Stephanie Lafazanos Certified Medical Intuitive Intune Holistics

02/05/2025

Thursday February 8: S*xual Vitality Qigong Class for Women, details below.

The importance of self-love and self-nurturing to reconnect with yourself, to find your sense of self in relationship and shift relationship patterns that no longer work.

One of my clients was in the predicament many women find themselves in, wondering if she should stay in her relationship or leave. She was criticized on a regular basis, feeling like her childhood trauma of not being enough were her fault and that her partner was only reflecting it back to her through his mental and emotional abuse. What her partner was telling her she basically believed, until it really sank in for her that what was happening in her relationship was abusive.

When she finally she came to realize that it was time to leave, it was because she came into a new relationship with HERSELF. She enrolled in my ta**ra classes that focused on her relationship to herself through somatic embodiment, and a deeper connection to her s*xual vitality and emotional health and realized that she had been carrying the burden of the emotional work in the relationship all by herself. He took no responsibility nurturing their emotional connection or working on himself.

We could say that the entitlement that men have grown to rely on during the patriarchy has done us all a disservice, it has not equipped men or women with relationship skills and it has resulted in many women taking on the responsibility of all the emotional work in relationships. But times they are changing and women are growing and changing and realizing that they can OPT OUT of relationships that are toxic or do not work for them. A relationship after all, is a co-creation between two people, not one-sided. If it works for them but not for you or visa versa, it is not working!

Do you find yourself saying "He is a great guy and does xyz or is great with xyz BUT... he really needs to work on himself, he lacks relationship skills, he has no communication skills, he is emotionally abusive, manipulative, physically abusive, mentally abusive?"
This could be an indication that you need to examine how YOU FEEL in this relationship. You could be over-giving, carrying the load of emotional responsibility, and when this happens you loose YOURSELF.

Reconnecting with yourself, to find your sense of self in relationship helps you connect to your intuition and your true emotional landscape, to KNOW what is right for YOU. So many women realize they deserve so much more when they come from this place and they make different choices.

I have been that person! In previous relationships I too realized that I was not getting the full participation of someone who was ready for what I could offer, or match what I offered. So I OPTED OUT! And guess what I am single now and I am happy, not lonely. I know this is the place to be to attract a mate that matches me.

Join me for this month's on-line S*xual Vitality Qigong class on Thursday February 8 at 5 pm EST or 8pm PST HERE: https://wildlywoman.com/course/happy-hormones-s*xy-life/

You'll get:
~One month's access to the Happy Hormones S*xy Life program, with a library of classes.
~Qigong class to balance emotions, hormone balancing workouts and lifestyle, the pelvic floor class.
~A Q&A video chat app
~A 30 minute Sensual Wisdom Discovery Session to focus on your relationship to YOU or get relationship help.

12/31/2024

Well now that holidays are almost over… we are starting another hormone balancing detox!
Good for your guts, organs, hair, skin, mental, emotional well being.
Decrease your symptoms of perimenopause or hormone balance at any stage of life.
Sign up free for our two free videos describing BELOW: 1. the hormone balance self assessment and 2. foods nutrients and lifestyle on our detox and 3. learn about our group and weekly hormone balancing exercise class!
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The Wildly Woman team: Hi, I'm Stephanie I love helping women with feminine embodiment, holistic s*xual health, intimacy and relationships. I'm a Kinesiologist, Holistic Health Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing provider for trauma, Qigong & Ta**ra Instructor, Medical Intuitive & long time Sham...

09/26/2024

Getting excited for this special event on Monday with Theda Phoenix.

09/18/2024

Hi Ladies!
Do you need help balancing hormones? We are starting this class tomorrow in Vernon at 6pm!
Hi I am Stephanie and I am happy to help women on this journey of being balanced hormonally, mentally, physically and emotionally. Check out my trauma work and holistic seggsual health practice called Wildly Woman.
Now taking new clients in Armstrong BC.

08/19/2024

There is a quiet peaceful revolution building inside of me.

