Jathina Blais MSW, RSW - Counselling

12/10/2025

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" If you’ve ever bounced between “it wasn’t that bad” and “why did this happen to me?” - you’re not alone.

This is what complex trauma does.

It scrambles your reality.
It makes you question your own pain.
It convinces you that you’re dramatic… or ungrateful… or somehow responsible.

None of that is the truth.
That’s trauma talking; not you.

And you shouldn’t have to untangle all of this in isolation.

If this reel hit home, I want you to know there’s a space built exactly for survivors like us - a place where these thoughts don’t need explaining, and you don’t have to minimize what you lived through to be taken seriously."

🎥 From the movie, Sorry Baby

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12/10/2025

Repost A helpful reminder as the holidays ramp up: focus your energy on the things that you can actually control. You can't fix family drama or make everyone get along, but you can protect your boundaries and your peace.

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12/06/2025

Repost@greggmedia Adult children don’t walk away from true love.
Kids are hardwired to want a relationship with their parents.

So if they’re choosing distance, there are some serious red flags that should not be ignored.

In narcissistic family systems, the power dynamic remains…even when the child becomes an adult.

The parent has had years of complete control, where they could abuse their innocent child who had no way out.

And in big families, those dynamics get even more complex.

There’s the golden child(ren), who mirror the parent’s dysfunction to get their needs met, even becoming narcissistic themselves.
The peacekeeper(s), who detach emotionally just to survive, but don’t take a clear stand.
And the scapegoat(s), who get blamed for everything.

When the scapegoat finally chooses to protect themselves from continued harm, so they can put their energy toward healing instead of surviving the dysfunction…

The narcissistic parent(s) and golden child(ren) usually team up and say:

“They’re the toxic one.”
“They’re the narcissist.”
“They’re dividing the family.”

Classic projection. Classic triangulation.

Narcissistic family systems are built on silence and lies, so when someone speaks truth, they become a threat to the entire foundation of the system.

The scapegoat is expected to carry all the pain and endure harm with a smile, even when it’s deeply harming them and their own family.

And if they don’t?
They’re not only rejected by their family of origin, they’re judged by society too.

It’s a disgusting dynamic.
And it needs to be talked about.

The scapegoat isn’t the villain.
They’re the one doing the painful work of breaking harmful cycles…

So the next generation doesn’t have to spend their lives healing from wounds that were never theirs to begin with.

So they can finally lean fully into healing and growth and create a life aligned with their values, not the script they were forced to carry.

They are making this world better, one person committed to healing and growth at a time.

If you’re the scapegoat in your family, you’re not alone.

The work you’re doing is incredibly hard…
But so worth it.

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12/02/2025

Reposted " Did this feel familiar? You’re not alone.

Turning a child’s private life into a joke might get a laugh, but it also teaches them many things such as vulnerability isn’t safe, privacy belongs to other people, their discomfort is entertainment

That has a long-term cost.
And many adults are still carrying it. Original video by .bro"

11/06/2025

11/04/2025

Repost Understanding someone’s pain doesn’t mean excusing what they do with it.

You can care about where it came from and still set limits on how it shows up.

Compassion should never cost your peace, and empathy doesn’t mean letting someone keep hurting you.

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10/30/2025

Reposted feom .therapist Therapy isn’t always a glow-up — sometimes it’s a breakdown that makes room to rebuild. ☁️

Some days you leave feeling light, empowered, and clear.
Other days you walk out exhausted, emotional, and unsure of what just happened. Both are progress. Both are valid. 💗

Healing doesn’t always look graceful, but it’s still movement forward.
If you’ve ever left therapy wondering, “Was that progress?” — this post is for you. 🧠✨

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10/28/2025

.and.cptsd What’s a boundary with yourself that’s helped you heal?⁠

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10/27/2025

I'm proud to support the next generation of female athletes! 💪❤️💙

As a sponsor of local girls’ ringette, I'm cheering on every goal, every pass, and every moment of teamwork on (and off) the ice.

Here’s to empowering young girls through sport — building confidence, leadership, and lifelong friendships. 🥏✨ - Jathina Blais M.S.W, R.S.W

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10/19/2025

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"The ideal goal in healing is that we could heal with our families.

Many of us wish the cycle ending looked like reconciliation, like mutual growth, like finally being able to come together and break the patterns that harmed us.

Many of us just want the pain and shame & negativity to end.

That is the hope, that family could be part of the healing.

But the reality is often different.

Many families would rather preserve the cycle than end it.

They choose denial, silence, or loyalty to dysfunction, even if it means remaining in a family dynamic that keeps harm alive.

They want to remain family at any cost, even if that cost us our dignity, safety, or truth.

So for many of us, the cycle ending does not happen in the family system.

It happens when we choose not to carry the cycle forward in our own lives.

It happens when we choose ourselves, our healing, and our liberation, even if they refuse to come with us.

And let me be clear, ending the cycle on your own still is cycle ending. It still matters. It is still sacred. You do not need their cooperation to heal & have liberation.

You're not betraying your family by ending the cycle you are honoring and respecting yourself. 🦋"

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10/16/2025

Reposted ✨ Your nervous system isn’t broken — it’s protecting you.
When you find yourself fawning, stuck in fight/flight, or frozen, your body is simply trying to keep you safe.

💛 The good news: you can gently guide it back into balance.
Small, simple practices like grounding, breathing, or mindful movement can signal safety and help you return to yourself.

Healing doesn’t mean forcing or rushing — it means listening to your body with compassion.

Save this chart as a reminder: your body is doing its best, and you deserve to feel safe again. 🌱

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