28/01/2026
Sick husbands, are nursed by wives. Sick wives, are nursed by female relatives. Why?
But when a daughter nurses her sick father they ask where is the wife?
Africa abuses its women. They expect wives to do "dirty jobs" and men "smart jobs". There's selective expectations
In Africa, 99.9% of caregivers in hospital bedsides of sick husbands, you find wives. But bedsides of sick wives, you find female relatives. Why? Even when the woman is employed she gets time off, but husbands don't.why?
Even home when husbands are sick women get time to nurse their husbands because society expects that. But when a wife is sick men avoid responsibility. They'll get a female relatives
Again bedsides of sick children it's mothers there, not husbands. Why?
I have been left bemused alongside my dad, mom and the entire family over people asking the question where is Mrs moyo when Iam the one as "daughter for that matter" caring and nursing my ailing dad. Because they expect mom to be the one doing the hard labor of care even when she's not well herself, something that I have posted about already
It's very clear in Africa women are Instruments of abuse. They're expected to do anything and handle everything, while men are selective in what they can handle
When I care for my sick dad out of unavoidable necessity, people expect his wife, regardless of her state, including her chronic medical issues such as back pain and deep vein thrombosis ( DVT) to be there for him? What are children for?
This is the problem my dad has been dealing with and fighting in his life under the African Woman Foundation, of a society that expects wives and women to be confined to doing certain things, while husbands and men exclude themselves, believing they are too smart for certain things. They expect women to do "dirty jobs" while men are expected to do only "smart jobs".
Africa is a cruel society, according to my dad Joseph Moyo. were " the valued of women is in s*x and child bearing" something my dad has always said and fought against in his work
On Africa even tears of widows have counted so to say to judge her level of grief including how she dresses. If she sheds less tears, she is accused of being insincere with her grief. It's all about the abuse of women
I am honored and privileged to belong to a family were we are flowing in a different direction. It's about US and our showing up for each other in the family, not what society expects. What society expects is secondary to what God expects. Right now, iam showing up for my sick dad. This is what matters. I thank my dad for his confidence in me and raising us differently
I am very reluctant to address side issues because I have a father, my patient, who is on his deathbed. A father, whom I am fighting alongside to raise money for travel to USA for vital medical procedures. But, I address this for now in as far as it relates to my dad and my 24/7 care for him
We are in Africa. We are an African family. But we live differently as a family
I am my dad's nurse, caregiver and es**rt sky nurse from 2015. This, I do, with a painful heart, while daily witnessing my dad's deterioration and vulnerability
Please Africa change, change for the better. Don't abuse women and girls