I am sat in the centre, the earth in the centre of my body.
I am centred by my breath, the rhythm expands and contracts, fills my kidneys, my sea of chi, to fortify my creativity and energy.

There is a quiet revolution inside of me.

I am sitting with what is, seeing and feeling it as it is.

I put my happy from my harmony with the earth and nature at the centre.

I hold a silver ball in my right hand, of all the souls that long for the wisdom of self nourishment and wholeness that I carry.
That would make them happy.

I hold a gold ball of the value that all my skills bring to my community, the somatic, holistic, healing and relationship intimacy skills I have cultivated, the skills and work that is of value to you and me being happy.

There is a rainbow connecting the silver and gold ball over me. As I reach my hands up I connect their energy and draw it into me.

A pearl of my life, that is perfect for me. I see and feel the nourishment of that life as the pearl descend through my mind’s eye,
I smile in gratitude at my heart and I return the pearl to sea of chi
in the center of me.

I embrace all my connections past and future
and I breath in the center of my quiet peaceful revolution knowing it is done.
And I smile.

06/27/2024

Soul Sister Women's Empowerment Festival this weekend! Come and check out all the workshops, I'll be teaching a ta**ra workshop S*x-Heart-Spirit Connection- https://mailchi.mp/f8977d014d34/last-week-to-register-for-pleasure-school-6253832

06/18/2024

*𝗢𝗡𝗟𝗬 𝟭𝟬 𝘀𝗽𝗼𝘁𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝗳𝘁*
NEVER done this before, but for those of you who don't know - I teach couples who are stuck in their relationship or unhappy with their intimacy and connection learn how to create deeper intimacy by communicating in ways that brings back the passion.
In my over 20 years of being a ta**ra and intimacy coach, I’ve learned it’s the little things you do often in your relationship make the biggest difference and in the last 4 years I’ve helped over 30 couples realize the relationship they HAVE is worth so much more than they thought, by using communication coaching to improve their intimacy and rekindle passion.
𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲, 𝗜'𝗺 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝟭𝗼𝗻𝟭 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 sessions 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 current relationship into the one you dream of.
𝐖𝐞'𝐥𝐥 𝐠𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 :
- Your existing communication styles and shed light on your bad habits and why you have them.
- Step-by-step method of turning dysfunctional habits that take you farther apart into ones that get you closer together.
Doing this exclusively in my Facebook group so this post will likely be deleted from here in 24 hours. If you want in comment "intimacy" and I'll get in touch to set up a call.

06/11/2024

By Donation Qigong class this Tuesday at 9:30 am - 100% proceeds to Armstrong Spallumcheen Trail Alliancehttps://mailchi.mp/fc29e5bf14f8/by-donation-class-tuesday-at-930-am

06/08/2024

Last week to register for Pleasure School - https://mailchi.mp/b2814afa72a6/last-week-to-register-for-pleasure-school-6235724

05/08/2024

Today at 4pm PST Pelvic Floor Class - https://mailchi.mp/d900caaa9949/tomorrow-free-pleasure-school-class-6233971

05/07/2024

Tomorrow Free Pleasure School Class - https://mailchi.mp/bc316c55ae21/tomorrow-free-pleasure-school-class-6233871

05/07/2024

Tomorrow's Free Pleasure School Class Link and a Free Breast Self massage and Breast Check.- https://mailchi.mp/2cf0c35f513a/tomorrow-free-pleasure-school-class

04/30/2024

Even though I have been certified as a Medical Intuitive, shining a light on others unconscious emotional, mental patterns and illnesses, have taught ta**ra and intimacy coaching on stages with the top recognized teachers and authors in the world, and have trained with the most brilliant somatic trauma therapists on the continent, I know what it’s like to struggle with relationship issues. Because years ago, that struggle consumed my life.

I know what it’s like to wake up and feel constant anxiety about my relationship, but not be able to confront or talk about it and remain a passive, people pleaser. And to lay down at night thinking about how I felt insecure or afraid about our connection, wondering when I could get away or how much longer I could stay when I felt unloved, questioning why I had not found the love I know I deserved.

