Ronélle Hart Psychologist

04/11/2025

Oooh! Telling it as it is. https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17GecN83zu/?mibextid=wwXIfr

30/09/2025

I've been grappling with this notion for a while: the prevailing trauma narrative as an explanation and often an excuse for abusive or dysfunctional behaviour. So here's a reminder: we are born with certain personality traits, which form the very foundation of our experiences in the world. Experiencing trauma is not an adequate excuse for pathology(ie harmful behaviour to others and self) https://www.facebook.com/share/v/19nemNCR63/?mibextid=wwXIfr

19/08/2025

I'm returning to The School Of Life's rich source of how to think about life's issues. Sharing here a post I came across this morning. Worth following them. https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LasRPssVR/?mibextid=wwXIfr

05/06/2025

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/jun/02/therapy-isnt-about-life-hacks-the-best-solutions-are-simpler-and-more-complex?CMP=share_btn_url&fbclid=IwQ0xDSwKuR91leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHqvqe-9G2bzk58GOJnvGyaVdkICv7OgL_Q0QyJ98q2W892B4ZEDUUvSFq7da_aem_4kcmYPY7YbDmkalomdrOAg

What we want is quick, clever fixes. What we need is quite different: the ability to tolerate intolerable feelings, to sustainably change and grow

05/12/2024

I'd say that this is a good therapeutic outcome.

04/11/2024

Ah, a psychologist hero of mine: Irvin Yalom. Wise words.

“Indeed, the capacity to tolerate uncertainty is a prerequisite for the profession. Though the public may believe that therapists guide patients systematically and sure-handedly through predictable stages of therapy to a foreknown goal, such is rarely the case: instead, as these stories bear witness, therapists frequently wobble, improvise, and grope for direction. The powerful temptation to achieve certainty through embracing an ideological school and a tight therapeutic system is treacherous: such belief may block the uncertain and spontaneous encounter necessary for effective therapy. This encounter, the very heart of psychotherapy, is a caring, deeply human meeting between two people, one (generally, but not always, the patient) more troubled than the other. Therapists have a dual role: they must both observe and participate in the lives of their patients. As observer, one must be sufficiently objective to provide necessary rudimentary guidance to the patient. As participant, one enters into the life of the patient and is affected and sometimes changed by the encounter.”
--- Irvin D. Yalom, M.D.