Kristin M. Davin, Psy.D.

12/10/2025

In the midst of a bit of rebranding, new products, blogs, and a new project beginning in January. So, stay tuned!

My new website 'glow up' I didn't know I needed....but I did. Check it out and let me know your thoughts!

Discover therapist-created resources to help you set boundaries, heal from toxic family dynamics, and reclaim your emotional well-being—one step at a time.

12/09/2025

The upside to practicing healthy selfishness...read on..

If you grew up in a family where you were praised for being the “easy one,” the helper, the fixer, or the emotional caretaker, then chances are you learned that being “selfless” made you more lovable, acceptable, and safe. This blog explores healthy what selfishness means, what it doesn't an...

11/22/2025

Most people hear manifestation and think it means visualizing your dream life until the universe delivers it like a package at your door. But true manifestation is much deeper — and much more grounded.

It’s not about pretending life is perfect or forcing “good vibes only.” It’s about aligning what you believe, feel, and choose, so your outer world begins to reflect your inner state.

The Law of Attraction says, “You attract what you focus on.” Psychology tells us the same thing — just in different language.

Read on....

Most people hear manifestation and think it means visualizing your dream life until the universe delivers it like a package at your door. But true manifestation is much deeper — and much more grounded. It’s not about pretending life is perfect or forcing “good vibes only.” It’s about align...

11/18/2025

“Instead of thinking, ‘They need to change for me to be okay,’ try, ‘Here’s how I’ll take care of myself when they don’t.’”

A gentle reminder that boundaries aren’t about controlling other people-they’re about staying grounded in your own clarity, especially when emotions run high. 💜

If this resonates, you can read the full reflection here:
https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/the-in-law-tightrope-why-these-relationships-feel-so-emotionally-charged

10/21/2025

Some sibling wounds don’t come from distance; they come from the years you spent trying to stay close to someone who kept hurting you.

You might’ve spent a lifetime earning approval, keeping the peace, or pretending it didn’t hurt. But peace built on silence isn’t peace it’s self-abandonment.

✨ Healing begins when you shift from “I’ll fix them” to “I’ll protect myself.”
It’s not betrayal; it’s self-rescue. It’s remembering that love doesn’t require you to suffer, and boundaries don’t make you unkind; they make you whole. 💛

💡 Read the full blog to explore how to heal from a toxic sibling relationship, release guilt, and finally choose peace over pain.
⬇ Click here to read more:
https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/how-to-heal-from-a-toxic-sibling-relationship

10/17/2025

Codependency wears many faces; it can look like kindness, loyalty, or love. 💭
But beneath it all, it’s a quiet disappearance of self. You overextend, take responsibility for others’ emotions, and believe your value lies in how much you give.

It often starts early, when keeping the peace felt safer than being yourself. As adults, those same habits leave us drained, unseen, and unsure where we end and others begin.

✨ Healing isn’t about caring less; it’s about caring differently.
It’s learning to say “no” without guilt, honoring your own emotions, and trusting that love doesn’t require self-abandonment.

You’re not too much for wanting space, peace, or boundaries; you’re simply remembering who you are.

💡 Dive deeper in the full blog to understand the roots of codependency and how to release it with compassion.
⬇ Read more here: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/what-codependency-really-means-and-how-to-start-breaking-free

10/08/2025

Emotional maturity isn’t about being calm all the time; it’s about knowing how to handle the storm without losing yourself.

It’s the quiet strength to pause before reacting, the willingness to listen even when you disagree, and the self-awareness to take responsibility instead of pointing fingers.

✨ In relationships, this kind of maturity changes everything.
It turns conflict into communication, differences into understanding, and love into something steady, not chaotic.

Emotionally mature people don’t avoid hard conversations; they approach them with empathy and respect. And that’s what makes their relationships thrive. ❤️

💡 Read the full blog to discover the 13 signs of emotionally mature people and how they build stronger, more connected relationships.
⬇ Click here to read more: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/13-signs-of-emotionally-mature-people-and-why-they-matter-in-relationships

09/15/2025

🤔Ever feel like you’re giving too much, bending over backward just to keep someone happy? 💭 At first, it feels caring, even loving, but slowly, you begin to lose yourself. Your needs get silenced, conflict becomes terrifying, and your worth feels tied to how much you do for others.

✨ People-pleasing isn’t love; it’s codependency. It quietly erodes your boundaries and makes self-care feel selfish.

💡 Healing begins the moment you honor your needs, release guilt around saying no, and remember that your value isn’t measured by how much you give.

📖 Read the full blog to discover how to overcome people-pleasing and step into healthier, stronger connections: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/how-to-stop-being-codependent-overcoming-people-pleasing-in-relationships

09/12/2025

💭Leaving a toxic relationship doesn’t mean you stopped caring; it means you finally started caring for yourself. At first, the aftermath feels heavy: grief, confusion, and moments of doubt that make you wonder if you did the right thing.

✨But healing isn’t about rushing past the pain it’s about rediscovering who you are without the weight of someone else’s control. With time, you reconnect with old passions, spend time with people who honor your worth, and learn to breathe freely again.

Choosing yourself is never weakness it’s the beginning of strength, clarity, and peace. 💛

💡Read the full blog to explore 7 ways to heal after leaving toxicity and begin reclaiming your life on your terms.
⬇Click here to read more:https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/healing-from-a-toxic-relationship

09/08/2025

You love deeply sometimes, so deeply it feels like your partner’s emotions are your responsibility. Their silence makes you anxious, their struggles become yours to fix, and taking time for yourself leaves you with guilt.

What starts as care and devotion slowly blurs into rescue, over-functioning, and losing your own voice. That’s not love; it’s codependency.

✨ Awareness is the first step toward freedom. Real love doesn’t erase you; it allows you to exist fully, seen and valued for who you are. ❤️

📖Read the blog to uncover the subtle signs of codependency and learn how to begin breaking the cycle.
⬇Click here to read more: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/signs-youre-in-a-codependent-relationship-and-how-it-starts

09/03/2025

💭 Many young men grow up hearing that emotions are weakness, that tears should be swallowed, and that vulnerability makes you “less of a man.” What seems like strength on the outside often becomes silence and isolation within.

✨ But silence doesn’t build trust; it builds walls. Real strength is the courage to name your feelings, express them honestly, and let yourself be seen.

Emotional maturity isn’t about being tough; it’s about being whole. And it’s never too late to unlearn the myths and step into a healthier kind of strength. 💛

💡Read the blog to explore why emotional maturity is often missing in young men and how we can begin to rebuild it.
⬇Click here to read more: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/why-so-many-young-men-struggle-with-emotional-maturity

08/30/2025

💭Ever catch yourself asking, “Why do I always end up in the same kind of relationship?” You’re not alone. What feels familiar often wins out over what’s truly healthy because our nervous system remembers old wounds more than it trusts new patterns.

✨ Healing doesn’t start with blame. It starts with awareness. When you recognize that intensity isn’t the same as love and that boundaries aren’t walls but bridges, you begin to choose differently.

Each step toward awareness is a step toward freedom. 🚪 You’re not broken; you’re human. And you get to write a new story for how you love and who you let in.

💡Read the blog to learn how to unlearn old cycles and build relationships that honor your worth.
⬇Click here to read more: https://www.reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.com/blog/break-the-cycle-of-unhealthy-relationships