It got so bad during a break-up that it just broke me, I snapped with PTSD. More specifically the deceit and dishonor triggered jealousy, an early trauma of mine and I got so filled with rage and anger that I said the most hurtful, hateful things I have ever spoken to ANYONE in my life. Thank God I didn’t act any further on my angry impulses, I wanted to, but believe me but I did not, because that is not me, but it took a lot of control! So, I know how painful it can be. I know how the trauma drama can escalate between two people to very bad places.

And, I know what it’s like to be on the other side of it. To feel grateful for my loving, supportive, passionate connection and to have a life where I wake up feeling so lucky, secure and held, being able to communicate with grace, confidently dealing head on with any triggers or rocky moments that arise. I go to bed at night feeling more aware of my triggers, more peaceful and happy. The best part is I know my true worth, that the love in my heart is matched, my divine union and life is as it should be, perfect for me. And, I want this kind of life for everyone! That’s why I do the work that I do.

Even though there’s a part of me that thinks I’m sharing too much about my life’s work lately (as I shared earlier, I’m in a challenge this week...) my deeper truth is that I care way too much about helping people get the loving supportive connection and communication they deserve to let that fear stop me.

Because I know how painful it can be when you have relationship, intimacy and communication issues stemming from trauma and I have dedicated myself to helping hundreds of people get that feeling that are truly growing in love and the connection their soul came here for. If you (or anyone you know) struggles with I'm offering 5 free Communicate for Relationship Intimacy Consults to help you start moving toward the intimacy and connection, you have been waiting for your WHOLE life. Life is too short to spend it with poor communication that creates more separation between you, misunderstandings, and arguments.

I’d be honored to support you (or someone you care about). LMK below if I can be of service to you or someone you care about.

04/16/2024

Are you ready to balance your hormones? Say YES below if you would like education on a hormone balancing lifestyle and I will send you the replay of this special class in Sensual Wisdom for Women ~ Pleasure School.

This is a teaser of our on-line live interactive 6 month program to dive deeper into your pleasure. If you like this class, we welcome you to join us for the next 6 months. Say YES below to get the recording of Hormone Balancing Dealbreakers.

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04/02/2024

Happy Easter🐣 & Happy Hormones Class🌷 - https://mailchi.mp/0f50f1e8188e/happy-hormones-s*xy-life-6231527

03/13/2024

Let’s talk about imbalanced s*x drive in relationships.

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner wanted to have more s*x than you? Or where you wanted to have more s*x than your partner?

Intimacy is comprised of two things; emotional openness, and physical closeness. With physical closeness that could look like, cuddling, hugging, kissing, holding each other, stroking or touching and s*x.

S*x is a deep way to connect with another person and if you’re like me, you may feel the need to connect with your partner this way as an healthy exchange of energy and intimacy.

But what if you or your partner don’t want to have s*x? There are very many valid reasons for not wanting to have s*x, how tired you are, how energetic you are, the mood you’re in, health issues, past traumas, where your goals and mind are focussed at the moment.
And simply put, no one should ever feel like they are being forced to have s*x.

But a healthy relationship INCLUDES s*x. How often depends on the couple. But I think most would agree, you are committing your life to this one person and that this one person (and yourself) are the source of your s*xual pleasure, unless you are in an open relationship agreement.

In many cases s*xual appitite is mismatched which should be avoided at the outset if possible. Alway match with someone who matches your s*x drive! BUT things happen like HAVING BABIES! And when you have a baby as a woman, a huge amount of energy goes to creating that life inside your belly, that is your s*xual energy and it goes to creating the baby. Once you have the baby a huge amount of that s*xual energy goes from your s*xual organs up to your breasts to feed the baby and to connect and bond with the baby.

At this point in a relationship, men really need to be taught that they have to be patient with their partner, because a lot of their s*xual drive and urge will be directed to basically providing life support for their offspring.

