Gabriella de Mori & Co Counselling Cottesloe

30/11/2025

Attachment-based therapy really gets to the heart of how we learn to love, trust, and belong.

Our earliest relationships shape the way we show up in the world - how we reach for others, how we protect ourselves, how we cope with closeness and distance.

I love this work because it offers a chance to gently heal those old relational wounds, to understand the patterns that aren’t helpful to us anymore, and to build new, safer, more satisfying ways of being in connection.

It’s tender, sometimes raw, but incredibly liberating.

~ Work with Britt through experienced and compassionate counselling for women and couples in Cottesloe or Online ❤️

27/11/2025

Here’s the opportunity:

Working on your anxious attachment style isn’t about diving into trauma with nowhere to go.

It’s about understanding why your nervous system learned to respond the way it does in connection and relationships, and realising it isn’t actually about what the other person is doing.

When you work with our attachment-focused counsellor, Britt, she’ll guide you into soothing ways to:

🫶🏻 Find reassurance and confidence from within.
🫶🏻 Soothe your inner child.
🫶🏻 Use mindfulness to bring that dysregulation and panic down into calmness.

You start to feel, “I can be okay, whatever’s happening.” Phew!

You don’t need someone to behave a certain way for you to feel grounded.

You can show yourself safety in a beautiful, compassionate, mindful way, and this is exactly what Britt is so excited to teach you in this Sundays Women’s Cave workshop, or though dedicated 1:1 Counselling.

26/11/2025

🧐 WHICH COMMUNICATION PATTERN ARE YOU STUCK IN WITH YOUR PARTNER? 🧐

Many couples fall into one of two patterns:

1️⃣ Only talking about practical things: “What’s for dinner? What are the kids doing? Whose birthday party are we going to?”

2️⃣ Getting stuck in conflict: bickering, arguing, or sweeping fights under the rug, only for them to erupt again later.

The result? Emotional disconnection disappears, and your relationship can start to feel distant, boring, or like you’re just ‘going through the motions’ or ‘stuck in endless fights.’

As relationship specialists, here’s what we encourage instead:

✅ Focus on building an emotional connection, friendship, and a deeper bond - the space between logistics and conflict.
✅ This type of communication strengthens your relationship and reduces the impact of arguments by creating moments of needed connection between the fights.

To get started, ask your partner new and connection-focused questions tonight over dinner, or during some quiet time together before bed.

These prompts help you rebuild friendship, curiosity, and genuine connection and restore the feeling that you’ve got each other’s backs and you’re close again.

Try these ten questions to surprise and delight your communication:

✨What did you daydream about today?

✨ Where did you struggle with feeling out of your depth today?

✨ What was the cheeky little thought you had today that you didn’t share with anyone?

✨ What felt the most meaningful for you today?

✨ What are you most anxious about this week?

✨ Where do you feel most yourself in life at the moment?

✨ What was the best laugh you had today?

✨ What’s something you’re grateful for in our relationship?

✨ Who lived rent-free in your head today?

✨ What’s one thing I can do to make us feel closer tonight?

💘 SAVE THIS POST OR SEND IT TO YOUR PARTNER NOW 💘

If you’ve lost your emotional bond and you need support rebuilding the connection you crave, this is our area of speciality as emotion-focused couples counsellors.

Work with us through dedicated couples counselling | Visit our website or DM us COUPLES for further info.

26/11/2025

Anxious attachment often shows up in high-functioning, successful, very capable women. You get through so much and run everything like a machine, so it may not even feel like you have anxious attachment at all.

What usually happens is that the doing, giving, organising and people-pleasing becomes your coping mechanism. You stay so busy proving, helping and over-functioning that you disconnect from the anxiety underneath. It feels safer to keep everything together than risk the feeling of insecurity that anxious attachment brings.

This happens because part of you believes you need to do a lot to be chosen, loved or approved of. So you over-show up. You make things okay. You carry the mental load. And in the anxious attachment recipe, as long as you don’t rock the boat, you won’t feel anxious.

