I started Evolved Lovers because of my background in skimpy work and stripping. Despite having the perception that I was open and confident with my s*xuality, I felt very disconnected. You might be thinking, how is that possible? Well, let’s just say I had a lot of unresolved issues that I was completely oblivious to.
It all started one day when a partner told me I wasn’t in touch with my s*xuality. This confused me, because in my head I was confident as hell. I loved my body, I loved being naked, and I loved to connect. I loved to massage, to give oral s*x and to touch - basically, I loved s*x.
But now I look back and I know exactly what that partner meant. Yes, I could or**sm, but the reality was I only knew how to please a lover. I didn’t know how to receive for myself, I didn’t feel good enough to be selfish, and if I received, I would feel selfish. I had no idea how to just lie there, be selfish as f**k, and let a man worship me in the bedroom. I could never speak up and express what I wanted, because the reality was, I had no bloody idea.
Does this sound familiar? I was the girl who projected all relationship and s*xual expectations onto a man. “You should just know this!” and “Just do it, figure it out and get it right.” Well I’m sorry to inform some of you but your relationship and personal pleasure is no-one else’s responsibility but your own. It’s your responsibility as a woman to voice your expectations, needs, desires and boundaries. Be confident to ask for what you want, you deserve it! Because let’s face it, great s*x is good for the soul.
Long story short: we mutually went our separate ways. I believe everything happens for a reason and all in the right time. We are built to survive.
My second breakthrough: Meeting my mentor
After the breakup, I went to a group shamanic breathwork session, which to my horror, brought up child abuse that I had absolutely no memory of. First the breakup and now this - my life went very dark and all of a sudden I felt extremely alone.
I dabbled in a lot of healing methods until I discovered my mentor Andrew Barnes whose work deeply resonated with me. After participating in his retreat, I clearly remember saying to him,
I’ll never forget my Europe trip when I spent a month working closely with Andrew. It culminated in him asking me to assist him in a Ta***ic Full Body Energetic Or**sm Retreat in London with 60 people from 26 different cultures. I have now participated in eight retreats within two years, and assisted in three of those. I have witnessed so many breakthroughs on these retreats. To see women look up to me despite how new I am to the craft has deeply touched my soul. No words can express how honoured I feel to have had an impact on their journey and transformation.
As much as I’ve wanted to share this work, naturally I’ve had moments where I feared the judgement that would come from my job status as a Perth s*xuality coach. However, moments like these have been strong enough to push me to continue my work and create Evolved Lovers.
Why did I create Evolved Lovers?
I can’t say that I’ve been a Perth s*xuality coach for years because that would be a lie. But my wisdom comes from my life experiences, the mistakes that I have overcome and learned from, and my ta***ic mentors.
Another reason why I created Evolved Lovers was because I was sick of hearing frustrations from both sides of relationships. While I was stripping, men would always tell me how they were unfaithful; although they’re happily married with kids, their partner doesn’t want s*x, so they decide to cheat or go to the brothel. So many couples act like they want to work together to repair their relationship, but they won’t take the necessary steps to do so.
Both men and women have needs. If we don’t know how to express them they’ll never be met in a healthy way, and relationships will be riddled with cheating. Too many relationships scream and yell - that’s not how you become heard or seen. Only when we talk from the heart will we become seen with our pain and emotions.
There is this miscommunication between our genders and I believe we fail to understand each other. Through Evolved Lovers, I want to bring awareness to our unique personality traits. Deep down, we all crave love and connection; we just don't know how to express it in a healthy way. I want to put the spark back into relationships.
Awaken your sensuality with Evolved Lovers
The thought of reawakening your divine s*xual desire can sound intimidating, but the importance of understanding and being in touch with your sensuality is often overlooked and undermined. If you’re a single, individual coaching and yoni mapping with a Perth s*xuality coach will help you enter your personal sphere of pleasure and discover your body’s true potential.
For couples, relationship coaching will allow you to communicate your needs in a healthy way, leading to a more loving connection. Similarly, if you’re looking to reignite your spark in the bedroom, massage training, sh***ri, or lovers’ acro yoga can all help you achieve fulfillment in your relationship both physically and spiritually. Connect with Evolved Lovers today to reawaken your sensual desire.
