12/12/2025
12 December 2025
Facing holiday blues from social media? Here is how to cope the right way
Have you ever heard the expression, “Comparison is the thief of joy”?
This is especially important around the holidays, when individuals spend more time on social media. On social media, there is an overwhelming tendency to compare ourselves to others. When you compare your life to the lives of others or what you thought your life would be, how can you experience joy?
Comparing makes us lose sight of the present and gives power to an uncontrollable circumstance. Even while many people believe that the festive season should be the happiest time of the year, depression frequently rises during this time, and many people dread the holidays. So what is the challenge and how can you cope with social comparisons?
Look at the bigger picture
Firstly, you have to notice when you are comparing yourself to others and nowhere is this easier to see than on social media platforms. When people catch mere glimpses of others’ lives via social media, they start missing the bigger picture of a complete person who has both the joy we see them publicly celebrating and also pain. In modern society, we rarely witness a realistic image of actual life because everything is glamorised and vulnerability is rarely displayed. When our lives are not as ideal as others’ appear to be, it becomes simple for us to construct narratives about what our lives should be and to develop a persistent sense of dissatisfaction.
Connect with your values
A thoughtful approach to social media use is grounded in values. Consider why you are using social media when you log in. Maybe you are checking in to learn something, to share in the happiness of others, or to stay in touch with loved ones. In general, social media apps can support you in upholding your moral principles, but this is less likely if you use them to escape reality. Consider whether you can be in the present while utilising them. Be mindful of whether it is fostering a negative mind-train that compares and leads to depressive thoughts, or if it is assisting you in recognizing the value of being connected.
Challenge unhelpful thoughts
If using social media platforms makes you feel depressed or anxious, you have the power to defuse these unhelpful thoughts. You can challenge them, unhook from them and detach from such thoughts before they consume you. Additionally, you may choose to use these tools less until you feel you are fulfilling your values of connection without negative repercussions.
Go offline
Spend some time offline reflecting on what you consider a worthwhile existence. Richer, more attractive, intelligent, and successful people will always exist, but even they face difficulties in their own lives. Comparative competition is an unwinnable game. Can you focus on what you truly want for yourself and let go of the rope in the tug-of-war of wanting to be like others?
The new year is right around the corner, this is a great time to become aware of your struggle with social comparison, your feelings of loneliness and your stressful thinking patterns. You can learn to develop a transcendent sense of self, live in the present, and take action guided by your deepest values to create a rich and meaningful life.
Ref: www.lyrahealth.com www.uasa.org.za