03/27/2026
Bestie, we need to talk
You do not need a partner who forces you to choose between them or your goals.
You do not need a partner who says they support you with their words, but their actions are the opposite (starting fights at night when you have to wake up early the next morning, telling you not to study, guilting you for going to work, expecting you to care the full mental load of running a household while also getting your education/working on building a career, not celebrating your wins or making your success about them)
You honestly don’t need a partner at all
Before anyone gets in the comments and calls me single and bitter, I’m happily engaged to be married (in 4 months!!!) and experiencing this true genuine love has inspired me to speak up for women who are in that uncertain time and are at a crossroads in their lives where they think they have to choose one road or the other.
Ask yourself, if being an educated woman meant you’d be single forever, why are most educated women married and have families?
I have no idea how people still so eagerly hold up this myth when it’s so clearly untrue
But I remember being where you are bestie, feeling in your heart you want to pursue your dream but also knowing you want a family. Trust me, I cried to God BEGGING him to change my heart and take away my want for family if it wasn’t meant for me.
He never did, and literally one month to the day after starting my job as an attending physician I met my fiancé, and in less than 2 years we will be married 💕
Trust your talents, trust your intelligence
Does your pool get smaller when you’re educated? Sure, but you WANT it to be, do you really want insecure partners who are looking for someone easier to control and manipulate? No! So who cares if your education filters them out?
Dating was way more fun the more educated I got and the pool I selected from was smaller but was filled with more emotionally intelligent people
You CAN have both bestie 💕
Also lemme know if you like yap sesh, I tried to make this a 10 second video but I can’t help myself, I gotta tell you ALL the things 😅