03/20/2026
When my nervous system is activated, big practices can feel like too much.
Like… even “just do some yoga” can land like another thing I’m supposed to do. And when I’m already at capacity, my body doesn’t always hear that as support - it hears it as pressure. Like I’m failing at self-care on top of everything else.
So I look for micro-softening instead. Tiny cues of safety that don’t require motivation, a perfect routine, or the “right” headspace. Just small moments that help my system come down a notch.
And I’m not consistent in a pretty way.
Sometimes I remember.
Sometimes I don’t.
Sometimes I do the “right” thing and still feel edgy.
Sometimes the softening is literally just noticing: wow… I’m holding a lot right now. (No fixing. No analyzing. Just naming it.)
If you want to try it (only if it feels supportive), you could ask:
“What would feel 5% softer in this moment?”
Not 50%. Not fixed. Not perfect. Just… a little softer. Small is still support. 🌱