08/12/2025
"He couldn’t stop thinking about the 'what ifs'…"
A young man came to us burdened with pain and anger after his girlfriend made the difficult decision to have an abortion. He had tried many times to change her mind, but ultimately, she felt unable to continue the pregnancy at this point in her life.
In the weeks that followed his thoughts were consumed with the “what if’s”, thinking that if he had said the right thing or done something differently, it would have led to a different outcome.
Week after week, he came to a space where he could be real and heard without judgment. Slowly, he began to process the weight of his experience. He found validation for his feelings and discovered that men, too, can grieve after abortion.
He began to express his anger and, underneath it, uncovered a deep sadness for the life he would never know.
In time, healing began to take root. He started to feel compassion toward his ex-girlfriend. As part of his journey, he revisited his faith and began reconnecting with God in a way that felt meaningful to him. He also felt drawn back to a church community something that brought peace and direction in the midst of his grief.
It is our greatest honour and privilege to walk alongside people who are hurting from a pregnancy loss. There is no judgment. We create a safe space where deep hurts can be talked about and be met with care and empathy.