It becomes exhausting, but it makes sense. The fear is that if you don’t do enough or please enough, someone will leave, be disappointed or pull away. And this doesn’t just show up in romance. It shows up at work, with friends, with family and in the way you relate to yourself.

If this feels familiar, nothing is wrong with you.

You simply learnt to cope through capability, and now you’re ready for something gentler and more grounded.

25/11/2025

🤪 LORD KNOWS WE’VE TRIED! 🤣

1. Time- Any year,now!

We wish time healed it. Truly. But attachment wounds don’t dissolve just because the years pass or because you finally hit a milestone like moving in, getting engaged or celebrating 10 years together.
They’ve lived in your nervous system since childhood, so they don’t magically disappear with age.

2. Reassurance from your partner
You already know this one. You can get reassurance 100 times… and it feels good for a moment, but it never lasts. The moment they pull away or get busy, it’s back.

Your partner can’t fix this for you, not because they don’t love you, but because the wound isn’t in them.

It’s inside you, and that’s the good news, because it means you have the power to shift it.

3. More research and more information
You’re smart. You’ve already saved the posts, listened to the podcasts, done the attachment quizzes and named the pattern.
Your mind understands it… but your body still reacts.

Why?! I’m telling it to calm down but it never listens!

It’s because attachment wounds don’t live in your thoughts: they live in your nervous system, and it doesn’t speak the language of words or information.

No amount of overthinking, analysing or educating yourself will soothe the younger parts of you that feel scared or tender.

If you’re reading this and thinking “oh… that’s me,” It means you’re ready for the deeper, somatic layer, the one that actually heals, rather than temporarily numbing the anxiety.

Somatic connection and Inner Child Healing is the way.

We’re excited for you- Because you now have an exciting opportunity to do it differently:

In the way Britt has taught many many women to do so, using her magic potion of Parts-work, Inner Child Healing and Somatic regulation.

Britt’s approach is to show you how to nurture, soothe, and evolve from within, which means the power sits with you.

Join Britt’s empowering workshop on anxious attachment this Sunday or work with her 1:1 through contemporary counselling, either in or anywhere in Australia via Telehealth 🫶🏻

Links in bio or DM us ATTACHMENT 👏🏻

25/11/2025

3 things that won’t heal your attachment wounds- Lord knows we’ve tried!

1. Time
We wish time healed it. Truly.
But attachment wounds don’t dissolve just because the years pass or because you finally hit a milestone like moving in, getting engaged or celebrating 10 years together.
They’ve lived in your nervous system since childhood, so they don’t magically disappear with age.

2. Reassurance from your partner
You already know this one. You can get reassurance 100 times… and it feels good for a moment, but it never lasts. The moment they pull away or get busy, it’s back.

Your partner can’t fix this for you, not because they don’t love you, but because the wound isn’t in them.

It’s inside you, and that’s the good news, because it means you have the power to shift it.

3. More research and more information
You’re smart. You’ve already saved the posts, listened to the podcasts, done the attachment quizzes and named the pattern.
Your mind understands it… but your body still reacts.

Why?! I’m telling it to calm down but it never listens!

It’s because attachment wounds don’t live in your thoughts: they live in your nervous system, and it doesn’t speak the language of words or information.

No amount of overthinking, analysing or educating yourself will soothe the younger parts of you that feel scared or tender.

If you’re reading this and thinking “oh… that’s me,” It means you’re ready for the deeper, somatic layer, the one that actually heals, rather than temporarily numbing the anxiety.

We’re excited for you- Because you now have an exciting opportunity to do it differently: In the way Britt has taught many many women to do so, using her magic potion of Parts-work, Inner Child Healing and Somatic regulation.

