08/01/2025
Reposting from a friend, Greenway.
So many lessons learned
A good piece for all the strong women who need to hear this ♡
Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory? The term, coined by Cassie Phillips, is rooted in her powerful poem of the same name and has gained significant attention for its profound message. The more I grow the more I embrace “Let Them” in my own life and relationships.
“This was a tough lesson for me to learn. I used to tolerate so much because I feared losing people. But over time, I realized that anyone who truly values me would never treat me that way. Be careful not to confuse being understanding and forgiving with accepting disrespect
Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.
The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you - they simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you - they did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. The end. Let them go.
There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.
The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of accountability was the closure. The lack of honesty was the closure. Let them go.
Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.
You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.
You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.
It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.
If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.
Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.
Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.
Let them go.
✨ Cassie Phillips creator and author of the poem and coined term “Let Them” and Mel Robbins now has a book correlated to the Poem.
