02/09/2024
I can’t tell you how many people Freak Out at the concept of Low Demand, and truth be told, I was also in that camp for a very long time.
Because of the misconceptions of Low Demand. Because it sounds like Permissive Parenting/Care, which ISN’T good for kids.
I too said “Kids need boundaries to feel safe!” & I firmly believe that. They need to know there are limits and consequences of actions. But let me tell you, when you let go of pointless or negotiable expectations, kids are a lot more receptive to the important boundaries & have the capacity to care more about the consequences. When they’re allowed control, they don’t have to seek it so desperately.
At the end of the day, if you have a Safe Relationship with a child, you can ask them to do something, explain why, and they’ll do it because it’s the Right Thing To Do, not out of fear.
