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19/09/2025

[09/13, 10:03] Notas: *Release your hurts 6*

Forgiveness separates sin from the sinner. The sin cannot be undone, but the sinner can be forgiven, released from that bo***ge. Restored!

Very often sin has consequences we have to live with, be it our sin, or the sin of someone else! And living with the consequences of that sin is not always easy, but by the grace of God it can be doable!

Matthew 18:27 NASB
"And the lord ... felt compassion and released him and forgave him the debt."
This is what the Lord has done for all of us! He had compassion on us and forgave us, and we need to have compassion on those who sin against us and forgive them!

Forgiveness is to release, to cancel, to pardon, to draw a line through the debt of the sin, to tear up the IOU of unforgiveness!
If you truly want to, decide to, choose to forgive, God will most assuredly give you the grace you need to do so!

It is your responsibility to pursue peace.
Romans 14:19
"Let us ... make every effort to do what leads to peace ... "
Hebrews 12:14
"Make every effort to live in peace with everyone ..."
1 Peter 3:11b
" ... seek peace and pursue it."

This is not just for everyone else, or even someone else, it is for all of us, including you ... and me.

And forgiveness is not meant only for when someone has hurt you, it's also for when you have hurt someone.
Matthew 5:23-24 AMPC
"So if when you are offering your gift at the altar you there remember that your brother has any [grievance] against you, Leave your gift at the altar and go. First make peace with your brother, and then come back and present your gift."

If they won't forgive you, it's not your problem ... you've done the right thing and they have not. You are no longer guilty!

If you have something against someone you need to go and sort it out with them.
Matthew 18:15a AMPC
"If your brother wrongs you, go and show him his fault, between you and him privately."

Deal with it, don't let it fester and cause something worse!

Don't allow hurt to develop into unbearable pain. Whether its things of the present or past - sort it out!
Whether it's your fault or not, whether you are right or wrong, it doesn't matter. Forgiveness deals with the heart - not the other person's conduct or guilt!

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[09/13, 10:03] Notas: *Release your hurts 7*

Without forgiveness there can be no real deliverance from pain, bo***ge, or even sickness. For deliverance, healing and restoration to take place, sincere forgiveness is required!

This is done by 'fixing up' broken relationships - which is done by forgiving.

If you carry hurt in your heart, you are bound to the past, bound to the person you have not forgiven yet, and the bitterness flows into your present relationship/s. And that's why you can expect current relationships to go wrong.

It doesn’t even help to try to break soul ties with someone you've not forgiven - your unforgiveness keeps you in bo***ge and the hurt that you carry in your soul torments you, no one else!
Your unforgiveness keeps your wounds raw and bleeding!

When you don't forgive someone you keep them in their sin.
John 20:23 NIV
"If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.”

So, your unforgiveness doesn't only bind you to the people of your past, the people you haven't forgiven, it also keeps God from working in their lives.

Ask yourself if you really want God to remember what this person has done to you. Because every time you think about them in unforgiveness, He will remember that you have not forgiven their sin ... and where will that leave you with your sin? Unforgiven!

When Jesus taught us, His disciples, to pray, He made it very clear that deliverance comes after forgiveness:
Matthew 6:12-13 NLT
" ... forgive [me my] sins, as [I] have forgiven ...
And ... deliver [me] from the evil one."

Ask yourself : Have I forgiven? How have I forgiven? Have I forgiven completely? Because that is how I'm asking the Lord to forgive me - just as I have forgiven!

Your forgiveness releases God's forgiveness, healing and restoration for you.

Matthew 6:14-15 NIV
" ... if you forgive ... your heavenly Father will also forgive you ... if you do not forgive ... your Father will not forgive your sins."

So when you choose to not forgive, you remain in your victim status ... by choice!

When you do not forgive you cannot receive forgiveness. Not because God won't forgive you, but because He can't forgive you. In any case, you are not receptive to His forgiveness because you have a blockage caused by your own unforgiveness!

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[09/13, 10:03] Notas: *Release your hurts 8*

Some tips regarding forgiveness :

Forgiveness is not about who is right and who is wrong - it's about your deliverance, healing, restoration, wholeness and peace!

