15/03/2026
So, Today is Mother's day.
In my house its known as
"The day that shall not be named"😆.
Id like to say something that doesn’t get said very often.
There’s always a lot of kindness and awareness shared today for people whose mums have passed away. And that compassion is important. My hearts breaks for those who are unable to celebrate their mum's today 💖❤️
However, there’s another group of people who struggle with Mother's day to.( I work with so so many clients experiencing this difficulty)
Those of us whose mothers are still alive, but the relationship isn’t loving, safe, or even present. It is rejecting.😞
Some of us grew up with and are still at the recieving end of controlling, toxic and manipulative behaviour.
Some of us experienced the silent treatment or were “ghosted” until we submitted or apologised for things that were never really ours to carry.😞
Some of us tried to repair the relationship as adults, only to be ignored, criticised, or shut out.
💔
Days like today can feel isolating when the world is full of posts about “the best mum in the world”.
For some of us, it simply wasn’t like that.
And it’s okay to acknowledge that.
It’s okay to feel sad, angry, conflicted, or distant today.
It’s okay to step away from the noise and protect your peace.
And for those of us who became parents ourselves, sometimes we are quietly doing the work of breaking cycles and becoming the kind of parent we didn’t have.
That matters too.
So if today is complicated for you, you’re not alone, because mother's day sucks for me too.
Your experience is real, and your feelings are valid.
Not every story about mothers is simple.
But every story deserves space to be spoken.
