A Zen Stoic, New York, NY (2026)

03/11/2026

We live in times where results are expected immediately, to the point that patience feels almost unnatural.

Often, when people start something -a habit, a skill, a project etc.- they keep checking.

They dig the soil, looking for signs, questioning whether anything is happening at all. But the thing is that seeds don’t grow faster because we inspect them. In fact, digging them up too often only ruins the process.

Growth requires a certain rhythm:
We plant.
We water.
We protect the conditions.
And then We wait.

This isn’t passive waiting.
It’s disciplined patience.
Something we increasingly have to train ourselves to recover.

Delayed gratification isn’t just a virtue.
It’s a skill the brain can relearn.
And each time you continue the process without immediate reward, you strengthen that capacity.
You begin trusting the cycle instead of demanding proof every day.

The bloom will come in its own time, but only if the seed is left undisturbed long enough to become something more than potential.

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03/10/2026

Sometimes the place that limits you is the one you are afraid to let go.

Yes, the unknown can feel scary, I know… but as the symbolic of this image shows, some outcomes are inevitable, we can only delay them for so long…

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03/06/2026

Some present meditation as a multi-layered practice, but the irony is that the most honest—and for some, the most challenging—form of meditation is the one that returns to simplicity.

Where the mind loosens its grip on the next task, the next problem, the next outcome, and suddenly, ordinary things feel "complete"... Not because they became deeper, but because we stop skimming the surface.

03/05/2026

In any kind of relationship, conflict is part of it, because it includes two people with different histories, fears, and expectations. Because of that, there will be some friction, but the real damage to the relationship often comes from what happens after.

People get their mind flurried by assumptions about the motives behind the other’s actions or words, but more often than not, they rush to accept those assumptions as reality, instead of asking questions to understand.

Why?

This can happen for many reasons. Perhaps someone doesn’t want their point of view destroyed as it leaves them exposed to insecurity they have not learned how to deal with. Or perhaps they are in a period where they can’t handle the emotional discomfort that discussions can bring, or for other reasons.

Avoidance can feel easier in the moment. It can work to keep things calm on the surface, but unresolved tension doesn’t disappear. Small misunderstandings accumulate if skipped, and resentment grows day by day. And these dynamics are what erode many relationships.

Mature communication shouldn’t have to be loud. It isn’t about winning an argument. Rather, it is about the willingness to say the difficult things without hostility, to listen without preparing a defense, and to clarify before interpreting.

Avoidance protects comfort.
Communication protects connection.

03/04/2026

The first step to regulating an emotion is allowing yourself to feel it. Not fixing it. Not suppressing it.

Not rushing past it. Just noticing it honestly.

A lot of us were taught the opposite, that suppressing an emotion is the best way to deal with it, but it's not. That sadness is weakness. That anxiety should be pushed away as quickly as possible. So we resist what we feel. But resistance has a strange side effect. The emotion doesn’t disappear. It tightens and crystallizes within the depths of our psyche. Amd not for better...

Psychologically, emotions need acknowledgment before they can settle, so when we deny them, they linger in the background, asking for attention in indirect ways, like irritability, rumination, tension.

Neurologically, something similar happens. Strong emotions activate deeper brain systems, especially the amygdala, which detects threat and signals urgency. But when you consciously name and allow the feeling (I’m angry, I’m anxious, I’m hurt) the prefrontal cortex becomes more involved. That change makes a great difference, because the brain begins moving from pure reaction, toward reflection and consequently, response.

It doesn’t eliminate the emotion. But it changes your relationship to it. You’re no longer being carried by the wave. You’re observing it. That’s why permission is powerful.

Just give the feeling a moment of honest recognition. From there, regulation becomes possible.

Because emotions rarely calm down when they’re treated like intruders. They settle when they’re acknowledged and allowed to pass through. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that just because emotions take time to settle, they never will.

03/03/2026

Surrender to change or suffer in a loop. Yes, this sounds simple, almost too simple, but there’s something universal in it. Heraclitus said the only constant is change, and he wasn’t speaking about dramatic transformations every day. Because if we experienced drastic changes every single day, most probably our psyche wouldn’t hold, and it would fracture.

So this post is more about those daily adjustments and flexibility we need to mature emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

More often than not, we suffer not because change exists, but because we resist the changes that are already happening. A friendship ends, but we replay it for years. A relationship dissolves, but we refuse to grieve. A season of life closes, yet we insist on living as if it hasn’t.

That’s the loop. Not the event itself, but the mental refusal to move with it.

Part of us hates leaving the comfort zone, ad that’s part of being human, as familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar space. So we try to rigidify reality. To hold like someone trying to squeeze water in their fist. To make it stay as we want it to be. But the thing is that we live in something fluid. And when we try to stand rigid in a moving current, we don’t stop the river. We just end up exhausting ourselves.

Another thing i want to ad is that surrendering to change doesn’t mean abandoning your values. It doesn’t mean lowering your standards. It doesn’t mean becoming someone without backbone. It means adapting without betraying yourself. It means accepting that grief is part of closure. That maturity sometimes requires softening old edges. That teamwork requires flexibility, not ego.

The alternative is repetition. The same argument. The same resentment. The same story told in slightly different settings.

Change asks for humility. Loops feed pride and emotional complexes.

We don’t have to always like change. But refusing it doesn’t protect us; it just keeps us circling what we were meant to outgrow.

