TherapyWise Psychologists

03/04/2021

Feeling so blessed! Got vaccinated.

28/11/2020

What a wonderful reminder that healing happens in its own time. It’s not linear and it is not inevitable. We need to acknowledge the role of our protective defense mechanisms and how it helps us survive the unbearable.

I’ve been thinking sooooo much about healing that happens long after the “injury” (so to speak), the wisdom in waiting, and the brilliance and necessity of avoidance. And how as much as there is wisdom there (and we’ll get to that a bit more below!), there are also systemic and societal reasons we might not begin the process of healing until long after the harm has taken place.

There is so much that could be said about this. Here’s what I feel like sharing with y’all today.

It might take us a long time to begin processing traumatic experiences when:
⁍ We don’t yet have the support we need
⁍ We are waiting for the right relational container
⁍ We need to build up more resourcing inside of ourselves
⁍ Our nervous system is prioritizing surviving within this society & system

If something happened to you a long time ago and you are just now processing it, that might not be as weird as you think. That’s some nervous system wisdom (we might be protecting ourselves through dissociation, hyperarousal, or avoidance, just to name a few of the menu options), with a side of our-society-and-systems-aren’t-trauma-informed.

This process can be fraught. It can feel like it’s taking forever. But healing isn’t linear (ugh, I know, it’s the worst, me too), dissociation is protective and wise, and our society and the systems in place just aren’t as supportive as they should be, and as we deserve. We can’t do it alone. We can’t be rushed. And a life that keeps fast forwarding us and asking us to be “fine” in order to survive might mean we prioritize that before we can move healing up the list.

And gosh, even knowing all of this, we are so hard on ourselves! Right? So as much as you can, be kind to yourself. Know you’re doing your absolute best within the systems at play. And trust your timing.

🧡,
Jess

23/05/2020

Boundaries keep us safe! Set boundaries even when it is not well received. It is the greatest gift you can give yourself and you relationships.

One of the big reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re mean, harsh, and controlling. Often, we have these beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. Perhaps someone has even told you that...

10/04/2020

You are not alone! Save these numbers and reach out for help. I’m also here to support you during this time (076) 500-0303.

10/04/2020

You are not alone!! You are not incomplete!!

You belong...don’t doubt that in the time. This lockdown is not a reliable or accurate measure of relationships. We are forced to relate in a bubble, a vacuum that can make us feel disconnected from ourselves and others.

So reach out to friends and family during this time and try as much as possible to be present in the moment. You greatest power lies in this present moment not in the past and not in the future.

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10/04/2020

During this time of uncertainty one may feel intense grief and dispair. The loss of routine, income, freedom of movement and for some purpose brings sadness and fear.

Reach out to your loved ones or seek professional help. For online therapy sessions via Zoom you can contact me on (076) 500-0303 to schedule an appointment.

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

08/04/2020

How your heart and breathing can help you cope during this uncertain time. Wonderful tools provided by the Heart Math team.

Transform your stress into resilience using simple, but powerful HeartMath techniques.

26/03/2020

Online Pilates to help your body and mind during lockdown 💪🏼

⭐My Pilates Online is here for you. Workout with us LIVE this week. Our new online classes are here for you to keep you healthy in the comfort & safety of your own home. We will be sending out a weekly schedule today. Lots of love The My Pilates team
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- Sabrina ( Bring 2 x toilet rolls) 🧻🧻
https://zoom.us/j/341305209 - Megan (1 x scatter cushion) 🛋
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- Linda (a stable chair or bench) 🪑🪑



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