My Psychological Wellness

My Psychological Wellness Paula Slater MSc Psych GMBPsS:
Helping adults and children discover the very best version of themselves. This is where I come in.

Since 2004, my mission has been to help and empower adults and children to overcome their most challenging obstacles and start living happier and healthier lifestyles. My extensive experience means that I'm fully equipped to guide, support and assist you in building the life you clearly deserve. I have a BA HONS Degree in Children, Schools and Families and have completed an MA in Psychology. My qualifications don't stop there, though; you can view them on the FAQ tab! I aim to create a life balance that prioritises your well-being and celebrates all aspects of your true self. It's time to start nurturing your body and soul again!


Children:
I have worked in education for nearly 20 years helping primary school children by giving them the tools they need to succeed, not only in education but socially and emotionally. I do this by empowering them to understand themselves better, including how their brain works and how it influences their behaviours and choices. Once children are armed with this knowledge, they can use the tools provided to improve their mental health and well-being and ultimately become happier and more confident. Adults:
I have a wealth of experience in dealing with the aftermath of abuse, domestic violence, coercive control, grief, addiction, depression, life coaching, su***de, mental health and well-being and relationships. It isn't always easy to just walk away, tell someone or move on; we first need to be able to accept what has happened, reflect, decide and then take steps to heal. I can work with you to help bring your mind and body back into equilibrium through various therapeutic techniques. I am not a counsellor, so my approach is not linked to any kind of theorist or intervention. Instead, I listen, I hear you, I discover what motivates you and then together, we explore new goals and ambitions in a realistic and time-sensitive manner. I will help you to understand yourself better and learn to love who you are. Signposting:
If for any reason, I feel that you/they require more specialised support, I will signpost you/them to the relevant services and recommend that you seek their help. My role is not to replace any required specialised service but to compliment them by motivating you/them to be inspired.


You've come this far, you've accepted that you or your child needs some extra support - well done! Now allow me to help guide you/them through to a more fulfilling stage of life, after all, we only get one chance at it so let's get it right! All I ask, is that you trust the process.

❤️ Healthy relationships change everything.Children recover when they feel safe, seen and supported by the people around...
12/12/2025

❤️ Healthy relationships change everything.

Children recover when they feel safe, seen and supported by the people around them.

And as adults, we continue to grow the most when we have someone who helps us feel that way.

This is the time of year when absolutely everything becomes a “January problem”.✉️ Emails? January.📋 Life admin? January...
10/12/2025

This is the time of year when absolutely everything becomes a “January problem”.

✉️ Emails? January.
📋 Life admin? January.
😅 That thing you promised yourself you’d do last January? Definitely January.

When you’ve been running on empty for months, your mind and body start pushing tasks into the future to protect what little capacity you have left.

That level of depletion is emotional burnout.

December is the moment many of us finally slow down enough to notice it.

❗SPOILER: You don’t have to wait until the end of the year to reset - if your system is asking you to tap out, pay attention to it.

Families pass down more than stories 📚When someone grows up with stress, fear, or instability, the ways they learned to ...
08/12/2025

Families pass down more than stories 📚

When someone grows up with stress, fear, or instability, the ways they learned to cope can sometimes be passed into the next generation without anyone realising.

🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒 This is what psychologists call intergenerational trauma - patterns that began long before you, yet still shape how you react and relate today.

Understanding where responses started isn’t about placing blame or directing negativity.

✅ It’s about being aware of the patterns and giving yourself the chance to respond differently now.

If this brings up questions about your own patterns, I can help you explore them.

www.MyPsychologicalWellness.co.uk

Freezing is one of the most misunderstood trauma responses.🐅 Animals freeze without questioning themselves. Their bodies...
05/12/2025

Freezing is one of the most misunderstood trauma responses.

🐅 Animals freeze without questioning themselves. Their bodies do it to keep them safe.

🚶‍♀️ Humans work the same way, but we add shame to something that was never a choice.

Freezing is not a weakness. It’s your nervous system stepping in when things feel overwhelming, and it deserves understanding, not judgement.

If it happens to you, a couple of things can help:

✅ Name it instead of fighting it. A simple “my body is freezing” removes pressure.
✅ Try one small sensory cue, like feeling your feet on the floor, to help your system come back online.

A pause is not a failure. It is a response with a purpose.

Some people grow up or live for years in environments that feel unpredictable, tense, or emotionally heavy. When that ha...
03/12/2025

Some people grow up or live for years in environments that feel unpredictable, tense, or emotionally heavy.

When that happens, the brain adapts and it learns ways to stay alert, manage other people’s emotions, or keep the peace.

