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22/02/2026

This is true

21/02/2026

Every so often, you catch yourself gripping things that were never meant to stay in your hands. Old grudges. Failed expectations. The memory of a conversation you lost sleep over three years ago. The need to be right. The need to be liked. The need to control something that has already slipped away. You don't notice the grip until your knuckles ache.

The Power of Letting Go lands in that ache.

John Purkiss wrote this book for people who suspect they are making life harder than it needs to be. Not through laziness or bad luck, but through sheer, relentless holding on. The premise is simple: suffering is optional, and most of it is self-generated. The ex*****on, however, requires more than nodding along. It asks you to sit still, locate the places where you are clenched, and consciously—deliberately, unclench.

The book walks through four stages: presence, releasing thoughts, releasing pain, and surrender. The early chapters on mindfulness feel familiar, almost predictable. But the later material digs deeper. Purkiss argues that much of what we call "personality" is just fossilized pain, old wounds we stopped feeling but never stopped carrying. We build identities around them. We become the person who was wronged, the one who doesn't trust, the one who expects disappointment. And then we wonder why life feels heavy.

The spiritual framing won't work for everyone. Purkiss talks about intuition as a guiding force, about tapping into something larger than the thinking mind. Readers who need scientific citations on every page will find themselves frustrated. But if you can set that aside, what remains is a practical and uncomfortable truth: the thing you are clutching so tightly is probably clutching you back.

5 Brief Lessons from the Book

1. You are not your thoughts
The mind generates endless content, worry, judgment, replay, forecast. Most of it is noise. You are the one noticing the noise, not the noise itself. Watch your thoughts without believing every single one.

2. Feel it to finish it
Unprocessed pain doesn't expire. It lodges in the body and waits. The only way to release it is to feel it fully without storytelling, without resisting, so it can finally complete its cycle and leave.

3. Identity is a cage if you let it become one
You are not just the patient person or the successful person or the wounded person. You contain all of it. Letting go of a fixed self-image frees you from the exhausting work of defending it.

4. You cannot control what you cannot control
This sounds obvious. Watch how often you try anyway. Other people's reactions. The future. The past. Letting go means doing what is yours to do and releasing the rest.

5. Surrender is not defeat
Surrender is stopping the fight against what already is. From that still place, real movement becomes possible, not because you forced it, but because you got out of your own way.

What lingered for me was his observation about control. We exhaust ourselves managing outcomes that were never ours to manage, other people's opinions, the unpredictability of the future, the immutable fact of the past. Letting go, in Purkiss's view, isn't passivity. It's recognizing the difference between what you can influence and what you can't, and dropping the fight against the latter. You don't surrender the effort. You surrender the illusion that effort guarantees outcome.

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21/02/2026

As the country grapples with high levels of sexual violence, a civil rights group warns that the countries latest crime statistics do not tell a full story.

21/02/2026

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20/02/2026

Sustainable happiness requires work—lots of it. And the best way to start is by focusing on routines like these that you can practice daily to make your happiness more reliable and more durable.

20/02/2026

This is very sad and hope this family has received help that they deserve for the smooth grieving process and descent sending off of their loved one.
When you have lost a loved one you become vulnerable and frustrated in general, it gets worse if funeral arrangements are not going well.
May that departed soul rest in peace.

Capitec Bank has responded to an incident in which a grieving family allegedly brought the body of a deceased relative into a branch in Stanger, KwaDukuza, KwaZulu-Natal.

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The 16 Days of Activism have officially commenced. Stop abuse against women and children.

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