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Death Café NYC

Free-flowing conversation about death that you can't have (just yet) with family, friends or co-workers. Openness is the only pre-requisite.

Your host: Harvey Newman (Nancy Gershman will resume in-person Death Cafés when it becomes safe to do so) Currently, Death Cafe New York City meets every 3rd Wed of the month on ZOOM. To RSVP, go to http://www.meetup.com/Death-Cafe-New-York-City. VIRTUAL HOST
Harvey Newman
Email: hl_newman@yahoo.com
Ph: ‭(646) 468-1750‬

ARCHIVIST
Nancy Gershman, LCSW

IN-PERSON LOCATION
none at this time. DESCRIPTION
We adopt the European "salon" model of Death Café: free-flowing conversation over small plates and mint tea, around the topic of death-from-any-angle without facilitation, guest speakers, agendas and hands-on activities, rituals or prayers. READINGS
For excellent readings on su***de; hospice; funerals & cremation; denial of death; grief and loss (bereaved parents/children, widowhood, etc.); memorializing; and life after death: visit our webpage, Books We Recommend [https://www.meetup.com/Death-Cafe-New-York-City/pages/19230442/Books_we_recommend]

03/08/2026

Overheard at our virtual Death Cafe on February 18:

- How helpful is it to turn to Stoicism for dealing with the inevitability of death?
- Is it a trap that the more we try to control our mind the more we are apt to lose our minds? That accepting your mind and letting it go will make us more free?
- When a recent death of a family member brings fear, how can one come to terms with the saying, “Tomorrow is not promised”?
- What does the author of “The Journey of Souls” Michael Newton mean when he speaks of love’s endurance in death?
- What would Carl Jung say about mounting rage mixed with grief that contributes to some family members wanting to end their own life?

- If a son is unable to release the rage felt about a father who tormented him while alive, can this negative energy lead to “mind and body poisoning”- or even a heart attack?
- Is it coincidental that nations that have adopted medical aid in dying also have socialized medicine to aid people in extending their lives?
- What if the majority of your family members appeared to have short lifespans? How can you disempower the limiting belief that some people are meant to live long and others are not? Or can you do something about your “genetics,”like look into modern medicine for your coronary artery disease to avoid the self-fulfilling prophesy thing?
- Is keeping the unhealthiest people alive a problem driven by the economics of the health system? Like putting one’s mother in a nursing home for 5 years paying $20,000 a month to keep her alive with very little quality. Is there something wrong with the system and the insurance companies who create this tragic situation for the chronically ill, the elderly and the disabled.
- Can 9/11 family members truly find closure after being able to take home parts of their loved ones’ bodies?
- What do you make of Total Management Theory which says we spend most of our lives trying to escape confronting death through distractions, like excessive TV and overspending?

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02/16/2026

Overheard at our Jan. virtual Death Cafe NYC:

- What considerations should be made for severely depressed people who experience unrelenting emotional suffering that is also physical?
- Is Immanuel Kant's philosophical argument against su***de flawed due to its contradiction with self-love?
- How sure can one be that supernatural phenomena seemingly from the afterlife might not have a reasonable scientific explanation?
- Given the consistency of NDEs, why can these not be fully explained as mere hallucinations?
- Can miraculous healings be reconciled with a purely materialistic worldview?
- Do you believe past lives and reincarnation could be passed down from a soul, while spiritual experiences originate in an individual and are not inherited?
- Can premonitions in one’s youth come true as easily as past lives are proven true by recorded history?
- How big a role does environment play in spurring a past life memory (like the case of a young boy on a train claim that he remembered dying at a train station)?
- Instead of facing judgment for making certain personal health decisions, how can we emphasize the importance of self-compassion, kindness, and understanding?

https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/2vOM23_s8efSCcB-bPMjq4oxQfplZ1giAJr3iceDG1162XdgpJEUodXjCJQEYzWV.bqV4fd6xHp_sjNJT