Forgiveness must be sincere, released from your heart and spoken through your mouth - be heard.

You cannot forgive with your mouth and not your heart because then you haven't forgiven at all. Anyway, God sees your heart ...

Forgiveness is an act of your will - a choice. And when you've decided to forgive, God steps in. As you forgive and release the person, God releases you from the bo***ge, the hurt, and healing and restoration begins to take place.

When you've decided to forgive, be specific about who you're forgiving and what you're forgiving them for. Deal with each person, each relationship, individually. And pray for the person, that God would draw them to Himself and heal them! Follow the principle of doing good to those who have abused you ... or still abuse you!

Be careful not to carry a grievance or bear a grudge on behalf of someone else. They've already restored their relationship while you could very well still be angry, or hurting!

If you have really forgiven, you will forget, so teach yourself, help yourself, learn to forget what you have forgiven.

Forgive yourself where necessary and forgive God for what you've blamed Him for. He is not guilty of any of the things we often blame Him for. And watch your attitude towards Him, yourself and others.
Proverbs 19:3 NLT
"People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord."

Nothing that anyone can ever do to you can be worse than what they did to Jesus, or be so terrible that you can allow it to come between you and Him - it will simply steal your joy and your blessings!

Round about this time you may be thinking 'it's easy for you to say, to talk about forgiving, but you don't know what I've been through, you weren't there, you didn't see what was done to me, etc. etc. etc.'
Well, neither were you there when I was going through stuff ... yes, I was also there, but now I'm here ... how did that happen? I learned to forgive!!

Maybe you were blamed for someone's death - don't receive it, it's not true! You can only be guilty of someone's death if you personally killed them! Their death was their choice! So forgive those who blame you, forgive the person who died and forgive yourself for carrying the blame and release yourself from that bo***ge now!

And just as you are not to blame, God is not to blame ... it was their choice - not yours, not God's!!! Never forget that!!

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[09/13, 10:03] Notas: *Release your hurts 9*

More tips on forgiveness :

Remember : forgiveness is not necessarily reconciliation. If reconciliation can and does take place, wonderful! If not, move on!

Don't wait until you feel like forgiving - it won't happen. So ask God for His grace to help you and forgive soonest!

Don't remind yourself about it unnecessarily and don't allow your mind to dwell on the situation, the experience, the person, or the hurt, rather set your mind on positive things, on things above!
Colossians 3:2 NIV
"Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."

Don't listen, or join the conversation when someone else talks about it. Every time you do, you expose yourself to the memory, the pain, unnecessarily and you pull the scab off the healing wound and leave a scar. Forgiving is difficult, and painful, but it leaves no scar!

Don't allow your feelings to negatively affect your attitude toward the person and don't allow your feelings to deceive you. It may feel as though you have forgiven, but some things about them may still irritate or aggravate you, so examine yourself and make sure you have forgiven!

It's easy enough to feel forgiveness when you love the person but that doesn't necessarily mean you really have forgiven them. If you keep on digging up the past, you have not truly forgiven! Make sure that you have sincerely forgiven!!

Also, be careful not to close your heart - but in your heart, let the person, the incident, the hurt, the experience, go.

Unforgiveness toward yourself and the resultant guilt because of something you did is an open invitation to the enemy to come in and steal, kill and destroy in your life - cancel the invitation! Deal with the unforgiveness toward yourself!

Matthew 12:29 NIV
"How can anyone enter a strong man’s house and carry off his possessions unless he first ties up the strong man?"

Before you can bind the strong man in your life, you need to deal with the sin of unforgiveness that gives him a legal right to occupy. Cancel his invitation to your life, bind him and loose yourself by forgiving!

You can cancel his invitation to your life and heal the wounds of your past by simply forgiving everyone you need to forgive!

Forgiveness is the message of the Gospel and is only possible because of what Jesus did for us on the cross and it is a result of what He does in us through His Holy Spirit. It is not merely excusing someone for what they did, it is our human response to God's grace in our lives!

