21/12/2025
When I bathed my Dad in south Africa
Few weeks ago I posted something on my Facebook about one of my most difficult experiences in my life with my dad outside the country in south Africa, while on our way to the united states of America for treatment at Mayo clinic at the time at their Jacksonville campus in the State of Florida
However, because I don't check the comments section, it was brought to my attention by some good Samaritans who monitor the comments section pro-bono to spot any criminality that would be in violation of the cyber security crimes act of 2025, in order to take appropriate action, from a few elements who went beyond the freedom of speech, but strayed into criminality. To those I say there shall be no hiding place as long as you crossed the line in accordance with the constitution of the republic of Zambia in as far as the cyber security crimes act of 2025. Don't use me for your relevance and break the law as president HH has always warned
Having said that, let me revert to the subject matter as follows:
Firstly, I am a registered nurse and a member of the Nursing and Midwifery Council of Zambia ( NMCZ) with a valid practicing licence and renewing for the past 10 years but working I'm one Ward with one patient my dad as his nurse, caregiver and sky nurse es**rt due to the debilitating medical conditions
Secondly I am a trained and licensed caregiver and a member of the American Caregiver Association ( ACA)
Both of the above, compliment or converge for the common good of the helpless humanity
When i graduated as a nurse In 2015, at the age of 22, as best student in MEDICINE and MEDICAL NURSING and overall best in THEORY and gifted a fridge and microwave, , like all nurses, I took a solemn pledge to the following pledges among others:
• I pledged to: Put Patients First: By Making sure that the patient's health is the total primary consideration at all times
• Patient Welfare: Being devoted to the well-being of the Patient under my care at any given time
•Non-Discrimination: Not letting race, nationality, or social status intervene between my duty and my patient.
•Maintaining utmost respect for human life
In accordance with the above, if my dad is my patient and I found myself in a situation where a had no choice but care for him as a patient that I will do with my utmost professional gloves, cap, care and love
•Above all, I made these promises solemnly, freely and upon my honor and conscious
As such, when my dad was on his deathbed, gravely sick, helpless, and struck with transient ischemic stroke in south Africa, and injured on a flight from Livingstone to South Africa, and I bathed him, I was preforming my duty as a nurse in accordance with my pledges above as well as my duty as caregiver when I was presented by the situation, a situation I couldn't run away from
Equally, as a member of the American caregiver association ( ACA), it is expected of me as a licensed caregiver to put the welfare of all under my care at any given time first above all else.
If I failed my dad while under my care as a patient, at his most vulnerable time, it would be neglect and dereliction of my duty, and, I would have failed both institutions of which Iam proudly am a member of
From the above, if I found myself, not by choice but beyond avoidable circumstances, in similar situations where I have no choice, I will still do it again. I didn't do it for funny or pleasure. I DID IT OUT OF PURE NECESSITY. IT WAS EITHER I DID IT OR NOBODY WOULD AT THE TIME
If my dad went into labour and I was the only nurse on duty, I would deliver him. Failure to do so, would be at variance with my calling, pledges and fall under professional negligence
Can a fire fighter refuse to break up a bedroom door to rescue a dying mother because she's is potentially naked if he was placed in such unavoidable situation?
Can a male nurse refuse to deliver his sister going into labour if he was the only one home or at a station?
There are people who want me to move in shame for caring for my dad when he was at a life and death situation. They want me to feel sorry and move face down for helping my dad have comfort? In a foreign land? Neglect him to death?
But no! I move with my head high knowing in a time of crisis, I stepped in to be there for my dad at his most vulnerable time and contributed in saving his life
If I posted something about neglecting my dad, some sadistic people would be feasting on me. I have learnt that If you live life to Please human beings , you can never move. Our focus should be doing what is right in the eyes of God
As my dad once said; pages of people who pose naked are eulogized more than pages of pastors, pages of celebrities have more followers than pages of churches and pastors, pages of those who insult others attract more clicks, than pages of those who bring peace, pages of happy couples have fewer followers than couples that quarrel in public. Evil attracts people more than good
If Jesus Christ had a social media account, it would have less followers than global celebrities
People love evil things, than good things. They are attracted to evil than good. There is always evil imagination
Doing good is about pleasing God not humanity. Pleasing humanity is impossible.
If you do nothing they blame you, if you do something they blame you. ASK JESUS HE WILL TELL YOU
I THANK:
>Many kind-hearted zambians locally and in the diaspora for reaching out with messages of solidarity and fundraising efforts that are ongoing, and the christian community across the board, for the love and care. Good people are in the majority
>Individual SDA church members who continue to offer encouragement and prayers
>Family Caregiver Alliance USA ( FCA) for the overwhelming support of encouragement, resources and linking me to like-minded daughter's who have my experience.
>The American Caregiver Association ( ACA) for their training and certification as well as linking me to various network support groups of like minded people who live with my experience. That has been invaluable
>I thank my mother and my siblings for believing in me. Without the blessings of the family I would not make it. A family that is not distracted, but stays the course in the midst of these challenging times
>ABOVE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE, I THANK THE ALMIGHTY GOD FOR THE GRACE
I remain dedicated without distraction to the cause of my dad's welfare to the end, the end which only God knows
To those who think differently, my prayers are that one day God gives an experience that will remind you that life has no scripts or doesn't let you read your prepared script
WHEN CONFRONTED WITH SITUATIONS, DON'T LOOK AT CULTURE, TRADITION. MORALITY OR RELIGIOUS PRACTICES, LOOK AT WHAT IS RIGHT AT THE GIVEN TIME IN THE EYES OF GOD.
My dad's condition continues to deteriorate. We continue to earnestly seek the support of well-wishers him to depart for his lifesaving medical treatment in Rochester Minnesota USA. We failed to meet the 25 November to December appointment because funds were not adequate
To those wishing to help channel through the following :
0773686685 Airtel for local Only
+260 763942546 MTN local or global remittances
Or Account: 5182433200190. Bank zanaco Livingstone branch
Thank you for your support and prayers
