YoLi Tantra

04/02/2022

S*xual healing

15/09/2021

*xuality

14/09/2021

It is always just amazing to be part of a journey. To have the honour to be allowed into a person's space and to give.
Through giving I receive and heal.

"Baie dankie Ernie, weereens vir jou uitstekende professionele Ta**ra sessie. Dit doen wondere vir my(vir n persoon) liggaamlik fisies en geestelik.
Fantsties om weer in goeie welstand te wees en net weer te kan konnekteer met jou innelike vrou wees!

21/01/2021

"My husband and I booked a ta***ic massage session with Ernie and his wife after reading testimonials, not sure what exactly to expect. I was nervous about the first session but Ernie explained the whole process patiently. His professionalism made me feel comfortable from the beginning. During the session I experienced sensations I’ve never experienced before. I will definitely book sessions in future and can highly recommend a session with Ernie to any women"

10/12/2020

Just so incredible when clients send you testimonials like this....

My wife and I met in 2003, both 19, both fresh out of school and we just clicked, studied, worked together, never fought, everything just perfect.

Our S*x life was just that...s*x. Like any new, young couple...we did it often, anywhere...was exciting as she was my first proper girlfriend. I never thought much about the future and at that stage, I would not have been able answer whether I thought we'd ever get married or not. We just were "us". And we were happy.

I knew from early on in our relationship that she had experienced s*xual trauma as a child. But that's pretty much what it was...something that had happened she would just live with it. She seemed ok, we seemed ok...we had no issues in the bedroom and we were perfectly matched outside of it.

At some point I began to realize I would marry her and we would just remain the awesome couple we had always been. We got married in 2010, bought a house, had 2 amazing boys and were finally settled. Our s*x life had slown down, as I was taught to expect...we carried on happy.

And then the s*x really started slowing down, I got turned down, all the time. I practically had to beg for it...and when we did it, it was nothing more than a quickie; I'd climax, she wouldn't allow me to make her climax. The emotional side was dead, the passion was dead. I needed the passion to feel "whole" as a couple. Yes, we were still happy, I was still happy...we still laughed together, we still were perfect in every aspect of the word...until it came to s*x. Occasionally I'd be granted an opportunity to pleasure her, to make her climax...and I never let an opportunity like that pass be by. After a session like that I felt complete again, it wasn't just empty s*x. It was passionate, it was intense, it was raunchy. It was heaven. And after each such session, my hope was restored...she'd come around again...maybe start innitiating things, allow me to pleasure her more regularly again. But that never happened. A month would pass, sometimes 2...nothing but the meaningless "me-only" sessions...few and far apart, empty. Like feeding an unwanted animal, and then sending it on its way. It must be satisfied, it must not bother you again for a while.

I was angry
I was confused
I despised her at times. But still she always had the upper hand, she decided when I would get "fed", she was content and my needs were just that....MY needs. I begged her to go see someone, expressed my unhappiness in the bedroom, but she didn't seem truly bothered by it. She never even made an effort to fix things from her side.

Sometime in 2014 I was driving one day and saw an ad for sensual massages, I called, booked and I went for 1, it felt awesome! It was ultimately meaningless but it was much more than I'd get at home. I went again, I went a few more times. I looked forward to the days I planned to go. The girls liked me...I was young, I was in shape. They were thrilled when I booked them. I wasn't there usual type of client and that made them put more into the sessions...there was some excitement from their side. They even allowed kissing and touching...there was an aspect of sensuality which I had been denied for a very, very long time.

I cannot say how long I had thought it would carry on but it worked for me. It fulfilled my s*xual needs whilst I could still remain happily married in all other aspects. But then that day came, the day I got caught out. The day my train derailed...

I She was hurt, she was angry. I felt guilt, IA had regret...but did I regret ever going, or just the fact that I wasn't careful enough. Was I truly sorry...I would not have been able to answer that honestly. I'd been open, I'd been patient, I'd expressed all my emotions. I hadn't gone searching for another women to connect with emotionally, I never tried to strike up a relationship, an affair. I found a way to remain happily married but also happy s*xually. I am not, and never was proud of what I did, but it had happened, and now it was out in the open. But the thought of losing her killed me, I couldn't live without her...she was still my best friend, she was my wife. We still loved each other tremendously.

After the initial shock, pain and anger had subsided...she decided to try working through it. She agreed to not leave, walk away. As painful as it must have been, she decided to give us another chance.

We still were amazing together...we still had that...we hadn't grown apart...yet...

We ended up seeking help from a s*x therapist. (A marriage councellor was not going to solve our problems, there weren't problems with our relationship...apart from s*x...)

We went for a few sessions and it seemed like things were going well. But then, at what would end up being our last appointment with her, she referred us to a friend/acquaintance of hers...a Ta***ic healer. The idea behind it was that seeing as I had gone for massages, she would too. In a way it was meant to even the playing field, but more than that, it was to try get to the root cause of all our bedroom problems...my wife's lack of desire, the blockage in her system. Her childhood trauma had had overpowered her sensuality. She had been stripped of her innocence and could thus never flourish into a beautiful, sensual, s*xual goddess.

Her first session with Ernie Pretorius was not easy for her, she was scared of the unknown, she was scared of the known. She was nervous, she was petrified. But...Ernie had prepared her. He had spent so much time talking, listening, answering questions, giving guidance. She had agreed to go see him, she had taken the first step to recovery, physical, mental and emtional.

After her childhood trauma, she had seen psychologists, from one to the other. But she had never ever been healed.