The Lord wants to give you beauty for ashes, but you must first give your ashes to Him!

Your past is gone and the best thing you can do about it is bury it and forget it!

Believe me, life is too short and eternity too long to continue living in the past!

Ecc 3:15c NIV
"God will call the past to account."
So let God call your past to account to Him!!

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[09/13, 10:03] Notas: *Release your hurts 10*

Declare this over yourself and release yourself from the bo***ge and hurt of unforgiveness :

Somebody needs what I have to share
Somebody needs my smile
Somebody needs my encouragement
Somebody needs my friendship
Somebody needs my forgiveness
Somebody needs my love
Somebody needs me!
[You can even put in names instead of 'somebody']

So I choose to :
Let go of the past
Press on into what is ahead
Share what I have
Smile at others
Encourage others
Be a friend
Forgive
Love
Be the person God has created me to be!

And I declare that the consequences of this choice will set me free from :
Hurt
Pain
Sadness
Shame
Guilt
Depression
Discouragement
Friendlessness
Unforgiveness
Lovelessness
And free to be the person God has created me to be!

I declare that as I let go of the painful past, God takes me deeper into His Present and deeper into His Presence!

I declare that I am excited about my future!

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Prayer to release hurts.
Pray it sincerely, meaning it, or rather leave it, because God will not be mocked!

"Father, thank You for Your Holy Spirit Who has shown me where there are still open invitations, through unforgiveness, that give the enemy a legal right to my life and I choose to cancel every one of those invitations right now, in the Name of Jesus!

Lord, I confess that I have undealt with feelings in my heart, feelings of resentment, offense, unforgiveness, even feelings of guilt and shame, not only as a result of what's been done to me, but also as a result of things that I've done to others and things that I've been involved in. Please help me to deal with these feelings once and for all now and to forgive everyone that I have to forgive, including myself. And even You Father!

Lord, please help me through this process of forgiveness so that I may truly forgive and release every person, including myself, who has ever hurt me, offended me, disappointed me, rejected me, everyone that has caused these feelings by their words or actions. I choose to forgive them, and myself, so that we can be free from the hurt, the pain, the bo***ge of the past caused by my unforgiveness and so that my relationship with You will no longer be hindered.

Lord, I now choose to forgive : name them and what you're forgiving them for - deal with each one separately, individually. [Some may come to mind now, others only later. Some may be easy, and some extremely difficult, to deal with - deal with them as the Holy Spirit reminds you, leads you and helps you].

Lord, I not only choose to forgive them, but to release them, sever soul ties with them and loose them, and myself, from the hurt, the pain, the unpleasant memory, the bo***ge of this unforgiveness. I choose not only to forgive, but to make restitution, and to bring reconciliation where possible, as You lead, instruct and help me to do. And Lord I pray that Your forgiveness now be released in their lives, in Jesus Name!

Father, if I have forgotten, hidden or buried certain incidents in my life because the pain attached to it is just too hard to bear, I ask You to intervene so that this hidden, buried, forgotten, unforgiven hurt, this sin, will be exposed to me and no longer prevent me from doing what is right in Your sight and being the person You created me to be!

Lord, may the weight of the burden of these past hurts, pain, offences and unforgiveness be lifted from them, as well as from me, so that we can be free indeed!

Thank You Lord that You do for me what no human being possibly ever can and You now break the bo***ge of unforgiveness off my life as You touch, heal and restore me to wholeness!

Father, above all, I choose to forgive You for every single thing I have ever blamed You for, ever acused You of, ever held against You in Your absolute innocence! I understand now that You are not the giver or doer of bad, or painful things, but the Giver and Doer of all good things, my Savior, Healer, Deliverer, Redeemer and Restorer! Please Lord forgive me for my ignorance and release me from this bo***ge I have been in as a result of my own doing, in Jesus Name!

Father, I choose to make every effort to do what leads to peace and mutual edification from this moment going forward, in Jesus Name, amen!"

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19/09/2025

*Release your hurts 5*

Unforgiveness gives the enemy power to torment you as much as he wants to.