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12/22/2025

Overheard at our December 17 Death Cafe NYC:
- How can one view death as a new beginning?
- What is it about visiting one’s childhood home years after one’s elders have died that is so emotionally challenging?
- What kinds of complexity can one expect from The Medical Assistance in Dying Act?
- Should euthanasia require more stringent requirements for young people and those with mental health issues? Who should make decisions for vulnerable groups, such as children and people with disabilities?
- Is there, perhaps, a potential link between secularization and increased acceptance of assisted su***de?
- How are the terminally ill satisfying criteria for physician-assisted su***de? Is being evaluated by two doctors and having a waiting period sufficient?
- Is the primary reason for such laws patient autonomy rather than pain relief?
- Does the term "physician-assisted death" truly remove the pejorative connotation of su***de?
- What kind of emotional toll is there on survivors when a young person dies by su***de, besides feelings of anger and guilt?
- Is “impulsive su***de” the same as "unplanned assisted death”?
- How much is loneliness a factor in su***des by young people?
- How should families who have suffered through a family member’s su***de fight the instinct to make it a family secret?
- The Roman Catholic Church opposes euthanasia based on the inherent dignity of human life, but are those who attempt su***de to seek relief from pain not valuing quality of their human life?
- Would you want to know the exact time of your death, if you valued life and health but you had suffered long enough?

Watch the recording:
https://tinyurl.com/ps35a9mj
Passcode: 84$I7e #%

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11/29/2025

Overheard at our Nov. 19 2025 virtual Death Cafe:

- How will engaging a lawyer ease the work of bequeathing one’s estate (ex. a co-op apartment) and charitable intentions? What happens when one procrastinates?
- What comfort can wills provide in relieving anxiety about dying alone and abandonment? How would one go about building a supportive community?
- Why do some of us remain skeptical about life after death, even after witnessing their loved one’s spiritual presence after her death?
- Is it possible - as mediums are wont to believe - that souls survive and can take on different human forms? And that they may even be higher evolved than humans?
- With limited time left to be alive because of heart disease, what could better than focusing upon than investigating miracles?
- Why is Voltaire's quote about the innate need for belief in God so on point for believers? 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

11/01/2025

Overheard at our October 15 virtual meetup:

- What physical sensations, if any, have you felt when in the presence of a loved one’s spirit? What details of your spiritual communications became more believable to skeptics than others?
- What be some reasons for someone not receiving? Does listening for spirits need to be a daily practice? Do you know that you can join Meetup groups for mediums to do just that—practice receiving messages?
- Is there validity to visions that survivors of loss receive before their loved one pass?
- What kinds of “pain” should one expect as part of their communication with deceased loved ones?
- How can one be sure to receive an accurately conveyed message from the afterlife?
- Who’s right about the afterlife: Near Death Experiencers consistently describing a benevolent and loving afterlife experience regardless of the life you’ve led, or the heaven-he’ll dichotomy of Western religious teachings?
- What would you make of a near death experience message about life as a classroom rather than a courtroom?
- Supposedly Socrates consulted a medium at Delphi to determine if he was the wisest man in Athens, and used this experience to fuel his life's work of questioning others. Wouldn’t this suggest that skepticism can coexist with belief in mystical experiences?
- Why wouldn’t there be an absence of illness and suffering in the spirit world?
- In what ways do death anniversaries trigger unexpected emotions?

10/02/2025

Overheard at our September 17th virtual Death Cafe:

- If we accept that after death there is only interconnectedness and no illusion of separation between the dead and the living — could that eliminate global problems such as war, poverty, and crime if spirits are interceding on our behalf?
- To counter death anxiety, has anyone considered joining a mediumship circle (apparently private readings come with a fee but group sessions are free)?
- What are we to think if we view even the most heinous of historical figures as “sovereign, divine beings of light,” as suggested in the book "Hi**er Went to Heaven" by David Dunning?
- Can any of the most current claims of heaven and hell be backed up by empirical evidence?”
- How can we assuage our concerns about aging and mortality, including fear of dying and the struggle to accept the inevitability of death?
- What experiences can a retired surgeon share about coping with death anxiety?
- What does a miraculous recovery look like, after being given up for dead?
- When you’re battling cancer, is the best approach to live in the present moment…and live joyously?
- Recommended viewing: "Year to Live" course.
- For quality of life without depression and pain, when is a young person too young to be considering medical assistance to die?

