Pat Pollard Counseling, PLLC

02/02/2026

02/02/2026

A narcissist’s emotional growth is stunted.
They are frozen at the point in childhood where the original injury or trauma occurred, and they never truly matured past it.

On the surface, they may look like adults — successful careers, social status, confidence, charm.
But emotionally, they are stuck in a very early stage of development.

Like toddlers, they struggle with frustration tolerance.
They don’t like hearing “no.”
They don’t like limits.
They don’t like not getting their way.

When reality doesn’t bend to them, they erupt.
Outbursts.
Tantrums.
Silent treatments.
Rage.
Sulking.
Withdrawal.

Instead of communicating, they play games.
Instead of resolving conflict, they manipulate.
Instead of listening, they dominate, deflect, or disappear.

Healthy communication requires empathy, accountability, and emotional regulation —
skills they never developed.
So relationships become power struggles, not partnerships.

They may function well in the external world,
but internally, their emotional world is chaotic, fragile, and rigid.
Any challenge feels like an attack.
Any boundary feels like rejection.

That’s why nothing ever gets resolved.
Why the same arguments repeat.
Why growth never happens.

You weren’t dealing with someone unwilling to grow —
you were dealing with someone incapable of it.

02/01/2026

NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
The only disorder where everyone ends up in therapy except the person who actually needs it. Partners, friends, family—they all carry the weight of endless manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional chaos. They question their own reality, apologize for things they never did, and struggle to protect themselves from someone who refuses to see their own reflection.

Meanwhile, the narcissist moves through life untouched, oblivious to the damage left in their wake. They demand admiration, control, and loyalty without ever giving a shred of accountability. They never examine their actions, never confront the hurt they cause, and never seek help—because in their mind, the world exists to validate them, not challenge them.

The tragedy is ironic: the person who most desperately needs healing never takes a single step toward it, while everyone around them carries invisible scars, learns to set boundaries, and ends up in therapy just to survive. And yet, despite it all, the narcissist remains blissfully unaware that their behavior has created a trail of exhausted, broken, but resilient people in their orbit.

01/27/2026

When the mind feels heavy, don’t try to fight the storm inside.
Begin with something simple, something visible, something real.

The outer world is a reflection of the inner world.
When you bring order to your space, your breath slowly follows.

Each small action becomes a form of meditation.
Each movement whispers, you are safe, you are here.

Stillness doesn’t arrive all at once.
It enters quietly, through tiny acts of care.

Clean one corner.
And watch your mind find its way back to peace.🌱🧘‍♀️

01/26/2026

Healing is not a straight line. It includes learning, pauses, and forward movement. Setbacks do not erase growth. At The Meadows, treatment is designed to support healing over time, meeting people where they are and helping them continue moving forward.

01/26/2026

If someone asks me, What kind of man do you want? I won't say tall, or rich, or perfect. I'll say, A man who protects my feelings, Who never makes me question my worth, Who doesn't use silence to hurt me, Who never becomes the reason for my tears, Someone who listens even when my voice shakes, Who chooses me even on the hard days, Who stays gentle even when life isn't, Someone who holds my heart like it's something fragile, Who shows up, Who tries, Who cares, That's it. That's all I want. Someone kind, Someone steady, Someone who feels like home!

Not because I need someone to complete me, but because I deserve someone who complements my whole self. I want a partner, not a project. I want someone who's grown enough to handle emotions, to communicate, and to be vulnerable. I want someone who's secure enough to be gentle, to listen, and to prioritize feelings over ego.

It's not about grand gestures; it's about the small, everyday moments – a listening ear, a comforting touch, a willingness to work through the tough stuff. That's what makes a home, that's what makes a love that lasts. Kindness, empathy, and genuine care – is that too much to ask?

01/23/2026

True spirituality naturally gives rise to morality.
Not morality born from fear or obedience,
but from awareness, empathy, and inner clarity.

When you are conscious, you do what is right
because you feel its truth, not because you are commanded.
Right action comes from understanding, not instruction alone.

Spirituality does not deny the sacred.
It recognizes it everywhere.. in conscience, compassion, and the shared humanity between us.

Divinity is not distant or exclusive.
It lives in your capacity to love, to choose wisely, to do no harm.
To honor that presence within yourself
is to honor it in others as well.🌿