03/02/2026

Surely, dream and vision alone will not get the work done; consistent action will. Still, never underestimate the power that inner spark can have in your mindset, actions, and the level of energy you attain.

Don’t stop nourishing that spark; just make sure to balance it with discernment and humility.

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02/28/2026

Oftentimes our uncoscious picks up on patterns faster than our conscious mind can explain.

Of course it’s worth noting that ot every uncomfortable feeling is uncoscious wisdom. Some feelings can come fro, amxiety, past trauma, insecurity, bias and resistance to change.

An example of the first scenario can be a person gives you a weird vibe that you can’t fully explain it in rational terms.

An example of the second scenario is public speaking; it feels ‘wrong’ -or more accurately: it feels uncomfortable- but it isn’t dangerous and is not the same as the feeling in the first scenario.

A healthy habit to integrate is asking yourself:

- Is this fear or intuition?
- Is this protecting me or limiting me?
- Is this about the present… or my past?

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02/25/2026

An undisciplined ego is impatient. It instinctively rushes to compare, clings to what it ‘gathers’ and wants results now. Perhaps it is because deep down it knows its time is limited. And this effect is amplified more especially when the ego is fragile, because its relevance depends on outer recognition, movement and proof. So this are reasons why the ego pushes for more status, more validation, more urgency.

Let’s imagine for a moment something:

If you knew you were going to live for 10.000 years, how would today feel?

Would that mistake still define you?
Would that rejection still sting the same way?
Would you still rush decisions out of fear of “missing your chance”?

Or would you move slower? Choose more carefully? Invest in what actually compounds over time, aspects like character, understanding, depth?

Perhaps while the ego worries on deadlines, the spirit thinks is seasons...

At times, we gain strength and appreciate what we take for granted by reminding ourselves of the idea of the shortness of life, and other times we borrow this perspective of the soul to quiet that impulsive part of us that believes everything must happen right now.

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02/24/2026

I am using a simple term here: “Truer”, to refer to that part of our being that is more integrated in our personality and can’t be shaken easily by change of circumstances.

So if we interpret the term “Truer” in an absolute sense, we risk creating a rigid image of ourselves which doesn’t reflect reality.

In reality, we are in a constant state of flowing -some more or some less- where we are changing in one direction or another.

But change comes in many forms. Some of it’s change that comes from understanding better the knowledge of the world(s), and therefore we deepen our connection to the values that have been timeless.

What are these timeless values one might ask?

To make it more practical with an example: Good will. It was the same 3000 years ago as it is today. I believe it is a state that is associate with someone that matures spiritually, and emotionally.

Another example: Same goes for true courage, the real kind that doesn’t numb feeling, but acts in spite of fear and nervousness.

We could talk about these values/virtues all day, but I think I made a point.

If we want to understand which part of our -or that other’s- character is more “truer”, let us look at those values, principles which translate into action and don’t change much, no matter when times are easy or tough.

Circumstances change.
Success comes and goes.
People enter and leave.
Your status rises and falls.

But there is something quieter underneath all of that.

Something that doesn’t fluctuate with praise.
Doesn’t collapse with criticism.
Doesn’t inflate with achievement.

We all have the voice of self-preservation insticts and ego that whispers us every single day to conform. And sometimes we do. But still, I believe that is worth nourishing that voice that balances it and seeks to manifest values/virtues with actions.

02/23/2026

Our development -and apparently that of nature overall- doesn’t move in a perfect straight line. It circles, at times in the same place, without depth, without elevation, and other time we assimilate, click, experience epiphanies. The latter is what can make us spiral deeper in knowledge and higher to broaden our perspective. This has nothing to do with accumulation of information, even though it can be of help in the process.

More often than we’d like to admit, we need to return to the same themes we didn’t give much importance. And other times we even experience the same wounds, in the same or a different form. The same questions we were sure to have figured out might pop out in our heads and make experience a sense of confusion and insecurity.

When we go through this, the first feeling that might come without much warning can be discouragement. In some corner of our mind we think that we’re back right where we started. Don’t accept this suggestion without critical thought. I found out that more often than not, it was an automatic, self-imposed illusion.

With more discernment and self-compassion combined, we can see past that veil of illusion the fact that we’re meeting the same lesson -or this lesson with an upgrade, now that we’re ready- from a different “level” of awareness.

That what it means for the path to be like a spiral. We move (symbolically speaking) “two steps forward” to explore, to overcome our limits, to open our mind which tends to crystallize if we live it passive for long enough, and “one step back” in order to assimilate, feelings, experiences, lessons.

When we confuse these lessons for standing in one place, miss what’s really going on. What’s truly going on is that we revisit what we thought you understood - it can be patience, boundaries, discipline, love- and we see something we couldn’t see before.

We don’ outgrow every mistake once and for all. We integrate them gradually. And often pain of the ego, or pain of regret is part of the ‘package’. In cases like this, the pain we feel in this return is another layer of illusion that is striped. The less friction, the less resistance towards this fact, the less we suffer.

02/21/2026

People tend to cling to what feels familiar.
Even when it’s misaligned.
Even when it’s quietly exhausting them.

But the thing is that some losses rearranges us.
It removes what felt comfortable
so we can see what is necessary.

We don’t always recognize it in the moment.
But often, what we thought we couldn’t hardly live without
was simply occupying the space
meant for what we truly needed next.

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