09/06/2020
For a long time, I deferred to everyone around me to tell me how I should move. There are a lot of issues with this mainly
1. They will give you their dreams or desires... you won’t feel passionate about someone else’s idea of success. Especially when times get hard; you’re going to need passion to stay motivated when you’re not excelling as fast as you’d like
2. They will put their own fears of failure on you as well. They will have reasons why you shouldn’t strive, heal or grow.
3. People love to give advice but will most likely not be there to grind beside you. And why should they? This is your dream, your life.
Many times, I thought support meant someone in the trenches with me, holding my hand the whole way. Let that Disney Princess s**t go! A supportive partner doesn’t mean they do the work with you (unless they truly share your dream). This is YOUR dream, your growth, your evolution. The only things a supportive partner should do is
1. Give you the space to discover yourself and follow you vision
2. Encourage you, especially when that self doubt starts biting at your ankles
3. Keep you accountable. This is where many people’s EGO messes up. We don’t want accountability placed upon us; we want someone to think they’re awesome no matter what. Do you feel the same way though? Probably not. A true partner wants you to level up JUST like you want them to.
So if you’re going to school, YOU have to study on your own...
If you’re starting a business, YOU are going to be the one doing everything to make sure it’s a success....
If you’re healing or developing yourself, YOU are the only one you expect to change....
Once I saw how this mindset left me powerless, hopeless and depressed... I realized I have to be my own hero because no one is coming to save me. I cried so hard! I mourned the part of myself that was conditioned to believe that if someone is a good person, magically someone else would appear to dig me out of the hole I fell in.
We are powerful beings, conditioned to be small, to fear success, to settle... it’s time to recondition