Li Tadaa

07/01/2026

I am having my free online 3-Day Grow Up challenge again! We will learn about trauma and attachment! Comment if you want to join!

05/01/2026

Warning! I might trigger your beliefs on this.

Let me know if what I share below makes sense to you or if you disagree.

When I get upset, disappointed or sad, and dare to show my emotions, I’m seen as AUTHENTIC.

I’m NOT suppressing my emotions or putting on masks, but I AM being true to what I feel. Do you agree so far?

Next thought:

I’m getting triggered, in the here and now by, for example, my partner. I get sad and upset, and express this strongly, but these emotions belong to an old trauma response, so I’m acting out a child’s emotions, even though I’m an adult.

The question here then, is: Am I now being authentic?

And if not, then what is it to “be authentic”?
(I’m not saying that there is a simple answer here; I’m writing this to have a conversation with you.)

As part of my healing journey, and breaking free from norms and masks, I saw it as my RIGHT to express EVERYTHING that I feel. I felt proud of my tears and my anger. Finally I was letting everything out!

It took me some time to understand that bringing out these childhood emotions was, in fact, being an authentic CHILD–not an authentic GROWN UP.

When we are an actual child, it’s our parents’ job (and hopefully they have the capacity) to hold us in all our emotions and validate them.

But I had to realise that my emotional outbursts were too much for the people around me, because THEY DIDN’T SIGN UP for taking care of an ADULT CHILD!

So what is ‘authenticity then?

For me, to grow up is to be aware of the fact that MUCH of what I feel belongs to the PAST. And when I express it I NEED TO TAKE OWNERSHIP of where it belongs.

So therefore, ‘being authentic’ is admitting that ‘I’m in my child!’ so I can then come back to being authentic IN MY ADULT.

Just expressing all emotions without awareness of where they’re coming from is NOT, by default, being authentic. It can be a sign of being stuck in an emotional pattern.

👉True authenticity is when I can move beyond my triggers and responses and come back to the present moment and be fully, fully here.

✨Do you agree

04/01/2026

When we’re in trauma response or inner child states, love can’t be felt… even when it’s there.

Growing up is also learning how to slow down, regulate the nervous system, and stay present with what we feel.

👉Do you want to learn how to do this?

✨Join the 3-Day Free Grow Up Challenge
for those who struggle to slow down.

💬 Comment GROWUP5 to join.

02/01/2026

Yes, I do grounding every day 😄

Grounding supports nervous system regulation and helps reduce stress and anxiety.
For me, grounding can look like:
– touching the earth
– slow breathing
– feeling my feet
– gentle movement
– pausing and noticing my body

This is the foundation of the Grow Up work.

Happy New Year 🥂
If you want to join me, you’re welcome to the
3-Day Free Grow Up Challenge.

02/01/2026

Happy New Year! Join The "Grown Up" Intention Setting Workshop! -

Usually, I offer a big, open New Year’s "Grown-Up" Intention-Setting Workshop. But this year, I’ve chosen something more intimate.

29/12/2025

Merry Christmas! I'm grateful to all of you! -

I was teaching from my own journey - guiding others through Grow Up workshops on how to break free from negative relational patterns.

26/12/2025

✨ This is what we explore in the FREE 3-Day Grow Up Challenge.
Comment “GROW UP” and I’ll send you the info.

✨Tag a friend who would love to join
👉Follow for more on emotional maturity, somatics, and conscious relating.

22/12/2025

✨ I’m hosting my FREE 3-Day Grow Up Challenge in January, where we go deeper into how to recognize when you’re acting from your child part, and how to step into your adult self.
Sign up to join live or receive the recordings!

👉 Comment “I’m in” and I’ll send you the link.

17/12/2025

Did you know that sometimes connection doesn’t start with romance, but with curiosity… and pancakes? 🥞😅

🎥 Visuals by Chamara

Follow along for the next chapter ✨