Soul Glow WellBeing

12/20/2025

Abusive men are almost always protected and enabled by their mothers.
I said what I said.
Not every mother, not every situation—but far too often, the pattern is painfully clear. The excuses get made. The behavior gets minimized. Accountability gets dodged. Instead of confronting the harm their sons cause, some mothers shield them from consequences, rewrite the narrative, or blame the women who were hurt. They confuse unconditional love with unconditional denial.
That protection doesn’t come from love alone—it comes from refusal to acknowledge the truth. And when abuse is excused at home, it’s reinforced in the world. Silence becomes approval. Defensiveness becomes complicity. And the cycle continues, unchecked and emboldened.
Calling it out isn’t hatred. It’s honesty. And honesty is the first step toward breaking patterns that keep hurting people.
“Andy Burg”

12/20/2025

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12/14/2025

A smear campaign is one of the narcissist’s most dangerous weapons because it attacks you where it hurts the most — your character, your credibility, and your connections. It’s psychological warfare designed to isolate you before you even realize what’s happening. By the time you start defending yourself, the narcissist has already planted seeds of doubt in people’s minds, making you look guilty for reacting to the very lies they created.

What makes smear campaigns so destructive is how subtle they start. A narcissist rarely begins with loud accusations. Instead, they drip-feed “concerns,” half-truths, and distorted stories to people around you. They position themselves as the victim and you as unstable, ungrateful, or abusive. This quiet poisoning of your reputation spreads faster than you can track — because people love drama, and narcissists know exactly how to exploit that.

Another danger is the social isolation it causes. When people around you start believing the narcissist’s narrative, you lose support at the exact moment you need it most. Friends pull back. Family becomes biased. Mutual connections take sides. Suddenly, you’re defending yourself against stories you never knew existed. The emotional toll is heavy — confusion, shame, anger, and a deep sense of betrayal that stays long after the relationship ends.

Smear campaigns also trap victims in prolonged pain because they force you into “damage control mode.” You spend energy clarifying lies, proving your side, and trying to correct the narrative. The narcissist thrives on this — your reaction becomes part of their next lie. The more you defend yourself, the “guiltier” they make you appear. It’s a setup that drains your mental health and keeps you tied to the narcissist’s chaos.

The final danger is that smear campaigns shape how you see yourself. When your name is dragged through the mud, it’s easy to internalize the lies. You begin doubting your character, questioning your memories, and wondering how someone who claimed to love you could do something so cruel. But here’s the truth: smear campaigns say nothing about your worth — they reveal everything about the narcissist’s fear of being exposed.

12/14/2025

It’s the ultimate inversion of reality, a psychological trap so neatly set that you can find yourself apologizing for your own bruises. You’re not just dealing with bad behavior—you’re dealing with a system of belief that grants them total immunity while leaving you fully liable.

A narcissist will treat you terribly, then act offended when you push back.
It’s a seamless, almost rehearsed transition. One moment, they’re cutting you down with criticism, neglect, or contempt. The moment you say, “That’s not okay,” their entire demeanor shifts. They’re wounded. They’re shocked. *How could you speak to them that way?* The offense they take isn’t pretend—in their mind, it’s genuine. Because they believe they have a right to treat you as they please, and your resistance is a violation of that right.

To them, their cruelty is allowed, but your reaction is not.
This is the unchecked entitlement at the core of it. They operate under a hidden license—a belief that their feelings, impulses, and desires justify any action. Your feelings, however, are seen as inconveniences, overreactions, or attempts to control *them*. Your pain is not a consequence; it’s an obstacle.

They call your boundaries disrespect.
Because in their worldview, a boundary is a rejection of their authority. It’s you saying, “You may not cross this line,” and they interpret that as, “You are not entitled to me.” Since they feel entitled to you, your boundary feels like theft. So they label it disrespect—a moral failing on your part—rather than acknowledging it as a basic human need on yours.

They call your truth an attack.
Speaking a factual, observed truth—“You lied about that,” “You ignored me,” “That was unkind”—is framed as an act of aggression. Why? Because it challenges their curated self-image. To them, preserving that image is a sacred right. Your truth becomes a weapon, not because it’s false, but because it’s accurate and therefore dangerous.

They call your pain an overreaction.
This is how they invalidate your humanity. By pathologizing your natural emotional response, they strip it of legitimacy. Your tears aren’t evidence of hurt; they’re proof of your “instability.” Your anger isn’t justified; it’s “explosive.” They shrink your lived experience down to a character flaw, freeing themselves from any responsibility for causing it.

Because in their world, holding them accountable is the real offense.
Accountability is the kryptonite to their entire operating system. It suggests they are not perfect, not above reproach, not the ultimate authority. It places them on equal ground with you—subject to the same rules, the same consequences. That equality is intolerable. So they treat your attempt at accountability as the primary sin, deflecting all attention away from their original transgression.

So remember this, with every ounce of your being: you’re not abusive for standing up for yourself.
Self-defense is not violence. Self-respect is not an attack. Speaking your truth is not a crime. Do not let them transfer the weight of their shame onto your conscience.

They’re just angry that their manipulation stopped working.
Their anger is not proof that you did something wrong. It’s proof that you did something right. You removed yourself from the role they assigned you. You stopped complying. Their system depends on your submission. When you stand firm, the gears grind. Their rage is the sound of their control breaking down.

Let them be angry. Let them be offended. Your peace is no longer held hostage by their distortion. You have broken the most important rule in their playbook—you stopped believing that their version of reality is more valid than your own.

And in that breaking, you find your freedom.