Watch recording: https://tinyurl.com/yc6bjtpf
Passcode: 9I%.8f%A

09/14/2025

Overheard at our August 20th virtual Death Cafe:

- When we believe that we will be reunited with loved ones when we die, does that affect the way we may feel about our own demise? Would we be less fearful of death, even a protracted and painful one?
- Is it possible (according to an evidential medium in the group) that in death our loved ones are free of pain and suffering?
- Regarding visitations, what does it mean if our deceased loved one appears sad before us because of some prescient knowledge of the future (for example, if one’s father is destined to die soon and we would be left without either parent)?
- If merely a delusion, is it wrong to believe that visitations nevertheless provide comfort?
- How many of us are aware of the cutting-edge scientists, Gregg Braden and Nassim Haramein, discussing what they termed, “Forbidden Science” ? They ask, Are we part of a holographic, conscious and intelligent Universe? Instead of living in “lucky science” and “lucky biology, ” could we all be interconnected in a field of meaningfulness? Could this explain many phenomena that traditional science considers unverifiable, such as parapsychology, mediumship, remote viewing, etc.?
- Is it conceivable that what we know as our imagination is actually more powerful than our culture supports?

08/07/2025

Overheard at our July 16 virtual meetup:

-What is "insperience," but inspired experiences felt internally?
-Can having a comfort level with what lies beyond death help reduce the fear of not surviving one’s surgery?
-What is Socrates' view on transmigration of the soul? And Epicurus's concept of a “long sleep”?
-When unexplained phenomena occurs after losing loved ones, can a therapist's validation be helpful in accepting these experiences?
- Does neurological processes and Einstein's theory of energy conservation explain such phenomena?
-What does the philosophical concept of Plato's Cave have?
-Does Earth provide a kind of temporary “schooling” where souls come to learn and evolve?
-Why do some people become more loving after their deaths and others not?
-Could meaningful connections made with new partners after a wife’s intense caregiving journey and death possibly be a gift from the afterlife?
-How exactly does the medium raise frequency to communicate with spirits?
-When we’ve lost a loved one, does unconditional love, eternal love, or a higher love provide the memory of emotional connection?
-Are mediums just imagining conversations with deceased loved ones?
-Can one’s deceased loved ones guide us here on earth? And do convincing messages from mediums prove this to be self-evident
(e.g., pointing out such signs as feathers and other unexplained occurrences)?
-Is faith more irrefutable than supernatural experiences (ex. a miracle involving a girl who died and returned to life, having communicated with God)?
-Why is it so challenging to respect one's own supernatural or miraculous experiences without seeking validation from skeptics?
Or is skepticism from our inner circle not a rejection of personal experiences but merely a difference in temperament?
-What are the chances of a successful mediumship experience that validates a deceased person's identity?
-In order to make a distinction between private and public truth, do we not need more and not less empirical evidence?
And how can we help skeptics achieve a certain level of openness to welcome spiritual experiences?

06/30/2025

Overheard at our June 18th virtual meetup:
- How does one decide between assisted death in Switzerland and a DIY approach? What Swiss options are currently available for the aging with potential future medical needs? If you don’t have a terminal diagnosis, why is assisted su***de better in Switzerland than the United States?
- Is a a 95% solitary existence advisable for someone afflicted with myalgic encephalomyelitis, (a neuro immune disease characterized by severe exhaustion and other debilitating symptoms), or is death preferable with this declining quality of life?
- Is Epicurus's philosophy about death relevant today given society's obsession with prolonging life through medical interventions?
- What would the positive benefits be of giving a psychic reading to a terminally ill person in late stages of their illness?
- What kind of insecurities surface when a widower is triggered by certain kinds of social interactions?
- Should a grandmother take her unemployed grandson more seriously if he says he finds relief from anxiety by joking about “death as an escape”?
- What does an “evidential medium” understand about life after death and the process of choosing a new body and family?
- Where do death doulas get their support (e.g., monthly meetings, smaller feedback groups, and resources like "Going with Grace" and a Ted Talk by Alua Arthur)?
- Can death doulas also experience Imposter Syndrome?
- Could death doulas be trailblazers in an AI-driven world?

