25/01/2026
This month’s not so subtle reminder 💫🖤🔥 something I tried to forget.
No matter how much I heal, how much I soften, how much I try to be the bigger person. Some people will still only meet me at their level.
They’ll only hear me through their own wounds. Only see me through their own lens. Only interpret me through their own perception. 🐍
And that isn’t my responsibility. It isn’t my problem to fix.
And it definitely isn’t my job to shrink, explain, or bend myself into something they can finally understand.
I’ve realised the biggest cause of my hurt and disappointment isn’t what people do… It’s the expectations I place on them.
💫Expecting emotional maturity.
💫Expecting honesty.
💫Expecting accountability.
💫Expecting communication that matches my heart.
But some people don’t have access to that.
Not because I’m asking too much…but because they simply can’t meet me there.
So I’m letting go.
Of the hope they’ll change.
Of the need for closure.
Of expecting people to show up how I would.
Because peace comes when you stop expecting depth from people who only live on the surface.
But Im not angry.. I’m finally clear 💫
Because once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
🔥You stop begging for basic respect.
🔥You stop explaining your heart to people committed to misunderstanding you.
🔥You stop handing access to people who only know how to handle you with poison.
Boundaries aren’t bitterness, they’re basic self respect! 💁🏽♀️🖤🔥
So January said to me “Stop expecting warmth from cold people” and I said “cool, access revoked” 💁🏽♀️🖤🔥