Join Britt’s workshop on anxious attachment this Sunday or work with her 1:1 through contemporary counselling, either in or anywhere in Australia via Telehealth 🫶🏻

Links in bio or DM us ATTACHMENT 👏🏻

24/11/2025

22/11/2025

💔TIME WON’T HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY 💔

Sorry, not sorry.

Wishing it away, hiding it or pretending it doesn’t happen won’t being the soothing, assurance and calmness you desire and deserve in relationships.

Britt has so much to share around how you can come out of your head, attune to the part of you that feels anxious in relationships and genuinely somatically soothe yourself.

What Britt shares works because it heals YOU and your beautiful younger Self who is crying out for you.

Britt will guide you and your Inner Child with compassion, parts-work, reverence and gentleness.

WORK WITH BRITT IN 2 WAYS

✨Upcoming Women’s workshop ✨

Sunday 30th Nov 10:00-11:30am Cottesloe.

✨ COUNSELLING WITH BRITT ✨

Work with Britt for yourself or couples counselling to deep dive into the illuminating pattern of attachment which will help strengthen your own confidence and sense of security in relationships.

DM us BRITT for more info or explore our highlights and link in bio 🫶🏻

YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND BEING LOVED AS IS- NO PROVING NEEDED. 🙌

21/11/2025

🥸IF OUR COUPLES COUNSELLORS AUDITED YOUR RELATIONSHIP- WHAT WOULD WE FIND? 🥸

Is your relationship missing the “middle layer” of connection?

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If a couples therapist audited your communication, here’s what we’d likely find.

Many couples live in a loop between superficial logistics (“What’s for dinner? Who’s taking the kids?”) and conflict plus repair.
It’s either practical or it’s a fight.
And the emotional connection in the middle quietly disappears.

Without that middle ground — tenderness, curiosity, check-ins, genuine sharing — relationships start to feel disconnected and soulless. Fights become more frequent because the emotional bank account is empty.

So here’s the shift:
✔️ Rebuild emotional connection.
✔️ Check in like you would with your closest friend.
✔️ Ask how your partner truly is.
✔️ Share how you truly are.
✔️ Create safety and warmth every day, not just after a fight.

Work with us through dedicated couples counselling to rebuild the emotional connection you’ve lost. Visit our website or DM us COUPLES for further info.

20/11/2025

As therapists, we often hear these two beliefs from clients:

I need to fix my attachment style before I date again.
There’s something wrong with me, and I really need to fix it.
These two beliefs are subconsciously saying: You’re broken and you need to fix yourself before your partner or love interest can truly love you.

We get it, but we don’t really agree with either of these beliefs.

Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, an anxious attachment style can feel like such a barrier to feeling the calm, consistent and secure love you crave.

When you’re more anxiously oriented, you can really feel like you’re working SO hard to regulate yourself and keep your relationship connected.

You react and feel hurt when your love interest or partner doesn’t want to be as close as you do.

You can have repetitive arguments where you want more connection, and your love interest/partner doesn’t understand it and keeps saying that they’re giving enough, so it should be enough for you?!

You can feel really confused about how that is enough for them, when you crave more time together, more discussions about the relationship and a deeper bond.

Often, especially in dating, you’ll hide and mask your anxiety and try to play it cool so they never see the unsettled side of you.

It can feel like a roller coaster - some days your love cup is full, and others it feels so empty, even the very next day or hours after you felt full.

You can really start to feel all over the place and then, you often enter a spiral that tells you:

You’re broken

You’re so annoying

You’re too much, too emotional!

You’re a psycho

You’re completely unlovable like this...
..and therefore, it’s only a matter of time before they get fed up with you and say they’ve had enough. Right?

Wrong.

Let our attachment focused counsellor Britt guide you to a different way in her up-coming workshop.

This is a chance for you to explore these patterns and tools, which will support your self-esteem in a safe, supportive space with others who experience the same things.

DM us WOMENS CAVE for more or view link in bio 🫶🏻

20/11/2025

🌸AFFIRMATIONS FOR RELATIONSHIP ANXIETIES 🌸