05/13/2019
I'm posting this link to a video from The Atlantic on women's reactions to changes after childbirth. It seems to me that we are failing as a society to provide women with community, education, and support around the changes that take place being pregnant and after delivery. Some of the physical changes can be quite traumatic in some cases. But even in cases of stretch marks and loose skin, there does not seem to be any association to the positive action of carrying a child and giving it life. (Although people will scar their bodies with tattoos as badges of other things they have done in their lives). Can you imagine how wonderful it would be if stretch marks were valued as a sign of power, resilience, and knowledge - and if all of society gave this support & love to each other? And can you imagine if birth and the time afterwards were considered a time when extra support and care was given to each woman - rather than just shuttling them away with a follow up appointment in 6 weeks? Can you imaging what it would look like if the whole community gave loving massage, babysitting hours so mom could sleep, and supported other lifestyle factors like meals, exercise buddies, or even just adult conversation instead of a barrage of baby gifts? Wouldn't that be the real gift - support, connection, time, presence?
New mothers reveal how unprepared they felt for the severity of postpartum physical changes.