👉 Those longer-term adaptations are often described as Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD).

It's not about one event, but the impact of ongoing stress or trauma over time.

You might notice it in things like:

😞 Shutting down when things feel too much
😬 Staying on edge
🫤 Finding it hard to trust
😥 A very self-critical inner voice
😕 Repeating familiar but unhelpful relationship patterns

These patterns usually began as ways to cope in difficult circumstances. With the right support, they can be understood and gradually reshaped.

→ If you’d like to talk to someone about what you’re experiencing, you can reach me through my website, www.MyPsychologicalWellness.co.uk

I swear winter walks are the only time my brain remembers it actually has a body 😂One minute I’m overthinking, the next ...
01/12/2025

I swear winter walks are the only time my brain remembers it actually has a body 😂

One minute I’m overthinking, the next I’m noticing the cold air on my face, the crunch under my shoes, and the fact I can see my breath like a budget dragon 🥶

Grounding doesn’t need to be fancy. That awareness is enough to bring me back to living in the moment.

❄️ Just stepping outside and letting the shift of the season do its thing is great for giving your nervous system a minute to catch up with you.

The festive season is creeping up on us 😬If you’re someone who tends to slip on your people-pleaser mask, this time of y...
28/11/2025

The festive season is creeping up on us 😬

If you’re someone who tends to slip on your people-pleaser mask, this time of year can be… a lot.

😮‍💨 The invites start flying in, group chats you haven’t heard from all year start pinging again, and before you’ve even dug the decs out, December’s booked solid.

Saying no isn’t easy, especially when guilt gets involved. But if you want to protect your energy AND your sanity, boundaries are essential.

A few things that help:

🎄 Don’t answer straight away - it’s okay to say you’ll get back to someone before saying yes to make sure it’s something you actually want to do.

🥂 Leave breathing space between plans. Don’t overstack your diary, and give yourself a day or two to recharge your social battery.

💬 Ask yourself whether you WANT to go, not whether you should.

It’s not selfish to say no. It’s self-preservation.

🪫 If this time of year always leaves you running on empty, it's worth exploring where that people-pleasing instinct comes from, and how to quiet it down.

www.MyPsychologicalWellness.co.uk

Gratitude is not a miracle cure or a mindset hack - it’s just a tiny reminder that not everything is awful. 🧠❌ You don’t...
24/11/2025

Gratitude is not a miracle cure or a mindset hack - it’s just a tiny reminder that not everything is awful. 🧠

❌ You don’t have to write a list of blessings or feel grateful for EVERY challenge life throws at you. Some things just suck and it's ok to acknowledge that.

✅ Gratitude is about noticing the little things that make the day a bit more bearable - the text from a friend, a good brew, five minutes of peace.

👉 If you struggle to spot them, try this: When something goes right (even slightly), pause before moving on.

That moment of awareness is the whole point. Psychologically, that’s enough to give your brain a breather.

It’s not life-changing. It’s regulating. ☕️

Tea science isn’t an officially recognised mode of therapy, but clients definitely open up faster once the kettle’s on ☕...
21/11/2025

Tea science isn’t an officially recognised mode of therapy, but clients definitely open up faster once the kettle’s on ☕️

You’re welcome to put the theory to the test 😂

Have you ever noticed that some people cling tighter when things feel uncertain, while others pull away the minute thing...
19/11/2025

Have you ever noticed that some people cling tighter when things feel uncertain, while others pull away the minute things get close?

🫂 That’s attachment at play.

The way we connect as adults often links back to how we learned safety (or the lack of it) growing up.

👉 If comfort meant closeness, you might chase it.

👉 If comfort meant space, you might protect it.

They’re both ways the brain learned to keep you safe.

🔁 The tricky bit is when those patterns start clashing in relationships, leaving you wondering why the same arguments keep playing on repeat.

Therapy can help you spot those behaviours, understand where they came from, and learn new ways of connecting that feel healthier and calmer.

www.MyPsychologicalWellness.co.uk

November always feels like the in-between month 🍁Too dark for autumn, too early for Christmas, and motivation’s already ...
17/11/2025

November always feels like the in-between month 🍁

Too dark for autumn, too early for Christmas, and motivation’s already going into hibernation.

😔 If you’re feeling a bit lost at this time of year, you’re not doing anything wrong - your body’s just reacting to the shorter days and longer to-do lists.

Now’s a good time to pause before the December chaos begins -before all the tasks that were “future you’s problem” start catching up.

Use this time to check in with yourself, not just your calendar.

🤔 Ask: what do I actually need before the year ends?

More rest? More quiet? More boundaries?

You don’t have to finish the year strong. You just have to finish it steadily.

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