I took her to the session, feeling 300% comfortable leaving her with him. He was professional, he was knowledgeable, an aura of positive energy flowed from him.

I had this thought though that she'd chicken out, either just before the session or midway through. Thought it would be too much for her...But she didn't, she too felt his energy, his passion for his work. She was comfortable and she was ready for healing.

The session was so intense and had such a huge effect on her. It woke the woman inside her...the sensual sprit trapped inside a sealed vault.

After that session she basically fell asleep when we got home, not before we made love, for the first time in what felt like an eternity. She awoke the next morning, refreshed, smiling, laughing...happy...content.

We had s*x 7 times that week...she was ravenous, she was hungry...she was like a new person. And it wasn't just s*x...it was intimate, it was raunchy, it was passionate, it was the best s*x of our lives. The goddess had been set free!

She went back for another 4 sessions back then and I started going for sessions with Ernie's wife, Tanja.

We have since grown closer than we ever were. We have our ups, we have our downs...but we have each other. We go back from time to time for some realignment...but we are as happy as we could possibly ever be.
Ernie did was many others had failed to do, he achieved the impossible.

Without his intervention, and our introduction to Ta**ra, we would not have made it.

We celebrated our 10 year anniversary recently and foresee many many more to come...

And I had been misinformed, it is not natural for s*x to die down during marriage...the frequency will increase, decline and then increase again. But the passion should remain constant.

Happy husband.

03/12/2020

Early morning Ta**ra session. Such a beautiful experience to be part of a woman's journey into s*xual healing. To witness her growth into her divine s*xuality is such an honour. From dark unfulfilled woman to a S*xual Goddess within her own right.

23/07/2020

"When the woman is too s*xual, the man dies from the eye. But when he learns to be sensual, he generates and produces something wonderful in us men and that causes us to be born again but from the heart.

What you have to try to achieve is that man give you or***ms, many. If they are too s*xual, ej*******on is always premature. If they are sensual, they prolong ecstasy. We men when we ej*****te, we get very tired and as the years go by, much more. Or**sm in men is different from ej*******on. Also remember that women have 3 types of or***ms: vaginal, cl****al and valley. The valley or**sm almost none knows it, it comes after having 10 or more vaginal or***ms almost in a row.
S*xuality and sensuality are different states of consciousness.
Sensuality is a friend of poetry for example. The s*xuality of pe*******on.

HAVING S*X IS A NEED OF THE BODY, MAKING LOVE, A CHOICE OF THE SOUL."

29/06/2020

Experience the healing power and pleasure of a Yoni massage.

YONI MASSAGE – THE DEEPEST HEALING, THE HIGHEST PLEASURE

Yoni Massage is a sacred ritual, an act of worship.
It is an experience of healing, release, awakening, empowering, expansion and transcendence.
And pleasure. Deep pleasure that is often a path to heightened states of consciousness that allows you to experience the unity of s*xuality and spirituality.

Slow, so slow.
Gentle, so gentle.
From the heart.
This is where the healing begins. Healing the hurts of the past, the abuse, the frustrations, the disappointments, the unfulfilled expectations.
Tissue that should be alive, awake and so sensitive is numb, tender or painful.
The Goddess Area is closed to pleasure.

An opening and a softening.
The release of so much, emotional, physical, psychological. Beliefs, limitations, withholds, lies, guilt, shame, embarrassment...

With the softening is the release of pain and the opening to pleasure.
The pleasure that you know is yours by right.
New sensations to discover, deeper, higher, sensitivity. Sensation and feeling that move from your yoni through your entire body, that expand your body, then expand your being. Body and heart connect. Body and soul connect. Then expand more, the boundaries melt, disappear. You merge with a stream of universal consciousness, universal pleasure. In this space so much becomes possible. You see with different eyes. You see so many truths of your life. You see the patterns, the reasons. You see the possibilities.

Yoni Massage is ancient healing, touching on aspects of anatomy, s*xuality and energy that science is slowly catching up with through research.

The healing impact of Yoni Massage is deep, touching so many aspects of your being. In a more direct way it is able to release tension leading to painful s*x, awakens the G-**ot, contributes to making or***ms during pe*******on possible, assists in dryness, helps raise libido, may have a balancing effect on hormones, frees and increases or**smic potential, heightens s*xual response, becomes a vehicle for s*xual meditation, can be used as a manifestation tool...

Healing through pleasure is often a difficult concept to grasp because of the way we see pleasure, the context it's 'meant to happen in'.

Yoni Massage as an experience of safety, a gift that is given in a sacred space can be life changing. As strange as it sounds, it's often not a s*xual experience in the way we generally think s*x should be. It's not about pe*******on, yet it's making love, an gift of love that flows from the hands to your yoni. And for a moment, no matter how brief, you feel so beautiful, so loved, so honoured.

As more women give themselves permission to experience this magic, so it becomes possible for more women to do so. As more women free themselves from the limiting beliefs that prevent the fullness of pleasure, so it becomes possible...

Possible for you...

31/05/2020

Regrann from - Communication is consciousness.
The body is recording signals every moment of its existence and storing them in cells.
Every touch, every kiss, every interaction we have with another energy is a chance for us to become more aware. ... .
🕉️ ... .
Everything is a vibration.
Beyond words.
Beyond language.
Ta**ra is learning to recognize vibrations and come into consciousness.
***icmeditation *xuality101 *xualtransmutation -

21/05/2020

"Yes. All true. Ernie this is without a doubt the best thing I've ever chosen for my body. I cant thank you enough."