State of Mind Therapy Co.

03/02/2026

Too often, we tolerate things we shouldn’t out of fear of upsetting or losing the people in our lives. We tolerate being treated in ways that tear us down out of fear that we might no longer be loved or accepted if we don’t.

We abandon ourselves out of fear that we will be abandoned by others.

The way someone treats you is their decision. You are the one responsible for whether you continue to tolerate it. Each and every time you abandon yourself and your emotional safety for the comfort of someone else, you lose a piece of who you are.

If you let yourself become lost in other people, you systematically begin to break down the most important relationship you have; the one with yourself.

The longer it continues, the more conditioned you become to tolerate the way you are treated as the baseline, and not only will you start to believe it, but the more likely you are to justify or minimise an escalation of it.

The most difficult behaviours to let go of are often the ones that make you feel like they keep the peace by minimising, justifying or keeping quiet. But if you are abandoning yourself to fit the shape of what someone else wants from you, it’s not a sanctuary. It’s a cage.

03/02/2026

How many times have you decided on a goal, only to give up early? To give up before seeing results because it didn’t happen immediately, felt too difficult or seemed too slow. How many times have you stopped in your tracks because you couldn’t trust a process you hadn’t experienced yet?

How many times have you watched an entire Netflix series when the initial episodes were slow and didn’t immediately grip you, simply because you were hoping that it was worth pushing through?

What if you take that same approach; that same mindset, that same patience and determination to see how good it gets, and refocus it towards you, irl. Real goals, real growth. Whether it’s in therapy, in the gym, with your nutritional goals, growing your business, your savings account, or investing in your personal development and education.

Motivation is a false god. When it dissipates, it can feel easy to minimise and dismiss everything that we have been working towards. But determination, commitment and consistency will echo throughout each and every aspect of who you are and what you do.

The end goal is worth pushing through the first few slow and difficult days, weeks or months, even in moments when you can’t see or feel the progress or results setting in just yet.

Trust the process.
Show yourself how good it gets.

28/12/2025

The holiday season isn’t always calm, joyful, or easy.

For many, it’s layered with expectation, unresolved conflict, grief, loneliness, emotional fatigue and old family dynamics we have worked tirelessly to outgrow.

We feel pressure to show up a certain way.
To keep the peace.
To be grateful.
To not make things awkward or uncomfortable around the dinner table.

And yet, being around family can stir up parts of us we worked hard to break away from. Old roles, old wounds, old patterns, old responses.

Sometimes Christmas feels heavy. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.

This season is just a season.
You don’t have to overextend yourself to belong.
You don’t have to be forced back into a box that others find more comfortable.
You don’t have to return to the static identity anyone else holds of you in their mind that you have outgrown.

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed.
It’s okay to need space, to say no, to leave early.
It’s okay to strengthen boundaries and to prioritise yourself without guilt, even when family dynamics feel complicated.

No holiday or season or event should ever have to cost you yourself. Caring for yourself is not a failure of love.
There is space for you in this, too.

23/11/2025

Immensely honoured to have been invited to attend the Corporate Boxing Fundraiser for Mental Health last night with the absolute best of the best, collaborating across multiple powerful industries.

We could not have found a more perfect way to start closing out the year than supporting this monumental cause with the most monumentally impactful people and partnerships.

23/11/2025

Our AHFF team partnered with Soa "The Hulk" Palelei and .co to develop a Mental Heath training package for Strong Minds Strong Mines to run with Macmahon … We took our consulting services further to also develop a Mental Health program for OTRACO another major company!

These two mental health development programs & courses are incredibly rewarding and deeply personal for us. Mental Health affects everyone so being able to be on the forefront of change is rewarding.

Huge thankyou to Soa & Nidia for an incredible evening, it was great to also have our ex student represent Ora 24/7 Gym Belmont in the ring for the raising awareness an funds for a variety of charities.

We are all human and we all need to support each other. We are privileged & honoured to be leading these projects. Cant wait to see where our next project takes us.

29/06/2025

Therapy isn’t just for those in crisis. It’s also for the ones quietly holding it all together.

When someone we care about is struggling with their mental health, the impact doesn’t stay contained; it ripples. It can spill into our own emotional landscape, into our nervous systems, and into everything our day to day touches.

We find ourselves constantly giving; showing up, checking in, making space. We want to be their safe place, their anchor, and over time, that level of care can start to feel heavy to carry alone, carrying the weight of the world for two or more. When our own cup is running on empty, and spilling more than it’s holding.

This is where therapy becomes a strong sense of support, not just for the person struggling, but for the ones supporting those needing support. It is a place to lay down the emotional load, to process the fear, the guilt, the anger, the exhaustion — every aspect we expect ourselves to push aside while we’re being strong for others.

