26/02/2026
GUEST ARTICLE: Selective outrage
By The King of Pens
A guy goes on a podcast and says he prefers college girls over older women because theyāre āmore attractive,ā have ābetter bodies,ā and are āsweeter in bed.ā Within hours, social media convicts him and sends him to the figurative gallows.
Heās immoral. Heās creepy. Heās a predator. Some even call him a āpedophile.ā
Letās be clear: if he is talking about college students who are 18 and above, then the word āpedophileā is not just harsh but disgustingly wrong. Words matter. Misusing serious terms to win online arguments makes light of real crimes and real victims.
Was he crude? Yes. Shallow? Absolutely. He reduced women to bodies and bedroom performance. He deserves criticism. Public platform, public consequences.
But letās not be hypocritical. In modern dating, preferences are normal.
A woman says she canāt date a short guy? Standards.
A man says he prefers slim women? Body shaming.
A woman says she wants a man whose instrument of power is well endowed? She knows what she wants.
A man says he prefers women whose balconies and backyards are well structured? Suddenly, heās morally rotten.
Selective outrage.
And now suddenly everyone remembers the phrase āgirl-child.ā Which girl-child? Letās be honest. Are college girls children? Are they forced to date older men? Some choose older men for lifestyle. Some for maturity. Some because campus boys are still borrowing money for soya pieces.
Scroll through social media. How many college girls are posting lecture sessions, fieldwork, or research? Instead, we see twerking videos and captions like āHotter than your wife.ā Who are these āthirst trapsā really aimed at? Fellow students surviving on meal allowances? Or the older, established men who can fund Dubai trips and boat cruises in Siavonga?
We cannot shout āobjectificationā on Monday and then post rated content from Tuesday to Sunday.
But the hypocrisy does not end there.
Those music video vixens that people pay to watchāare they in their late thirties and forties? Even older female performers know the industry rewards youth, so they bring in younger girls to be the dancing queens. Canāt we say they are betraying their own daughters?
Models for perfumes, alcohol, and global fashionāare they dignified mothers in their forties, or young women chosen for desirability?
Letās take it even further. Why do many women in their forties invest heavily in makeup to look younger, not older? Why do push-up bras exist? Who buys them? Who wears them? And why?
These are not insults. They are realities. Society rewards youth, beauty, and sexual appeal. Both men and women participate in this system.
Of course, that manās words were tasteless. But the harsh truth is this: he reflects the society we have built. Many people dragging him probably hold similar preferences. They just donāt say it bluntly on a podcast.
So instead of public outrage and selective morality, perhaps we should start with the mirror. If you are a mother, what values are you truly instilling in your children? Beyond words, what does your lifestyle teach them about dignity, self-worth, and relationships? Was your own youth exemplary? What are your children learning from your past and your present?
If you are a father, what are you teaching your sons about women, responsibility, and self-control? Are you raising men of character or consumers of bodies?
Before we cancel one man, maybe we should confront one truth: we are not just observers of this culture. We are its architects.
Kalemba February 26, 2026
