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ConnectionDocs Dr. Alona Pulde and Dr. Matthew Lederman,physicians from Forks Over Knives.

I was standing in the hallway, trying to figure out how to say something “the right way” so she wouldn’t get defensive. ...
04/21/2026

I was standing in the hallway, trying to figure out how to say something “the right way” so she wouldn’t get defensive. And then I noticed… before I even spoke, I had already made her wrong. That moment shifted something for me. It helped me see that it’s not just about saying things more gently—it’s about whether we’re standing across from someone… or next to them.
I wrote more about that shift here, and how it’s changing the way I relate to the people I care about:
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/why-saying-it-nicely-still-doesnt

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with someone you love and quietly decided, “I won’t bring that up again”?T...
04/14/2026

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with someone you love and quietly decided, “I won’t bring that up again”?
That happened to me recently—and what struck me wasn’t what was said, but the story that formed afterward, and how real it felt in the moment.
It made me reflect on how easily our perception can shift, and how quickly we can start pulling away—not because love changed, but because what we’re seeing feels true.
I wrote about this experience and what it’s taught me about staying connected, even when something in us gets activated.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/when-theres-glass-in-our-eyes

At the end of a nine-day retreat, I found myself rushing to grab a card that said “connection”—like if I didn’t take it ...
04/07/2026

At the end of a nine-day retreat, I found myself rushing to grab a card that said “connection”—like if I didn’t take it quickly, it might be gone.
No one had said there was only one. But my body didn’t wait to find out.
It made me realize how often I move through life assuming there isn’t enough—and how quickly that shapes my reactions, my urgency, even my relationships.
I wrote about what that moment revealed, and what shifted when someone simply said, “Can I hold it with you?”
If you’ve ever felt that quiet pressure to secure something before it disappears, I think this will resonate.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/i-thought-there-was-only-one-card

When someone I love is hurting, I can feel this immediate pull to fix it—to reassure, solve, or make the pain go away.Bu...
03/31/2026

When someone I love is hurting, I can feel this immediate pull to fix it—to reassure, solve, or make the pain go away.
But over time, I’ve come to see that what people often need most isn’t for their pain to disappear—it’s to not be alone in it.
I wrote about what that looks like, and how hard (and meaningful) that can be:
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/how-to-be-with-someone-who-is-suffering

Have you ever had a moment where you were just being kind—and then suddenly felt yourself shrink because of how it lande...
03/18/2026

Have you ever had a moment where you were just being kind—and then suddenly felt yourself shrink because of how it landed?
I had that happen in a checkout line, and what stayed with me wasn’t the interaction itself, but how quickly I took responsibility for someone else’s reaction. It made me realize how subtle this pattern is—and how often it quietly shapes who we become in the world.
I wrote about that moment, and what I’m learning about staying open without absorbing what isn’t mine.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/when-i-felt-small-for-being-kind

For years, when Alona asked me in the morning how I slept, I would answer the same way: “Okay.” Never “great.” One day I...
03/10/2026

For years, when Alona asked me in the morning how I slept, I would answer the same way: “Okay.” Never “great.” One day I stopped and wondered why. Nothing was actually wrong in my life — but I realized I had quietly let a muted emotional baseline become the atmosphere of my days. That realization led me to a simple shift: feelings deserve a room, but they don’t deserve the whole house.
I wrote about that moment and what changed afterward.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/a-feeling-deserves-a-room-not-the

Have you ever felt so angry you could burst — and then told yourself it wasn’t a big deal?I have.There were moments when...
03/03/2026

Have you ever felt so angry you could burst — and then told yourself it wasn’t a big deal?
I have.
There were moments when I believed swallowing my anger was the mature thing to do. I thought staying agreeable would protect connection. But what I learned — slowly, and sometimes painfully — is that unspoken anger doesn’t protect relationships. It quietly erodes them.
Anger isn’t the enemy. It’s often protecting something tender underneath.
I wrote about what happens in the nervous system when anger is silenced — and why learning to metabolize it can actually deepen connection.
If this feels familiar, you can read the full piece here:
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/anger-is-not-the-enemy-suppressed

Have you ever noticed how quickly a “should” can turn someone into an enemy in your mind?I did—at the gym, of all places...
02/27/2026

Have you ever noticed how quickly a “should” can turn someone into an enemy in your mind?
I did—at the gym, of all places. A small moment. A machine. A story I built about who someone was and what they “deserved.”
What surprised me most wasn’t the conflict. It was how much of it started inside me, long before I opened my mouth.
This piece is about that chain reaction—should to enemy to punishment—and what becomes possible when we interrupt it.
If you’re interested in emotional honesty, self-awareness, and showing up differently in the moments that matter, I think you’ll appreciate this one.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/the-sh-word-that-turns-us-against

I’m nearing the age my father was when he died.There’s something about that milestone that doesn’t just live in the mind...
02/17/2026

I’m nearing the age my father was when he died.
There’s something about that milestone that doesn’t just live in the mind — it lives in the body. I can feel how fear tries to tighten around the people I love, as if bracing could somehow prevent loss.
But I’ve learned that avoiding fear doesn’t prevent loss — it only prevents aliveness.
If you’ve ever felt the calendar get loud or noticed yourself shrinking to stay safe, this piece is for you.
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/nearing-the-age-my-father-died

The other day I realized something subtle: I felt hesitant to ask for closeness from Alona… not because anything was wro...
02/10/2026

The other day I realized something subtle: I felt hesitant to ask for closeness from Alona… not because anything was wrong, but because nothing was.
No struggle.
No achievement.
No reason.
It made me see how easily love can start to feel tied to performance or need—even in connected relationships. And how powerful it is when warmth shows up without being earned.
I wrote about that moment, and what it taught my nervous system.
You can read it here:
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/love-without-a-reason

📢 Please note the new start time: We hope to see you at ✨6:00 PM✨ on Thursday, February 12 at Marble Collegiate Church i...
02/05/2026

📢 Please note the new start time: We hope to see you at ✨6:00 PM✨ on Thursday, February 12 at Marble Collegiate Church in NoMad, Manhattan.

Digestion is not just affected by what we eat, but also how we feel. Join Matthew Lederman, MD, as he covers the nervous system’s impact on:
🌱Nutrient absorption
🌱How food moves through the gut
🌱Microbiome balance

Bring your questions and get ready for a new perspective on health and well-being.

✅ Register at: bit.ly/4pTXRVD

💚 Presented by Plant Powered Metro New York in partnership with Marble Collegiate Church.

I grew up wanting to make my parents proud—not out of pressure, but out of love and a deep need for safety. What I didn’...
02/05/2026

I grew up wanting to make my parents proud—not out of pressure, but out of love and a deep need for safety. What I didn’t realize until much later was how that taught my body that saying no could cost connection. Over time, that “yes” became automatic… and quietly self-erasing. I wrote this piece to explore the hidden cost of never saying no—and how we can learn to tell the truth without abandoning ourselves. If this resonates, you can read the full piece here:
https://connectiondocs.substack.com/p/the-quiet-danger-of-not-saying-no

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