Most people intellectually accept that they must forgive and that they cannot be whole until they do so, but they think 'I'll do it some other time - just not now.'
Have you ever thought or felt that way?
Well, if you have, 'some other time' has come for you.

There is usually more than one reason why we don't want to forgive and give up our grudges, offenses and resentments.

One of the reasons is that we use this as an excuse to feel sorry for ourselves, or get other people to feel sorry for us, because we were the victim, 'hard done by', treated unfairly or unjustly. But you really need to give it up now, stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Just let it go! Forgive now and see that boil of unforgiveness burst open and all the pent-up poison gush out of you - just do it, for your own sake!

This may be your only opportunity, or your last opportunity, because 'some other time' may never come again!

"Father, please help me to accept that 'some other time' has finally come for me! Help me to understand that nothing that anyone has ever said or done to me, compares with how much I've sinned against You! Lord, You have forgiven me, released me from the bo***ges of my sin against You, so please help me to forgive those who have hurt, rejected, abandoned and disappointed me, all those who have sinned against me! Not grudgingly, or half-heartedly, but graciously and completely, as You have forgiven me, in Jesus Name, amen!"

Psalm 103:10 AMP
"He has not dealt with us according to our sins [as we deserve], Nor rewarded us [with punishment] according to our wickedness."

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15/09/2025

Release your hurts 4

Without your forgiveness there is no forgiveness for you!

Matthew 6:15 "But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and wilful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses."

Jesus said if you don't forgive, you will not be forgiven.

And if you're not forgiven, can you still go to heaven?

The Bible talks about forgiving over and over again - we have been forgiven and when we forgive, we receive peace!

Heb 12:14a says we must make every effort to live in peace with all people ...
Col 3:15 says we are called to live in peace with each other ...
Eph 4:32 [MSG] "Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you."
Luke 6:37 "Forgive and you will be forgiven."
Col 3:13 "Forgive whatever grievances you have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

There is no hurt, no pain whatsoever, that cannot be released, healed, through forgiveness because you release yourself when you forgive and that's when your healing takes place!

And yes, to forgive is usually one of the most difficult things for us to do because everything inside of you shouts for revenge ... but did God take revenge on us, on me, on you? No, He didn't, because true forgiveness doesn't seek revenge!

As I said before, forgiveness is not necessarily reconciliation, but you have to correct the relationship in your heart, even if it can't be done physically, for whatever reason!

Unforgiveness is not changed by time, it doesn't just disappear, even if the 'unforgiven' person has already died - whether by accident, heart attack, cancer, or even su***de ... you may even be angry at them for dying ... you nevertheless have to forgive, release them ... not for their sake, but for your own!

12/09/2025

Release your hurts 3

Many Christians are tormented by the enemy because of their unforgiveness, either towards self, someone else, or even God.

You need to deal with it, forgive. Let it go. Stop thinking about it, meditating on it so much - take your thoughts captive!

That thought that memory, is often much worse than what you actually experienced!

Unforgiveness gives the enemy a legal claim on your life. And you can be sure that he doesn’t respect you or anyone who calls themselves a Christian, but walks in unforgiveness, and he will most definitely use his claim against you. On the contrary, you become an open target for him to come in and steal, kill and destroy in your life!

The enemy can hurt you in so many different ways and your personality can be so affected, changed, by these wounds that are not visible but show up in your relationships.

When you have a physical pain you can put on a plaster, or a bandage, take a pain pill or have an operation, but that is not so easy for emotional pain. No amount of medication, alcohol, drugs, sexual activity, or whatever, can remove emotional pain!

What is the price that you are willing to pay for peace, for the ability to relate to other people? Because, after all, if you don't get on with other people, it's your fault, not theirs. Anyway, it's normally our expectations of people that hurt and disappoint us when they don't do things our way, or act like we want them to!

There is no amount of money that can, or will, buy you peace. Peace comes with forgiveness - and along with peace forgiveness brings healing, restoration and wholeness!

