alcohol misuse & life management issues. I also do coaching centred on finding meaning and purpose, and general life improvement.
You're welcome to WhatsApp me on 0646574678, or mail me at gdrcoaching@gmail.com, or send me a DM