Aveley Counselling Services

18/02/2026

18/02/2026

A solar eclipse is a powerful pause when the light changes and everything feels different for a moment. It can bring strong emotions and sudden clarity, which makes it a meaningful time to reset your thoughts. Affirmations help you stay grounded and focused instead of overwhelmed.

Simple statements like “I welcome new beginnings” or “I trust my next step” give your mind direction. When you speak them during an eclipse, they feel stronger and more intentional. You are choosing what you want to grow instead of reacting to change.

An eclipse symbolizes release and renewal. Using affirmations during this time helps you let go of what feels heavy and step toward what feels aligned. Clear words, spoken with belief, can turn this cosmic shift into a personal fresh start.

18/02/2026

Peace got louder when I stopped explaining myself 😌

There comes a point where you stop proving, stop fixing, stop fighting to be understood… and you just move forward.

And baby, there is so much freedom in that.

If this feels like a season you’re in right now, you’re not alone 💛

18/02/2026

Yesterday I was angry. Not just with someone but also myself. Anger at my impatience, my intolerance and anger at my incompetence. Instead of pushing anger away I closed my eyes and went into it. I let go of control, power and perfection and felt much easier afterwards. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to d*ie.
Aveley Counselling Services sees both individuals and couples counselling and loves working with people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Sonia Neale (BA Arts - Psych/Counselling). Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Member ACA Level 2
Mobile: 0427 730 444
Email: aveleycounselling@iinet.net.au
Website: aveleycounsellingservices.com
Address: Upper level, Aveley Medical Centre, 15 Flecker Promenade, Aveley

09/02/2026

Are you experiencing communication and conflict issues in your relationships? When in high conflict, being able to talk peacefully about important issues without being triggered can feel almost impossible. Relationship issues can be about unmet needs and unresolved issues. What are you not getting from your partner that you desperately crave? Do you bring up old arguments every time there is a current one. Festering thoughts and ruminations can destroy the fabric of any relationship. No relationship is perfect but couples can do better by slowing down using present moment awareness and mindfulness. As someone in very long term relationship myself I mostly take my learnings and own advice that I give out as a couples counsellor. Mostly. My thoughts are it is about making a decision about where you want to spend your precious time and limited energy on.
Aveley Counselling Services sees both individuals and couples counselling and loves working with people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Sonia Neale (BA Arts - Psych/Counselling). Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Member ACA Level 2
Mobile: 0427 730 444
Email: aveleycounselling@iinet.net.au
Website: aveleycounsellingservices.com
Address: Upper level, Aveley Medical Centre, 15 Flecker Promenade, Aveley

01/02/2026

Our Shadow Side
We all have a shadow side that lurks in the background of the soundtrack of our lives.
The shadow side represents the unconscious, repressed, or disowned aspects of the personality—including "negative" traits like anger, fear, and selfishness, as well as hidden talents. It acts as a "dark side" that, if ignored, can cause self-sabotage, relationship issues, and projection of these traits onto others.
The idea of therapy can be to make the unconscious conscious, leading to wholeness, authenticity, and personal growth by identifying triggers (what bothers you in others is often a reflection of your own shadow), analyzing recurring conflicts, and journaling.
Embracing the shadow reduces the need for projection, improves emotional regulation, and fosters self-acceptance.

Aveley Counselling Services sees both individuals and couples counselling and loves working with people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Sonia Neale (BA Arts - Psych/Counselling). Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Member ACA Level 2
Mobile: 0427 730 444
Email: aveleycounselling@iinet.net.au
Website: aveleycounsellingservices.com
Address: Upper level, Aveley Medical Centre, 15 Flecker Promenade, Aveley

25/01/2026

Aveley Counselling works with clients meeting them wherever they are in their life journey. Some clients and I are working towards a new realignment and connection with self. So what does that mean? It's about the mind/brain/body/soul connection. Finding that elusive sense of purpose and meaning deep inside our bones, hiding in plain sight waiting to be awakened by a bit of self-examination through Socratic questioning. The main question being what do we want the rest of our life to look like?
Aveley Counselling Services sees both individuals and couples counselling and loves working with people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Sonia Neale (BA Arts - Psych/Counselling). Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Member ACA Level 2
Mobile: 0427 730 444
Email: aveleycounselling@iinet.net.au
Website: aveleycounsellingservices.com
Address: Upper level, Aveley Medical Centre, 15 Flecker Promenade, Aveley

14/01/2026

Retirement can be a wonderful thing, or it can leave some people questioning their life choices, their losses, their traumas and sometimes their very existence. It can be quite a jolt to the system navigating this new expanded yawning open space with endless time, where perhaps before it was filled with a parenthood or work identity.
For some it can be filled with the joy of self. You now have time to paint, draw, sing, dance, sew, garden, cook, write, hike or exercise or whatever it is you want to do to your hearts content. Even then with most of your ducks in a row this lifestyle change and the aging process can be quite frightening, lonely and empty. Many ancient grievances can surface and keep resurfacing and flood the brain with endless rumination without any closure.
At the blunt end of life finding a new structure and routine can be a daunting process. This stage of life is not for the faint hearted.
Aveley Counselling Services provides both individuals and couples counselling and especially enjoys working with people with Borderline Personality Disorder
Sonia Neale (BA Arts - Psych/Counselling). Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Member ACA Level 2
Mobile: 0427 730 444
Email: aveleycounselling@iinet.net.au
Website: aveleycounsellingservices.com
Address: Upper level, Aveley Medical Centre, 15 Flecker Promenade, Aveley.