When people who have hurt you continually pop up in your mind, reminding you of the hurt, the pain of that experience, actively attack that very thing that keeps you in offense, unforgiveness and bo***ge by replacing the painful thoughts, the rejection you experienced, with thoughts about the kindness shown by these very same people, the good times you shared together, and even perhaps the fact that you once loved each other.

And if you once did love each other, where did that love disappear to? Why? It is never only one person in a relationship that is to blame ... and even if you never reconcile, you must forgive!

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing. Forgiveness is a personal decision to release anger and resentment towards someone who has wronged you, hurt you, rejected you, abandoned you, offended or disappointed you, regardless of their actions or whether they have apologized or not. While reconciliation is the process of restoring a broken relationship, which requires repentance from both parties concerned and a mutual willingness to rebuild trust.

Unforgiveness kills more people than any sickness does ...

11/09/2025

Release your hurts 2

Hurt is what happens to you: the injury, the damage, the rejection, the abuse, etc. And pain is what you feel as a result of that hurt, the suffering, the distress, the trauma, the hopelessness, etc.

To be free, healed, restored, whole, you need to forgive, to release, the people who caused the hurt. Yes, the only way to get rid of your hurt, to heal it, is by forgiving!

So, no, we haven't finished talking about forgiveness yet. In fact, we'll probably talk about it more at this point in time than we have until now, because forgiveness is not a once-off. It is more often than not a process that you have to go through more than once, until the unforgiveness is completely dealt with.

People hurt us, offend us, reject us, disappoint us, again and again, often even the same people doing the same things!

You can't leave your spouse, get a piece of paper that says you're divorced, walk away and think it's over and done ... if you haven't dealt with it, forgiven, released, it will never really be over!

We don't deal with things, or broken relationships by simply saying 'I forgive you'. Have you really? And if you have, why do you still think about it, talk about it, why does it still hurt?

When you have truly forgiven something, you start forgetting it, until it eventually becomes a vague, distant memory.

Everything that has ever hurt you came through a person, be it someone else, or be it yourself.

Do you realise how much pain your hurt is causing you? It's hurting you simply because you refuse to forgive!

But you don't hurt the other person even half as much as you're hurting yourself!

Forgiving someone doesn't mean you're admitting they are right and you are wrong, not at all. It simply sets you free from the hurt, the pain, the bo***ge of unforgiveness!

It is true that forgiveness gets harder as you get older, so the sooner you forgive, the better, the easier it is. Do it, before a bitter root develops!!

11/09/2025

Release your hurts 1

We often hurt unbearably because of undealt with pain. But healing is possible! Freedom from the hurt, the bo***ge, is possible! Deliverance is possible! Mindsets can be changed, renewed! Strongholds can be broken, destroyed! Emotions can be healed! It takes only one action: forgive!
The only way to stop hurting is to forgive those who hurt you!

"Father, You are gracious and compassionate, merciful, faithful and true, just in all Your ways! Thank You that You love me with an unconditional, everlasting, forgiving love!

Thank You for all that You are doing for me, in me, with me, while preparing me for all that You will yet do through me!

Thank You Father that You know my heart, You see and know the pain, the hurt, the brokenness, also the absolute hopelessness! And You reach out to heal me, to deliver me, to set me free and to restore me to complete wholeness!

Thank You that You are in the process of changing me irrevocably and that I will never again be able to be, or want to be, the same as I am now!

Father, thank You that I can approach Your throne boldly in the precious Name of my Saviour and Lord, Jesus Christ.

Jesus, thank You Lord that in my lostness, You show me the way, because You are The Way!
Thank You that you break through all the lies and tell me the truth, because You are The Truth!
And in my state of death, You gave me life, because You are The Life!
Thank You!!!

Father, please open my spiritual ears, my spiritual eyes, my spiritual heart and help me to be receptive to Your Word, Your Truth, and give me the revelation knowledge and the faith that I need to rise above my hurt and to forgive every person that I need to forgive!

Lord, please show me who I must forgive and help me to do it at this time, so that I may deal with that hurt once and for all!

Thank You Father that the time for my deliverance, my healing, from this unforgiveness, this hurt in my heart, has finally come, in Jesus Name, amen!"