Stephanie Terre Blanche Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist

28/11/2025

28/11/2025

28/11/2025

We often mistake love for the ability to fix, reshape, or inspire someone to become better. But the truth is this—real transformation can only happen from within. No matter how much we love, encourage, or sacrifice, we cannot manufacture depth in someone who has not developed that depth inside themselves.

One of the hardest lessons in love is accepting that potential is not the same as readiness.

Many times, what we’re holding onto isn’t the person as they are, but the *story* we built about who they could become. We fall in love with the glimpses, the maybes, the “one day.” But falling for potential often reflects our own unmet needs—the parts of us that learned to endure, to tolerate, to over-function, or to earn love by giving more than we receive.

When the relationship begins to crumble, the deepest grief is not always about losing the person.
It’s about mourning the hope that they would eventually rise into the version of themselves that could truly meet us where we've been showing up.

Healing requires honesty.
It asks you to stop shrinking yourself to accommodate someone else’s emotional limitations.
It asks you to stop confusing intensity, attraction, or potential with true capacity.

Capacity looks like consistency.
Capacity looks like accountability.
Capacity looks like someone doing *their own* internal work—not leaning on your strength to avoid theirs.

When you strengthen your internal boundaries, something shifts. You begin to reconnect with your intuition. You start to trust yourself again. You recognize misalignment earlier. You stop negotiating your worth. And you learn to choose relationships where depth, effort, emotional safety, and maturity are mutual.

Let this be your reminder today:
You deserve a love that meets you where you are—not where you’re forced to shrink to fit.

28/11/2025

This is the shamanic understanding that the soul is never truly lost, it simply waits in the natural world, held by earth, water, stone, and wind. The imagery suggests that memory and belonging are carried by the elements, preserving what the ego forgets. To “be sung home” evokes the healing power of ritual and sound, where the soul is guided back into wholeness through ancestral practices of remembrance and return.

© DailyShaman 2025

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“In the old ways, the soul does not vanish. It waits in roots, in rivers, in return. It lingers in stones that remember, in winds that carry forgotten names, waiting to be sung home.”

26/11/2025

26/11/2025

Change can be exhausting especially if you're breaking generational cycles.

Burnout is real, but it can be prevented by prioritizing self-care.

This can look like:
🌼Setting work-life boundaries
🌻Resting more (try getting 8 hours of sleep daily)
🌼Doing more of the hobbies and activities you love
🌻Planning time to spend with loved ones

Rest is necessary. Give yourself permission to take a break today.

26/11/2025

How to “include everything coherently and harmoniously in an overall whole that is undivided, unbroken, and without a border.”