03/19/2026
Lent invites us to examine what still has power over us. Not just the offense itself, but the wound beneath it. The rejection. The disrespect. The message about who we are that took root in the moment we were hurt.
If we do not confront our wounds, we default to self-protection.
We minimize.
We distract.
We “forgive” quickly.
Or we blame.
We justify ourselves.
We hold grudges.
Both strategies manage pain. Neither brings freedom.
The hard work of forgiveness begins with reflection.
What did you feel?
What message did you believe about yourself?
Where else has that same message shown up in your story?
Then we connect with God. Because forgiveness is not merely psychological. It is spiritual. Christ meets us in our hurt, speaks to our shame, and reminds us who we are in Him.
When His grace is received, something shifts internally. Defenses loosen. Shame weakens. The urgency to avoid or retaliate subsides. We are no longer reacting from the wound.
Forgiveness does not excuse wrongdoing. It transforms the heart of the one who was wounded.
This Lent, where is God inviting you to do the deeper work?