Men and women can manage their s*xual urges with Taoist ta***ic s*xual energy practices like circulating, as in the exercise, called the Microcosmic orbit. What this does is it takes a s*xual energy from the s*xual area in the s*xual organs, the testicles and the ovaries, and it circulates it through to main energy channels up the spine and down the front of the body, this redistributes the s*xual energy to all the other organs and all the other meridian pathways as in Chinese medicine meridian pathways. This practice is very healing for the body as it brings more energy to areas that might need healing and give them a boost, which intern affect the mental and emotional aspects of your being as well. These practises are very rare is not many people learn about Ta**ra and I’m sure that’s one of the reason why you are here on this page.

Now there’s the problem of feeling rejected by your partner if they don’t want to have s*x with you which is I’m sure a reality for many of you. Please comment below if you’ve been in either of these situations where your partner is demanding, s*x, or rejecting s*xual advances.

Feeling rejected by s*xual advances is also very difficult to deal with if that is some thing that helps you to feel connected to your partner. Now I want to separate this feeling rejected into two different categories when you feel rejected and this hurts you because that is a way that you like to emotionally connect and physically connect to your partner. The other category is that you feel rejected, because you simply have physical urges that you need to take care of.

When it comes to feeling rejected simply because you have urges you need to release I would seriously consider learning Ta**ra so that you can take responsibility for your urges.

When it comes to feeling rejected because s*x is a way that you connect deeply, Spiritually, emotionally, physically with your partner that rejection can be really hard because it feels like your partner is turning away from you. And this turning away behaviour from any kind of bid for connection like a bit for conversation or a bid for a hug or s*x has been noted as one of the most important things to keep intimacy alive in relationships and a predictor of success in relationship according to the Gottman Institute.

So if you’re feeling rejected by a lack of your partner, turning towards your bids for s*xual connection, there could be two things that you need to focus on. Number one is becoming a bit more “secure” in yourself so you don’t feel devastated if you get rejected once in a while. But if this is ongoing and you are persistently rejected, you may try to understand what is going on with your partner and why they’re rejecting your bids for s*xual connection by having good communication, even s*x therapy to work out your differences and maybe get to the bottom of why the rejection is happening. It could be health problems for example. Any health problem is going to take that energy instead of s*x. Energy is energy in the body. When you are sick the body takes the energy to heal itself. S*x goes on the back burner, but can be brought back with Taoist Qigong and s*xual vitality practises.

Number two is, is this is a mismatch of s*xual libido between you? If so, and this is going to continue for a long time in the relationship, then it should be considered potentially as a mismatch. This is why it’s important to qualify the libido match before you commit to a partner.

Life is not black and white, and many things can happen that can affect the regularity of our s*xual intimacy. Values that each partner holds for Intimacy and Connection often have to be re-visited as a couple to place importance on the connection instead of letting stressors and other things that can be avoided, impacting your relationship.

Learning Ta**ra together and doing Ta***ic practices, can re-instill those values of connection and intimacy by giving you practises that you try with your partner from a qualified instructor like myself, or finding a workshop or a retreat where you can explore these practises together.

Learning Ta**ra on your own, can insure that you maintain a healthy, s*xual vitality for yourself, your relationship and for your energy levels that feed all other things in your life. For example, many of the women that I have worked with in retreats, and one on one come to Ta**ra for a variety of reasons sometimes it’s past trauma, shame and shutdown, s*xual dysfunction, or just a desire to be more or****ic, or to elevate the vibration of s*xual habits that they’ve learned from our culture and connect to a higher more loving, spiritual, s*xual, vibrant energy.

We’re all on this journey of life that has its ups and downs for sure, and especially with women’s s*xual health, menstrual and menopause cycles there can be ups and downs, which impact how s*xy and motivated we are for s*x!

So what’s your experience been in regards to these ideas above? Leave your comments below.



02/29/2024

Happy Hormones, S*xy Life - https://mailchi.mp/efd093577f38/happy-hormones-s*xy-life-6229152