02/02/2026
Your mind has a way of filling in the blanks about birth
Usually with worst-case scenarios & if you’re pregnant, it’s almost impossible not to go there sometimes
But the good news is, your mind isn’t stuck with those pictures
You can actually feed it different stories about birth
& your body responds to that in really beautiful ways
Instead of this:
I'm scared of the unknown
Try this:
I might not know exactly what’s coming, but I’m not walking into birth blind. I trust that I am well prepared to make informed decisions whatever happens
Instead of this:
I feel alone in this
Try this:
I’m allowed to ask for support, plus I’m following in the footsteps of many women who have done this before me
Instead of this:
I don’t know if I’ll handle the pain
Try this:
I don’t need to cope with the whole birth...
Just the next contraction
Instead of this:
I'm failing if I ask for help or need intervention
Try this:
I know what's best for me & my baby. asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness
Instead of this:
What if something goes wrong?
Try this:
I can prepare for different possibilities without assuming the worst will happen
When doubt pops up & your mind starts wobbling, your strength is not cancelled
Both can exist at the same time
You've got this, mumma!
Love, your birth coach, Bonnie 🤎
PS. Welcome to my little part of the internet where I share the kind of stuff I wish more women heard during pregnancy, not perfect birth stories, not scary ones either, just real, steady ways to feel more prepared, no matter how your birth actually unfolds
Most pregnant mums I talk to aren’t terrified of birth
They’re just overwhelmed
Too many opinions, too many horror stories, too many “what ifs” playing in their head
And wow! Doesn't that make so much sense?
What I've noticed again & again is that with the right preparation & support, you can STOP feeling overwhelmed & START feeling empowered, confident, & supported as you get ready for birth
I’ve given birth 5 times myself, & I’ve spent 23+ years sitting beside women in birth
What I share here isn’t noise or trends, it’s the stuff that actually helps when it’s your turn
If you’re ready to feel less overwhelmed & more grounded about birth, I’ve put together an online birth course that walks you through this, step by step. Comment TOGETHER & I'll send you the link
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