Recording: https://tinyurl.com/44dtaaa5
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04/07/2025

Overheard at our 63rd virtual Death Cafe:
- Do you believe spirits are more accessible after death, when mediums find that they are not bound by time or earthly commitments?
- Can spirits gain wisdom and a fresh view on life after a passing?
- What is worth believing about the Akashic Records (a cosmic library or energetic archive containing the imprint of all thoughts, actions, and events that have ever occurred, encompassing past, present, and potential future timelines)?
- Does coming in-person to a Death Cafe make a difference? In Toronto it did, especially with regards to storytelling.
- Do you believe people live on through their work and in the minds of others? (SEE Ernest Becker's book, "The Denial of Death," which won a national book award in 1974.) Or agree with Woody Allen, no thanks to living on in the minds of others?
- Can you guess how Elon Musk responded to a five-year-old patient who wanted to know “what happens to us when we die”?
- Is there eternity for the immortal soul? Does the soul transform into other realities? (A medium in our group spoke of her belief in the soul's immortality.)
- How do practitioners of Gnosticism explain the soul's influence on the body?
- What about followers of Jesus Christ: does this guarantee them a good life and a chance to enter heaven? (SEE "The Four Last Things" by Martin of Cochem, for a detailed understanding of Death, Judgement, Hell and Heaven — and the glorified body. )
- What else do they talk about in the Meetup group, "Afterlife Conversations”?

Watch the recording: https://tinyurl.com/yc72ev9j
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03/01/2025

Heard at our 62nd Death Cafe.

WHAT’S IT LIKE:
- when loss deepens one’s focus on death?
- to be a Psych student from Oman, facilitating healthy conversations about death and dying with her cancer and end of life patients —when in her own culture, this would be unacceptable?
- to be a Ph.D. student in biology working in conservation genomics, having such a direct connection to the topic of death?
- to be a medium viewing death as a transition to a new chapter where you are no longer afraid of death because your soul will continue?
- to view life as energy that cannot be created or destroyed, shifting your belief system so that you see it as a new beginning?
- to be a medium and have a dream about your past life? To dream about your deceased mother after you have a NDE?
- to be a hospice chaplain working with patients on the edge of death? To sit with a patient who stops eating, connecting with her on an energy level? (Could there be a quantum physics aspect to their connection?)
- to travel to Switzerland for assisted dying? (How is it that the most humane method, similar to pet euthanasia, remains illegal for humans in most jurisdictions? The ethical and personal complexities surrounding end-of-life decisions and euthanasia can be quite complex.)
- to see the fine line between legal pain management and assisted dying —when it’s your husband’s end of life we’re talking about?
- to have a su***de attempt back in 1977 leading to a spiritual realization about the universe's supportive nature?
- to believe in reincarnation? The possibility of a spiritual DNA?
- to see near-death experiences as the result of a suspension of belief, or because chemicals like DMT were released in the brain?

01/28/2025

Heard at our 61st virtual Death Cafe.

WHAT’S IT LIKE:

⁃ To lose your husband, and discover you have the gift of being able to communicate with spirits?
⁃ To be an end-of-life doula dealing with a father's dementia, but fully supported by spiritual guides and shamanic practices?
⁃ To lose a wife to dementia but be comforted by the spiritual realm?
⁃ To be a physical therapist diagnosed with Parkinson's disease, training to be an evidential medium?
⁃ To lose a father to multiple myeloma?
⁃ To lose one’s father not after his battle with pancreatic cancer, but to a sudden heart attack?
⁃ To lose a husband to multiple system atrophy? What was her initial shock, her attempts to find a cure, and her eventual acceptance of the situation? How was her experience with various healthcare professionals different, including time spent with his neurologist, visiting nurse, and P*P?
⁃ To have a rare form of blood cancer and have concerns there might not be anybody to help you in case of an emergency?

WHAT IF WE DIDN’T HAVE:

⁃ Healing circles?
⁃ Supportive and non-judgmental spaces for discussions like here at Death Cafe?
⁃ The compassion and heart-centeredness of a group whose energy is more feminine in nature?
⁃ The authority of a Power of Attorney?
⁃ The help of a doula? Or a project manager to plan and make decisions in advance of a loved one’s passing?
⁃ A podcast to listen to near-death experiences and the possibility of spirits leaving the body before death?
⁃ The option to be cremated and have a "liberating" memorial service —more like a party — in the hopes of aiding the grieving process?

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