My Psychological Wellness

My Psychological Wellness Paula Slater MSc Psych GMBPsS:
Helping adults and children discover the very best version of themselves. This is where I come in.

Since 2004, my mission has been to help and empower adults and children to overcome their most challenging obstacles and start living happier and healthier lifestyles. My extensive experience means that I'm fully equipped to guide, support and assist you in building the life you clearly deserve. I have a BA HONS Degree in Children, Schools and Families and have completed an MA in Psychology. My qualifications don't stop there, though; you can view them on the FAQ tab! I aim to create a life balance that prioritises your well-being and celebrates all aspects of your true self. It's time to start nurturing your body and soul again!


Children:
I have worked in education for nearly 20 years helping primary school children by giving them the tools they need to succeed, not only in education but socially and emotionally. I do this by empowering them to understand themselves better, including how their brain works and how it influences their behaviours and choices. Once children are armed with this knowledge, they can use the tools provided to improve their mental health and well-being and ultimately become happier and more confident. Adults:
I have a wealth of experience in dealing with the aftermath of abuse, domestic violence, coercive control, grief, addiction, depression, life coaching, su***de, mental health and well-being and relationships. It isn't always easy to just walk away, tell someone or move on; we first need to be able to accept what has happened, reflect, decide and then take steps to heal. I can work with you to help bring your mind and body back into equilibrium through various therapeutic techniques. I am not a counsellor, so my approach is not linked to any kind of theorist or intervention. Instead, I listen, I hear you, I discover what motivates you and then together, we explore new goals and ambitions in a realistic and time-sensitive manner. I will help you to understand yourself better and learn to love who you are. Signposting:
If for any reason, I feel that you/they require more specialised support, I will signpost you/them to the relevant services and recommend that you seek their help. My role is not to replace any required specialised service but to compliment them by motivating you/them to be inspired.


You've come this far, you've accepted that you or your child needs some extra support - well done! Now allow me to help guide you/them through to a more fulfilling stage of life, after all, we only get one chance at it so let's get it right! All I ask, is that you trust the process.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how often we label people as “lazy” at work.But what if that’s not actually what’s...
27/03/2026

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how often we label people as “lazy” at work.

But what if that’s not actually what’s going on?

What if some of the people we’re frustrated with aren’t unmotivated… they’re stuck?

There’s a concept in psychology called learned helplessness. It happens when someone has experienced enough setbacks, lack of control, or criticism that they stop believing their efforts will make any difference.

So they disengage.
They stop putting themselves forward.
They do the minimum.

From the outside, it can look like a lack of drive. But underneath, it’s often a lack of belief that anything they do will change the outcome.

As leaders and organisations, this is an uncomfortable but important question to ask:

Are my people lazy, or have they learned that their voice, effort, or initiative doesn’t matter?

Because if it’s the latter, no amount of pressure, targets, or performance management will fix it.

What does help is creating an environment where people can start to feel a sense of agency again. Where their input is heard. Where effort leads to something meaningful. Where small wins rebuild confidence.

In my work, I support individuals and organisations to understand these patterns and gently shift them. That might mean helping someone reconnect with their confidence, or helping leaders recognise what might be unintentionally reinforcing disengagement.

When people feel safe, seen, and able to make an impact, something changes.

They don’t just perform better. They show up differently.

And often, the “laziness” disappears.

Freezing in the face of fear and trauma is an automatic response, not a choice. ❄️There's so much stigma surrounding hav...
27/03/2026

Freezing in the face of fear and trauma is an automatic response, not a choice. ❄️

There's so much stigma surrounding having a ‘freeze’ response to trauma, asking themselves “why didn't I do more?”

But there's nothing anyone experiencing a freeze response could have done. ❤️

A freeze response is activated by the parasympathetic nervous system and might make you feel like you're trapped and unable to move.

It stems from blood rushing away from your outer organs, leaving you temporarily unable to access reason and logic.

Even after the initial trauma, your response to a certain thing might still be the same - that's what we call a fear.

It's not that you've chosen not to change the way you react to fear, it's that your parasympathetic nervous system can't differentiate between the past and the present so as long as the threat feels real and immediate, you'll react the same way.

The good news is that it's possible to train your brain to react differently by developing an alternative response pathway with the help of a professional.

But, please be kind to yourself and never feel ashamed of a freeze response. 🤗

If you’d like to discover how I can support you in understanding your response to trauma find out more or get in touch via my website:
www.mypsychologicalwellness.co.uk.

We live in a world where people often promise a lot… and then struggle to follow through.As therapists, I think we have ...
26/03/2026

We live in a world where people often promise a lot… and then struggle to follow through.

As therapists, I think we have to be really mindful of that.

Our work isn’t about guarantees or quick fixes. It’s about being real with people.

