Dr. Melisa Arias-Valenzuela, CPsych

Dr. Melisa Arias-Valenzuela, CPsych Dr. Arias-Valenzuela is a clinical psychologist who works with people with eating disorders, negative body image and perinatal mental health challenges.

She is also the founder and director of Uprise Psychology & Wellness.

Because body image doesn’t exist in a vacuum.When the world feels unpredictable, politically, socially, economically, th...
01/27/2026

Because body image doesn’t exist in a vacuum.

When the world feels unpredictable, politically, socially, economically, the nervous system looks for something it can control. For many of us, that “something” becomes the body. The mirror. The photo. The perceived flaw we can zoom in on when everything else feels too big, too chaotic, too out of reach.

As a psychologist specializing in body image, I don’t see this as vanity or self-absorption. I see it as a learned coping response. Body surveillance is often one of the earliest tools we’re given to manage anxiety, uncertainty, and worth. It’s socially rewarded. It’s familiar. And it promises safety, even when it never truly delivers it.

So no, the problem isn’t that you still have body image thoughts while the world is burning. The problem is the story that tells you those thoughts mean something is wrong with you.

Diet culture thrives during times of collective stress because it offers simple answers to complex pain: control your body, and you’ll feel better. But psychologically, that turns the body into a battleground, a place where fear, grief, and helplessness get stored instead of processed.

You’re allowed to care deeply about the state of the world and struggle with your body. One does not invalidate the other. This isn’t a moral failure. It’s a nervous system doing what it was conditioned to do.

Healing isn’t about never criticizing a photo again. It’s about gently questioning why your body became the place where all that tension landed and whether it deserves to carry that weight alone.

You landed on my post for a reason. For more support on your body image resilience journey, follow 🙋🏻‍♀️
Also follow my practice for everyday mental wellness 🏡

Disclaimer: My social media accounts are for educational purposes only and should not be considered psychotherapy or medical care.

As a body image psychologist, I see the same stories in many different bodies: people hoping that changing their weight ...
01/21/2026

As a body image psychologist, I see the same stories in many different bodies: people hoping that changing their weight or shape will finally bring peace.
I’m sharing this because these are the hills I will die on, as the truths I won’t soften.

Sometimes weight loss does bring peace, for a while. But body image doesn’t disappear just because the body changes. Because body image isn’t only about the body. It’s about what we’ve learned to believe about ourselves, what we’ve internalized as proof of our worth, and how much we fear judgment. So yes, weight loss can change how you look, but it doesn’t automatically change how you feel.
Healing your relationship with your body should never require control. If feeling better depends on restriction, fear, or constant monitoring, that’s not healing, it’s coping. Relief from control is not the same as recovery.
You don’t need to love your body to treat it with respect. Body neutrality isn’t giving up. It’s often the most realistic, compassionate place to start.
You have autonomy over your body and you deserve informed consent. GLP-1s, diets, and cosmetic procedures can affect body image, eating patterns, self-worth, and fear of judgment. You deserve to know that before deciding.
If your self-worth rises and falls with your body, that’s not motivation, it’s a threat response. Healing happens when your nervous system feels supported, not controlled.
If this resonates, you’re not alone. You deserve a different relationship with your body, one grounded in respect, not fear.

You landed on my post for a reason. For more support on your body image resilience journey, follow 🙋🏻‍♀️
Also follow my practice for everyday mental wellness 🏡

Disclaimer: My social media accounts are for educational purposes only and should not be considered psychotherapy or medical care.

Let’s talk about something almost no one talks about: jealousy and envy around bodies.It’s common. Extremely common. And...
01/09/2026

Let’s talk about something almost no one talks about: jealousy and envy around bodies.
It’s common. Extremely common. And yet, because we’re taught these emotions are “ugly” or “wrong,” many people feel shame for even noticing them. They hide, minimize, or beat themselves up for comparing. But here’s the truth: comparison doesn’t mean you’re failing at body image, but that you’re human.
Envy is a signal emotion. It’s information, not a flaw. It shows us what we value, what we long for, and what we might want to develop in ourselves. When we respond skillfully, envy can guide growth, connection, and self-reflection. When we respond with shame, rumination, or self-criticism, it becomes unhelpful and distressing.

So what does responding skillfully look like? In my work as a psychologist, I teach people to:
✅Name it without judgment : acknowledging envy reduces fusion and shame.
✅Follow the signal ask: What is this really pointing to? Confidence? Ease? Belonging? Permission to rest?
✅Notice unhelpful patterns: if envy triggers rumination, restriction, or self-attack, pause and regulate first.
✅Go opposite: wish the person you envy well, and focus on what you admire and want to gently develop in yourself.
This isn’t about eliminating envy. It’s about responding to it with skill, curiosity, and self-compassion. It’s about noticing your needs and values without punishing yourself for having them.
💛 Feeling envy doesn’t make you “bad” or “weak.” It makes you human and it’s an opportunity to practice emotional agility and self-respect.
If you find yourself spiraling in comparison, save this post. Try one of these strategies next time envy pops up.

You landed on my post for a reason. For more support on your body image resilience journey, follow 🙋🏻‍♀️
Also follow my practice for everyday mental wellness 🏡

Disclaimer: My social media accounts are for educational purposes only and should not be considered psychotherapy or medical care.

What if this year wasn’t about fixing your body, but repairing your relationship with it? Every January, we’re sold the ...
01/01/2026

What if this year wasn’t about fixing your body, but repairing your relationship with it?

Every January, we’re sold the same message:
New year, new body.
Try harder. Control more. Shrink faster.

But as a psychologist who works with eating disorders and body image concerns, decades of research tell us something very different.

Chronic dieting, body surveillance, and self-criticism don’t create lasting change; they increase shame, food preoccupation, and disconnection from the body. In fact, the more we treat our bodies like problems to solve, the harder it becomes to trust them and it creates all sorts of problems.

Body acceptance isn’t about loving how you look every day.
It’s about choosing respect over punishment.
Curiosity over judgment.
Care over control.

That might look like:
• Practicing body-neutral self-talk instead of criticism
• Letting go of food rules that turn eating into a moral test
• Moving your body in ways that support your nervous system not override it
• Setting boundaries around diet culture and harmful body talk
• Meeting yourself with compassion, especially on the days it feels hardest

These aren’t “easy” resolutions.
They’re protective ones.

And they’re especially important after the holidays, when bodies change, routines shift, and pressure ramps up to “get back on track.” Your body doesn’t need correction, it needs consistency, nourishment, and kindness.

If you’re tired of starting every year at war with your body, you’re not the only one. You’re choosing to break a system that taught you to distrust yourself.

Support exists. Change is possible. And it doesn’t come from more control.

Save this for January.
Share it with someone who deserves a gentler start to the year.
And remember: your body is not a project for 2026. It’s a relationship. 💛

You landed on my post for a reason. For more support on your body image resilience journey, follow 🙋🏻‍♀️
Also follow my practice for everyday mental wellness 🏡

Disclaimer: My social media accounts are for educational purposes only and should not be considered psychotherapy or medical care.

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