Clear Reflections Psychotherapy

08/14/2025

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10/20/2022

Treating clients from allllll ages means that I've seen it all. And it also means that I see as well how all patterns develop in a full circle moment.

What we might have learned as kids was helpful in our survival in that moment. Children who learn in situations that their emotions are too big for what others may handle may hold in everything that they're feeling. Which turns into adults who don't feel comfortable with others becoming too close to them, adopting the idea that letting others see the real you is too "vulnerable", and that any chaos within must be contained so the chaos outside can remain calm.

Children who learn that the only way to be heard and seen is through their achievements become perfectionists, high achievers, and people pleasers. Which turns into adults with low self esteem, workaholics, and have anxiety in relationships.

Becoming unstuck as an adult helps heal that child who became stuck with hiding themselves to be accepted, heard, and loved.

12/29/2020

The term "self care" has been associated a lot with being pampered with physical pleasures such as massages, new haircuts, and comforting purchases.
But self care is more than just that.
Self care is about taking care of YOU and sometimes that includes putting yourself first in your relationships, your career goals, education, etc.
If a relationship feels uncomfortable and you feel more strained to make yourself feel validated and heard, then perhaps evaluate how healthy the relationship is.
It's okay (and more than okay!) to set boundaries to help a relationship fulfill your bucket if all it makes you feel is depleted instead.

12/27/2020

And to that I say: thank you.

12/21/2020

It's not that you're broken.

It's that the systems in place that molded you into who you have become taught you that you are an imperfection in a perfect world.

12/15/2020

As humans, we all have an innate drive for connection. It's what has helped us survive and thrive since the beginning of time. Group mentality has saved lives as we depend on one another for sharing resources and creating families and communities.

Understanding our need for connection can help explain our own (or someone else's) confusing and hurtful behaviors.

When we lose touch of our connections with others, we can feel a deep sense of loss.That sorrow can be fueled as anger towards the self and others. We may have been hurt by trusting others before and so emotional walls may have been built as means to protect ourselves but we only feel more isolated. We even may have developed our own ideas of what connection is and looks like based on years of broken relationships and cycles of abuse.

But when we finally are able to put ourselves first to acknowledge that we need connection and that we want to receive love, then true relationships with yourself and others can finally form.

And that is what acceptance and serenity can feel like.

12/04/2020

Reminder:
You are important.

Your needs are important.

Your boundaries are important.

(Now repeat this 5 times... or until it sinks in)

11/23/2020

In my therapy practice, we will work together on how to feel at peace.

But to do that, we have to address our fears. Our insecurities. Our ugly truths. And accept them.

When we are no longer running away from what we dread, we can accept and make the changes necessary to have a better life.

11/18/2020

In a world that is full of uncertainty, fear, and new situations that can make us feel afraid and anxious- we have the power to reframe how we understand what's going on around us.

You are not stuck inside, you are safe at home.

You are not weak, you are learning to be resilient.

You are not mishandling what to do, you are simply learning in an impossible situation.

11/12/2020

11/08/2020

New 2020 emojis?

Aside from the jokes, think about the last few months you've been wearing a mask. Have you ever noticed that it may be hard to express your facial emotions with the bottom half of your face covered?

For young children and individuals with social issues, reading facial expressions is very important to understanding context. If your smile can't be seen while you are comforting someone, telling a joke, or even greeting a neighbor, would they understand your intentions behind the content of your words?

Some food for thought as masks (and masking expressions) continue to become normalized in society.

11/03/2020

A reminder to those who think differently from you,
to those who may be feeling differently from you,
to those who may be voting differently from you,
Be kind.
Someone else's hurt is just as valid even if you disagree with their beliefs.