About showing up honestly, and walking alongside them in something that’s often messy, slow, and deeply personal.

Healing doesn’t happen in a straight line. And when we over-promise outcomes, even with good intentions, we can end up chipping away at trust without meaning to.

Therapy isn’t something we do to someone. It’s something we build together, over time.

That’s why I’ve come to believe in under-promising and over-delivering.

Not as a tactic, but as a way of working that feels grounded and ethical.

For me, that looks like being clear about what therapy can and can’t offer.

Letting people move at their own pace, not the pace we think they “should” be at.

Making space for the complexity of their experience instead of trying to tidy it up.

And trusting that change will come, rather than trying to force it.

What I’ve noticed is that when we work this way, something shifts.

People feel steadier. There’s less disappointment. More trust.

They start to see their own strength, instead of feeling dependent on ours.

And that trust, the quiet, steady kind, is where the real work happens.

In the end, it’s rarely the big promises that make the difference.

It’s the consistency. The presence.

The small moments, over and over again, where we show up and give more than we said we would.

Https://www.mypsychologicalwellness.co.uk

Helping adults and children from all walks of life to discover the very best version of themselves.

📢  I don’t say this often… but I currently have space for new clients 📢 If you’ve been thinking about reaching out, or k...
25/03/2026

📢 I don’t say this often… but I currently have space for new clients 📢

If you’ve been thinking about reaching out, or keep telling yourself “I’ll do it at some point”… maybe this is your moment.

I work with:

🌿 Adults navigating life, stress, trauma and change

🌿 Children & young people who need a safe, steady space

🌿 Schools & safeguarding teams

🌿 Residential homes

🌿 Legal firms needing thoughtful, professional input

Most of the time, my diary is full, so when space opens up, it usually doesn’t stay for long.

Reaching out can feel like a big step. I get that.

But it can also be the start of something lighter, clearer, and more supported 🤍

📩 If it’s for you (or someone you care about), feel free to message me. We can just start with a conversation.

Sometimes the right time isn’t about everything being perfect… It’s just about starting 🤗

Helping adults and children from all walks of life to discover the very best version of themselves.

If things have been feeling a bit challenging lately, you don’t have to hold it all on your own.I offer a warm, supporti...
24/03/2026

If things have been feeling a bit challenging lately, you don’t have to hold it all on your own.

I offer a warm, supportive space where you can talk things through at your own pace.

I have some availability at the moment and am welcoming new clients. Feel free to reach out.

I work with adults, children and young people.

Helping adults and children from all walks of life to discover the very best version of themselves.

At times, it’s fair to say that psychology and neuroscience are frenemies. 😅I couldn’t be a psychologist without an unde...
23/03/2026

At times, it’s fair to say that psychology and neuroscience are frenemies. 😅

I couldn’t be a psychologist without an understanding of neuroscientific concepts, but the list of terms is really rather long.

But as I’ve progressed in my career, I’ve realised that they have one common enemy…

The English dictionary! 📚

The number of new words you hear as a trainee psychologist or even stumble across on Google looking for a psychologist to book an appointment with is astounding!

I very much remember what that feels like, so when you speak to me, I’ll try not to bamboozle you.

And if I do, this is your written permission to become my own personal jargon buster. 🤣

I’ve been reading Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey into the Afterlife by Dr. Eben Alexander and it’s really giv...
21/03/2026

I’ve been reading Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey into the Afterlife by Dr. Eben Alexander and it’s really given me food for thought about the connection between grief, love, meaning and purpose. 📖

In psychology, the brain can often be reduced to an organ in which a series of chemical reactions occur to cause certain behaviours.

Yes, chemical reactions play a huge role in helping us understand why we behave in a certain way, but Dr. Alexander’s description of his near-death experience reminded me of how much we’ve yet to discover about what it means to be conscious.

Three things in particular resonated with me: his certainty that life has meaning and purpose, his assertion that death is a transition rather than a finality, and his unshakeable belief that unconditional love is the foundation of the universe.

As a psychologist, it’s good to be reminded that not every concept can be explained away by science or filed away under the category of ‘spiritual’ .

I reckon that if we were more receptive to these ideas that belong to the intersection (rather than dismissing them out-of-hand like many reviewers with a medical or scientific background at the time), we’d perhaps go a long way in strengthening our understanding of the connection between grief, love, meaning, and purpose.

And that can only be a good thing for everyone in my field. 🪶

There’s something quietly powerful about stepping outside for just five minutes of sunshine. ☀️In a world that constantl...
19/03/2026

There’s something quietly powerful about stepping outside for just five minutes of sunshine. ☀️

In a world that constantly asks for more more time, more energy, more productivity it’s easy to overlook the simplest reset available to us a short walk in natural light.

Even a few minutes outdoors can:

☀️ Lift your mood and reduce stress.