We so often abandon our own well-being in the name of care, handling the discomfort so others don’t have to. But if we continually abandon and neglect ourselves for everyone around us, we burn out, we disconnect, and we slowly disappear beneath the needs of others.

There’s no perfect way to support someone through their experiences. It’s messy, emotional, and sometimes thankless.

Prioritising our mental health whilst supporting others is a necessity, not a luxury. It isn’t selfish, even when it feels like someone close has a much rockier terrain to travel.

It’s an act of love, for yourself and for the people you support. When your cup is full, and your hands are not shaking with exhaustion, and you’re not quietly holding the weight of the world, your support becomes sustainable.

You don’t have to carry it all alone. If you’re supporting someone else, who is it that’s supporting you?

01/06/2025

06/03/2025

Find equilibrium, find you.

This comprehensive 300+ page workbook is designed to equip you with the tools to understand and navigate your emotions and experiences, past and present, in a healthy and transformative way. Equilibrium has been carefully curated to explore the space between where you are, and where you want to be. It is about finding out who you really are at your core; why you think the way that you do, why you make the choices that you make, how you formed the view that you have about the world around you and the way that you interact with it.

This workbook is based on the tried-and-true principles of cognitive behavioural therapy, self-reflective practices, and an evidence-based approach that has shown efficacy in improving emotional regulation and integrating our experiences in a way that aligns with who and where we want to be.

THIS WORKBOOK IS FOR YOU IF:

• You find yourself overwhelmed by intense emotions and struggle to navigate them in a way that makes you feel balanced and regulated.
• Criticism or negative feedback hits you hard, resulting in feelings of insecurity, self-doubt or self-sabotage.
• You feel emotionally drained from going to war with your own thoughts and behaviours, leaving you exhausted and depleted.
• Stressful situations feel difficult or overwhelming to manage.
• You want to increase your capacity for self-reflection, but are struggling with how to translate your insights into tangible redirection and growth.
• You are looking for a practical way to help you navigate your feelings and experiences.

WHAT’S INCLUDED:

• Core lessons and practices.
• A step-by-step guide.
• Tools and resources.
• A myriad of worksheets designed to guide you through each component seamlessly.

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www.stateofmindtherapyco.com/courses

08/10/2024

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16/07/2024

Grieving is not reserved solely for losing someone close.

Grief can seep in when our health status changes, our financial security is dismantled, or our trust in our support system has been broken down.

Grief can find us when an opportunity that consumes our thoughts and plans for the future slips away, or when we find out someone we trusted, we couldn’t. It can swallow us whole within our disappointments, our regrets, our guilt and how alone we feel in what we are going through.

Grief can also find its way into the smallest cracks of our moments of growth — when the changes we make for ourselves mean that we have to choose to walk away from relationships that hurt us, family members who choose not to respect our boundaries, friendships that are no longer on the same page, work environments that leave us feeling stagnant and unappreciated, or parts of ourselves we need to let go of to move forward. We are meant to grow, and sometimes growth means we will outgrow who and what we have around us.

You are allowed to take time to grieve ANY of the losses in your life.

There is no linear timeline that we have to align with. There are no rules that dictate what loss should look like, feel like, or mean to any of us. It is not about ‘getting over it,’ it is about how we integrate each experience into who we are and where we are going as we move through it.

There is no rush.

Take
your
time.

28/05/2024

As a therapist, my role isn’t to sell you on me or my work.

My role is to sell you on yourself.

On your strength, your determination, your resilience, your adaptability, your compassion and your endless capacity for healing and growth.

You are already every example of what you are looking for.
What you focus on, grows.

07/05/2024

How often will we watch an entire Netflix series, even when the initial episodes are slow and don’t immediately grip us because we were convinced by a post online, or were told by someone we know how it was worth pushing through the first few episodes? How often do we stay with it, even though we aren’t entirely convinced by what we see in the first few episodes, all because we hold out hope for how good we were told it was going to get?

Take that same approach — that same mindset and that same determination, and refocus it towards your real-life goals and growth, whether it is in therapy, in the gym, your nutritional goals, growing your business, your savings account, investing in your personal development or education.

The end goal is worth pushing through the first few slow and difficult days, weeks or months, even in moments when you can’t see or feel the progress or results setting in just yet.

Motivation can be a false god. When it dissipates, it can feel easy to minimise and dismiss everything that we have been working towards — but determination, commitment and consistency will echo throughout each and every aspect of who you are and what you do.

Trust the process.
Show yourself how good it gets.