Clearer Mind Counselling

30/12/2023

A little reminder 👇🏼☘️

Wishing you a happy new year!
Over the next few weeks you’re going to be inundated with a lot of people telling you this is your chance to fix yourself, to change all of the things you don’t like about yourself, and to create this whole new version of you.

While it’s important for us to grow, it’s also important for us to remember that who you are took a lot of strength and courage, and a lot of learning went in to getting you to where you are today.

So it’s perfectly ok to take that version of you, in to the future, and let it lead you to where you want to be.
Maybe this year, instead of creating a resolution about what you want to change, or get rid of, or what you want to add, think about what you want to continue. What is it about you that you want to take in to this new year?

07/12/2023

Sigmund Freud said that the mind is like an iceberg: One third is above the water — your conscious mind, and a good two-thirds is below the water — your subonscious mind.
And:
Like an iceberg, the most important part of the mind, is the part you cannot see.

There is so much that falls into fate’s territory. You may call it luck, a bad turn, or God’s will, but the title is ultimately unimportant. Fate describes that which is out of our control—which is most of everything that goes on in this world.
But there is one thing that falls within our locus of control: our inner state. Namely, our reactions (and as a result, our actions).

03/12/2023

You’ve got this, what ever this week throws at you. But for now, enjoy your Sunday evening, be in the present moment. 💫

06/09/2023

My role as a counsellor, is not to give advice, but rather to walk alongside you, in your own journey of self discovery.

Our counselling relationship will give you a unique and confidential space to explore how you really feel.
It can give you the space where you can say whatever you need to out loud, without feeling judged.
It can be helpful to talk over problems and options with someone who cares but is not directly involved. Someone who is there, not to offer you their opinion, but to help you find the best outcome for you.

To find out more about how I work, and what I can help you with, please visit my website: https://www.clearermindcounselling.co.uk or drop me a message.

17/07/2023

We try to prove our worth by what we get done, with this mindset, our efforts will never be enough.

We get taught that rest is earned. You can earn it by overworking, overachieving and overdoing it.

Let’s redefine this, let’s start by looking after ourselves and our mental health first.

I love this post by

16/07/2023

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04/07/2023

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Who will you decide to be?

26/06/2023

18/06/2023

06/06/2023

Today I said “I’m fine”, not once
But five times altogether
When people asked “how are you?”
Then made small talk of the weather

And so I hid behind my mask
The one I’d worn a while
I set in place my bravest face
And dressed it with a smile

And that was how the day went
All “I’m fine” and talk of rain
Until somebody asked me how I was
Then asked again

They asked if I was truly fine
And I said I was not
And they said they were sorry
That they couldn’t do a lot

But then they sat beside me
Whilst I spoke the truth at last
They listened and they held me
As the tears slipped through my mask

And where before, I’d felt I should
Maintain this brave façade,
I realised there was much to gain
By letting down my guard

See, though my load was still the same
It now was not as heavy
‘Cause sitting and offloading it
Had helped a bit already

Today they asked “how are you?”
And I told them I was fine
‘Til someone saw behind the mask
And asked me one more time

And though they may have felt
That there was little they could do
They’ll never know how much it meant
To tell someone the truth

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“I’m fine” is from my second book:
https://a.co/d/hz7kmJs

01/06/2023

Who remembers this?

There was such a divide all the years ago on whether people saw white and gold, or black and blue.
This is such a good example of none of us seeing the world in exactly the same way. What is reality for you, may not be reality for someone else. It’s so important to stop and listen, and appreciate that other people have different perspectives.

Again with my favourite quote: “we don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are”.

09/04/2023

A little while back we designed these Professional Standards Authority (PSA) posters and leaflets that are free for you to use as you wish.

These materials help us to promote all membership bodies on the PSA Accredited registers, and in turn promote all counsellors who are members of BACP, NCS, ACC, UKCP, etc.

They can be downloaded via the Free Resources section on our website (link below), are are ready to print also.

Thank you 😊

Here’s the link: www.ukcounsellors.co.uk/free-resources

21/03/2023

It can be so tempting to lower ourselves to match the lack of energy/support/kindness we receive off others, “why give them all of me when they don’t offer it back?”. Because no one is you, and that is your superpower.
Their energy is not your energy. You are a kind, loving, caring, wonderful person. Keep doing you!

19/03/2023

is a painful day for so many of us. We're sending our love to everyone struggling today.

Thank you to for her beautiful illustration 💙

16/03/2023

Don’t underestimate the power of your presence with somebody.