☀️ Boost focus and mental clarity.

☀️ Support your body’s natural rhythms.

☀️ Create a moment of calm in a busy day.

It doesn’t have to be a long walk, a perfect route, or a grand plan. Just step outside, feel the light on your face, take a breath, and let your nervous system catch up with you.

Sometimes the smallest pauses make the biggest difference.

Today’s reminder you don’t need an hour just five minutes can shift everything.

A session with me is never a one-size-fits-all solution 🤗As an AuDHDer currently experiencing the menopause, I understan...
19/03/2026

A session with me is never a one-size-fits-all solution 🤗

As an AuDHDer currently experiencing the menopause, I understand more than most how your needs can change from session to session.

Whether you require movement breaks to help you maintain your focus or just need me to open the window to let some cool air in, I’m happy to make reasonable adjustments to help you get the most out of your sessions.

Because everyone deserves to feel seen, heard, and understood. 🙏

If you have any questions before you book a session, feel free to reach out to me via my website: www.mypsychologicalwellness.co.uk.

This week is Neurodiversity Celebration Week and I'm bringing the snacks(ized) social media posts! 👌I never like to turn...
18/03/2026

This week is Neurodiversity Celebration Week and I'm bringing the snacks(ized) social media posts! 👌

I never like to turn up to a celebration empty-handed, and this one is pretty special for me!

I'm a proud member of the AuDHD community and I love working alongside and helping the wider neurodivergent community as well as the neurotypical community.

I love finding ways to celebrate my clients' strengths and help them see their capabilities in a new light. And that's what Neurodiversity Celebration Week intends to do. 🎊

It's not about denying that our community faces challenges or celebrating the fact you forgot to empty the washing machine last night because you got distracted by some chocolate (been there, done that! 😉)

It's about celebrating the collective and individual strengths we bring that can make a real impact on the world. ❤️

It’s Neurodiversity Week, and I’d like to share something about me.For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt uncomfortabl...
17/03/2026

It’s Neurodiversity Week, and I’d like to share something about me.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt uncomfortable in my own body in ways I could never quite explain, and that didn’t seem to make sense to anyone else.

Something as simple as clothes shopping can completely overwhelm me. The rails, the changing room lights, the noise, the movement of people in the street. It all comes at me at once. It’s sensory overload. So I often avoid it altogether, and I’ve been known to wear the same clothes for years.

I’ve also always struggled with how things feel on my body. I don’t like my hair on my face, but tying it up doesn’t feel right either. So I wear sunglasses on my head to keep my hair out of my face so I can feel comfortable, even in the rain, and dark.

And smells. I notice even the faintest ones, and they can make me feel physically sick or completely shift my mood.

I’ve lived like this my whole life without understanding why.

Along the way, there were comments like:

“Here she is again with her glasses on”, or

“Paula, you’ve been wearing the same clothes for years”.

I have felt pressured to go out for meals when I didn’t want to.

Those words stayed with me because I didn’t yet understand myself. I felt different, and wrong.

Recently, as an adult, I was diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and suddenly everything made sense.

Now, I wear my sunglasses proudly. I dress in what feels right for me. I honour my limits. I don’t force myself into environments that overwhelm me. And I surround myself with people who share my values, people who are kind, understanding and accepting.

This Neurodiversity Week, I want to say this.

What might look like a quirk to one person may be someone else’s way of coping, regulating or simply getting through the day.

Understanding changes everything, but acceptance is where the real freedom is.

If you are still trying to make sense of yourself, you are not too much, too sensitive or difficult.

You are learning how to be you in a world that wasn’t built with your nervous system in mind, and that is something to be proud of.

Here I am, with glasses on my head, the same walking gear i've had for years, in my favourite place with some of my favourite people 😍

Ever notice how your mind can twist reality without you even realising? That’s cognitive distortions at work 🧠They’re th...
17/03/2026

Ever notice how your mind can twist reality without you even realising? That’s cognitive distortions at work 🧠

They’re those automatic, often unhelpful thought patterns that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world. And the tricky part? They feel true.

A few common ones include:

• All-or-nothing thinking, “If I’m not perfect, I’ve failed.”

• Mind reading, “They didn’t reply… they must be upset with me.”

• Catastrophising, “This went wrong, everything is going to fall apart.”

• Overgeneralising, “This always happens to me.”

These thoughts aren’t facts, they’re interpretations.

The goal isn’t to silence your thoughts (that rarely works), but to get curious about them:

🤔 Is this thought 100% true?

🤔 What evidence do I have for and against it?

🤔 Is there another way to see this situation?

With awareness comes choice. And with choice, things start to shift 💭

Be gentle with your mind, it’s trying to protect you, even when it gets it wrong.

Book a free consultation to find out more about how I can help you:

Https://www.mypsychologicalwellness.co.uk

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