11/14/2025
Most people think “attachment style” is a personality quiz.
It’s not.
Attachment is your first blueprint for safety, belonging, and connection.
It’s the way your nervous system learned to survive — based on the environment you were raised in.
If you grew up with inconsistency, misattunement, chaos, fear, emotional absence, or caregivers who couldn’t regulate… your system adapted.
Those adaptations become the “patterns” you see in adulthood:
• shutting down
• clinging
• avoiding conflict
• craving closeness but fearing it
• feeling empty, anxious, or mistrusting
• repeating the same relationship cycles
• struggling to feel safe with people
These aren’t flaws.
They’re trauma imprints.
The beautiful part?
Anything learned through relationship can be rewired through relationship — safe people, honest feedback, community, co-regulation, and somatic trauma therapy.
Your patterns make sense.
Your healing is possible.
And you don’t have to do it alone. 💛
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