12/10/2025
A couple years ago, I started doing nice things for myself — without guilt, without asking if I deserved it.
I didn’t grow up around adults who treated themselves with tenderness. I learned to be an easy kid with little to no needs, and believe I had to give everything away just to feel loved.
Then life cracked me open and made me ask:
Why am I carrying pain that isn’t mine?
Why am I keeping myself small?
So I tried something different.
I put my wellbeing first.
I let my body speak louder.
I asked for support instead of pretending I could hold everything alone.
And I stopped staying in situations that drained me.
This year, sweetness became a practice.
I wrote songs and shared them at open mics.
I took myself someplace beautiful on Thanksgiving (Jeju last year, LA & Malibu this year — sunsets are my medicine).
And today, I brought home my very first Christmas tree 🎄 😃
Life is hard.
But small, sweet acts of care soften the edges.
They tell the inner child:
I’ve got you. You get to feel good.
A little sweetness doesn’t erase the hard things —
but it helps us meet them with a softer heart.
If this hits home for you… tell me.
How have you been choosing yourself lately? ✨