23/04/2026
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Healing has an ‘expiry’ date.
It’s been a time… What started as 4 days of bronchitis turned into 6, 7, 8… and for a minute, it looked like something a lot more serious. (It was but also fixable and a kazillion rand later 🙃)
Here’s the thing about being forced to slow down… your body stops, but your mind tends to go rogue. Quite scary how quickly your brain can distort reality but at the same time reveal truths you don’t usually have access to when life is moving at your normal pace.
We already know that my ‘normal pace’ is not normal.
This pic? A-type in her natural habitat. Controlled. Focused. Performing. And looks like I’ve got s**t handled… right? I do, but that’s only 1 layer sorted 🤫
So of course… I went down the rabbit holes. News. Social media. Real life. And gees, some things right now are just too blatant to spiritually bypass.
10km from where I live, a bumper bashing that ended in a fatal shooting with a father dying… in front of his two kids.
A global Telegram group called “Rape School” teaching men how to drug and violate their own wives!!
And of-course … war, oppression, people justifying cruelty in the name of things they don’t even fully understand.
I’m astounded, and quite literally, sickened 🤮
And before everyone says “hurt people hurt people”… we know they do and every evil has a backstory. Indoctrination. Trauma. Conditioning. It’s obvious something is broken long before the act itself.
But here’s the uncomfortable part no one really wants to hear:
At what point does the explanation stop being a reason and start becoming an excuse?
We can’t forever outsource responsibility to our parents, our childhood, our circumstances.
At some point, you’re no longer the wounded child. You are the adult making decisions.
And not all pain deserves to be honoured with understanding. Some of it needs to be met with accountability.
Whether you like it or not, healing is not just about understanding where it came from… it’s about choosing who you are despite it.
So ask yourself: Where in your life are you still explaining your behavior, instead of taking responsibility for it?
Think about it.
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