19/02/2026
Let’s address the elephant in the room.
Many parents are worried about two things when they hear that girls are sharing a single bed in boarding school: hygiene and the fear of “lesbianism promotion.”
Let’s be honest and get this straight. No one can force your child into any sexual orientation. Influence is real, yes, but coercion into identity is not. Values, conviction, and personal belief systems are not imposed overnight. They are formed over years at home.
The real question is not, “Who is she sharing a bed with?”
The real question is, “What foundation have I built in my child?”
If your child is morally grounded, spiritually rooted, and confident in who they are, proximity will not change their identity. Exposure is not conversion. Sharing space is not sharing values, period.
As parents, our assignment is bigger than monitoring beds. It is raising children who:
✅️Understand their moral compass
✅️Are grounded in the Word of God
✅️Have the fear of the Lord which is the beginning of wisdom
✅️Are filled with conviction, not confusion
Now, about hygiene, that one is practical, not spiritual.
If I found myself in such a predicament, I would solve it like the problem solver I am😅. Ensure my bed mate;
✔ Baths twice a day
✔ Roll-on is not optional
✔ Separate beddings
✔ Head-to-toe sleeping arrangement (my legs where her head is and vice versa)
✔ Clear boundaries and mutual respect
Sharing a bed is not ideal. Let’s be clear about this. But when ideal situations are unavailable, mature minds create workable solutions. Boarding school is not a five-star hotel. It is a training ground for resilience, adaptability, and discipline. Sometimes the discomfort is part of the growth.
Let’s raise children who are strong in character, not fragile in circumstance. Children who can say “no” when they mean no. Children who respect themselves and others.
At the end of the day, parenting is not about eliminating every uncomfortable situation.
It is about preparing our children to stand firm in any situation.
And yes, I sure remain a certified problem solver🤣